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To think that people shouldn’t wear large squirts of very very potent perfume?

137 replies

Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon · 08/10/2024 17:53

It’s the equivalent of listening to music and shite on loud speaker on public transport. Everyone around them has to suffer it.

I was actually wheezing and felt nauseous at the strength of someone’s perfume the other day and I couldn’t leave or move away from it.

FFS, why are people so self absorbed?

OP posts:
Ponderingwindow · 08/10/2024 19:37

@OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays

would you react this way to someone who asked you not to get peanut dust on them if they have a peanut allergy?

IDontHateRainbows · 08/10/2024 19:39

AlmostCutMyHairToday · 08/10/2024 19:32

When I smell such strong perfume it gives me PTSD of when I was in a chemical gas leak accident... No idea why people do it.

I'd imagine they don't know about your ptsd.

JaneEyreLaughing · 08/10/2024 19:39

Ponderingwindow · 08/10/2024 18:43

No one should wear perfume detectable to anyone other than themselves.

heavy perfume is dangerous. It absolutely sucks to start breaking out in hives, wheezing, and have your lips swell because some idiot decided to douse themselves in scent. I vacate the area as fast as I can. One day, I may not be able to get away from the person. I don’t actually know what will happen. I have epipens and inhalers, but I don’t know if they will be enough.

Have you tried wearing a diving suit and helmet?

SquatWeightaMinute · 08/10/2024 19:49

I find it really hard to train in the gym when people have over powering perfume or aftershave. What’s that about!

32nddalmation · 08/10/2024 19:49

Very much agree, it's antisocial. Even worse when people do start spraying aerosols on buses. I like perfumes, but the sheer amount that some people wear is ridiculous and has a negative impact on people around them. And, judging by this thread, some of them know that but think that asthma and migraines are self-indulgent, whereas them wearing an overwhelming and unattractive amount of artificial scent is a basic human right.

Skyrainlight · 08/10/2024 19:56

cookiebee · 08/10/2024 19:10

Decent human behaviour, like banning people from wearing fucking perfume, it’s just so god damn ridiculous. I sometimes wonder how some of the folk on mumsnet cope on the outside without melting like sugar at anything that other people do. Live and let live, and yes, don’t get stabbed 😂😂😂😂

I never said perfume should be banned. I commented on your low standards of decent human behaviour, I personally don't consider 'as long as they don't stab you' as the indicator of decency.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/10/2024 19:57

AlmostCutMyHairToday · 08/10/2024 19:32

When I smell such strong perfume it gives me PTSD of when I was in a chemical gas leak accident... No idea why people do it.

I've heard everything now. PTSD from perfume. ❄

MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/10/2024 20:01

PotatoBreadForTheWin · 08/10/2024 19:16

Never smelled a perfume that smelled worse than a dog 🤢

Agree with this. Dogs stink.

WiserOlderElf · 08/10/2024 20:20

My dog does stink sometimes, but she doesn’t use public transport.

BadPeopleFan · 08/10/2024 20:21

MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/10/2024 20:01

Agree with this. Dogs stink.

I have dogs and wear whateverperfume I fancy....shoot me🤷‍♀️

WiserOlderElf · 08/10/2024 20:23

WiserOlderElf · 08/10/2024 20:20

My dog does stink sometimes, but she doesn’t use public transport.

And neither do I, because people stink 😁

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 20:24

Ponderingwindow · 08/10/2024 19:37

@OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays

would you react this way to someone who asked you not to get peanut dust on them if they have a peanut allergy?

OP wasn't moaning because of allergies, so your argument does not apply

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 20:31

Ceilingplatter · 08/10/2024 18:57

Do you not think it’s a bit entitled to subject everyone to overpowering perfume though? One or two sprays is obviously enough

Depends on how you define overpowering. One woman's Youth Dew is another's Poison
Jo Malone's lims, basil and mandarin is 'light' but other such light perfumes smell like cat's piss
So the person wearing it, generally doesn't think it is 'overpowering', and will not think a couple of sprays is too much

Skyrainlight · 08/10/2024 20:32

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 20:24

OP wasn't moaning because of allergies, so your argument does not apply

So what exactly do you call wheezing and feeling nauseous? These are literally listed as allergy symptoms:
Allergy symptoms can include:
Respiratory symptoms: Runny nose, sneezing, coughing, wheezing, chest tightness, shortness of breath
Gastrointestinal symptoms: Tummy pain, feeling sick, vomiting, or diarrhea

