To think ds (4) is annoying

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He’s lovely don’t get me wrong but he does seem to really enjoy winding people up. Standing in front of the TV when people are watching it, getting in people’s faces, shouting loudly and when people express that they don’t like it enjoys doing it even more …

I do kind of worry about it or is this just a 4 yo thing?

It's kind of a prerequisite for being four years old that you're also an annoying little git to some people (and naturally behave like an angel for Grandma so she mutters about you being too hard on him or some such).

That’s kind of reassuring!

All 4 year olds are annoying.

My beloved 4 year old is intensely annoying. He constantly asks questions he knows the answer to then says 'what?' when you respond, like he hasn't heard, when he full well has. He also makes constant noise, ignores me when I'm speaking to him and is incredibly pedantic. I assume it's in the job description of a 4 year old 🤷🏼‍♀️

It's his age.

You’ve put my mind at rest!

It's his age but also you need to parent the annoying out of him.

I do try but I feel I’m on him constantly which in turn I worry is damaging for our relationship.

Normal for his age but saying "don't do that, I don't like it" is not discipline, which they need.

How would you go about it? Genuinely interested.

It’s attention seeking, they like to be in the limelight no matter if it’s negative. My youngest 21 now we all still remember him being totally annoying his sisters still haven’t forgiven him😂

Yes definitely some attention seeking there I think!

God, my 6yo is the. most. annoying. He's handsy, he's farty, he talks annoying rubbish, he gets within like 2 INCHES of your face to talk to you, and he is SO LOUD and SO HIGH PITCHED. I love him desperately. I'd kill for him. I'd die for him. But Jesus sometimes I just need him out of my face for five fucking minutes.

It's not damaging your relationship so don't worry about that. If he's not doing as he's told after the first ask give him a consequence "If you don't move from the TV you'll lose your iPad time today" give him a chance to move it he doesn't move "no iPad time today you didn't do as you were told" and don't comfort him when he's upset.

Oh I hear all this … was feeling horrible! I main worry is him annoying teachers and his friends like this.

I am yet to find a consequence he gaf about. But will keep trying!

I don't have any easy answers for you I'm afraid. The main thing that works so far is having his older brother around, and then the annoying energy is focused mostly on him. He does have friends, although I think he could have more if he toned down the annoying. Definitely an attention-seeking thing; he plays the class clown in school. We do consequences and consistent messages, and I am thoroughly tired of snapping "indoor voice" and "hands to yourself" and "do NOT get so close to people's faces" and "go to the toilet". He does this thing where he sticks his hand right between my upper thighs, and it's clearly a self-soothing gesture, but I absolutely hate it. I'm hoping he grows out of it, tbh.

Don't worry about the teachers, they're very much used to it and will give him consequences for his behaviour.

Mine does grab. He grabs his sisters face all the time, he grabs at me and tries to climb up me, he treats my legs like a fireman’s pole.

I feel so mean but it’s good I’m not alone tbh.

It’s a four year old’s job to be annoying.

Then they get promoted to five and it’s worse

Noooooo 😟😟

My (soon to be) 4 year old is a monster! He winds his 2 sisters (and us parents) up no end, but his older brother has unlimited patience with him, and finds him hilarious. So we let him do the parenting. Only joking of course, but I would like it if he could just take over until little horror is about 6 or 7. Ds(4) is also very funny and knows that he can usually make us laugh when we're cross, and so the cycle continues.

Who is he doing this with? It sounds like he just wants some attention. Instead of telling him off I would play a game with him.

My brother was like this when he was 4. He’s 38 now and I still won’t sit next to him at the dinner table 😂

All kids are annoying.