Insisting on boyfriend joining nights out

[Sunnydaze22]

A group of old work friends I am part of (6 of us) meet up a couple of times a year for food or a catch up.

Since the end of last year one of the group started inviting their boyfriend along. At first it was for a meal with four of us. He barely said a word apart from to talk to his partner, despite many attempts to include him in the convo. I thought he must of been shy.

A few months ago we had a larger night out where he was there again. I tried several times to talk to him but he literally ignored me, and honestly made me feel really uncomfortable

We are due to meet next month for food, and a catch up. And the first thing my friend posted was - "I'll only come if my boyfriend can come".

I haven't replied yet, but honestly don't want to spend another night with him.

Am I being off for thinking this is strange behaviour and likewise none of the other five of us have ever invited or suggested having our partners come along.

I need to decide whether to go and just try and focus on the others or again like a few months ago come up with an excuse not to go and miss out on seeing my other friends.

You have triggered a long ago memory for me. An old school friend ended up with a BF she used to bring along to everything. It peaked when she tuned up to a 30 birthday of our mates with him in tow who were having a girls night out. What transpired is she wasn’t allowed out without him and he was also physically abusing her. Only stopped when he was hitting her in the street and a member of the public called the Police, she hadn’t told any of us.

Try and get her by herself to talk to her, don’t msg he may monitor her phone. If she works in an environment where you could drop in do that.

Why would you go and find a 5 month old thread to answer? People don't look at the dates until the end (if at all), so they waste time reading and responding to an OP about something in the past.

I ended up not going and not saying anything.

There was another meet up planned for next month and of course she booked tickets for them as a couple as then offered others to come along to a concert and food. No other couples were considered or invited.

TBH, I don't think I want to waste an evening being stuck with his grumpy face even if it means I don't see my friends. Which is a real shame. I also never speak to her anymore despite repeated attempts from me.