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/10/2024 20:36

I have had many Compliments about my perfume at school recently

Tried the fake ones and smell nice and the same

Ans had comments of you smell nice - or is that xxxx smells lovely

Having spent many years having to smell bo or fags off people

A nice perfume smell is lovely

This year on a plane was an awful case of bo

Dh and I couildnt work it out till I swapped to the aisle seat and omfg was the bloke across the aisle. He stunk

He kept lifting arms up and stretching

Flight was delayed

Was with a female. Assume wide as both had rings. Why she didn't tell her dh he smelt is beyond me

Or maybe she is so used to it

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

Anyway perfume is a better smell

myusernamewastakenbyme · 08/10/2024 20:37

I used to love a strong perfume in the 80's....pretty sure i walked around reeking of Samsara...Poison or Opium🤣

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 20:39

Skyrainlight · 08/10/2024 20:32

So what exactly do you call wheezing and feeling nauseous? These are literally listed as allergy symptoms:
Allergy symptoms can include:
Respiratory symptoms: Runny nose, sneezing, coughing, wheezing, chest tightness, shortness of breath
Gastrointestinal symptoms: Tummy pain, feeling sick, vomiting, or diarrhea

But the allergy would be for all perfumes and the OP did not mention an allergy

Astridastro · 08/10/2024 20:40

I remember in the 80s and 90s smokers were particularly bad for this, I think they were trying to cover up the smoke smell with the strong perfumes of the day so you’d get Poison plus stale smoke, Youth Dew plus Stale Smoke, Obsession etc.

Lightsonlightsofflights · 08/10/2024 20:57

My DH has COPD and a person wearing strong perfume in the same room can affect him for days. There are so many people whose health is affected by perfume. I wish there were more perfume free zones in the same way that there are smoke free zones. It’s just not fair.
I don’t want to say it’s selfish because I genuinely don’t think people realise the impact it has on others.

Disturbia81 · 08/10/2024 21:01

I'd rather smell that than the stinky people around.

Ponderingwindow · 08/10/2024 21:02

JaneEyreLaughing · 08/10/2024 19:39

Have you tried wearing a diving suit and helmet?

Is that supposed to be funny?

do you act that way towards other allergies?

Ceilingplatter · 08/10/2024 21:03

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 20:31

Depends on how you define overpowering. One woman's Youth Dew is another's Poison
Jo Malone's lims, basil and mandarin is 'light' but other such light perfumes smell like cat's piss
So the person wearing it, generally doesn't think it is 'overpowering', and will not think a couple of sprays is too much

No one is talking about a couple of sprays being too much- it’s when people absolutely douse themselves in perfume, no matter how nice it is, that’s the issue

Broop · 08/10/2024 21:04

I worked with someone until fairly recently who doused herself in JPG every morning, and I mean DOUSED. All the rest of us in the big open plan office would sit with the windows open and she’d moan and complain about how cold it was. One of the guys responded one day that we opened them because of her perfume and she literally couldn’t believe her ears, she was extremely offended and seemed to think we were making it up, and she never reduced the amount she wore. Thick as mince.

J1Dub · 08/10/2024 21:07

I always wear a tiny amount. If someone is within hugging distance, they can smell it, but nobody else can -I've asked.

Why would anyone want to stink up a bus? There's nothing as tacky as too much perfume.

JaneEyreLaughing · 08/10/2024 21:29

Ponderingwindow · 08/10/2024 21:02

Is that supposed to be funny?

do you act that way towards other allergies?

I suggested wearing a diving suit and helmet as a practical response to a PP who declared that a whiff of strong perfume could mean that even her epi-pen and inhaler couldn't save her life!

How does she manage-unlike food allergies she cannot inform people in advance or check an ingredient list.

She could be walking down the street and suddenly, a lady wearing a blast of perfume kills her on the spot. How does she summon the courage to leave the house. I thought my suggestion was jolly practical for an allergy as severe as hers.

I have my own allergy. If I don't take some tales of woe with a pinch of salt, I am in danger of laughing. So, I carry salt everywhere I go and sometimes, ear muffs as well!

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