Would you send reception child to school today ? Illness related

[savetheday]

My threshold for illness and sending my child to nursery has always been very low. So any slight issue, I tend to keep her home.

She's started school now and her brother has had a fever for a few days. She woke up today and I took her temperature at 38. I told her she may not be able to go to school today and she was distraught because she's going to miss her friends, bless her.

Anyway, she's downstairs now and the temp seems to have come down on its own at around 37.4, some times 37.7.

In my opinion, she should not go in today.

What would you do ?

As I said, my usual threshold is low but I understand that now she's at school - she'll sometimes need to go in even with a sore throat or something but I draw the line at waking up with a fever ? To me that means she's not well and coming down with something.

She says she doesn't have pain anywhere.

@nosmartphone no child has that many fevers ? What are you talking about ? I haven't even mentioned how many fevers she has or I had ?

I don't get your point here. She's now almost 5, so I expect there will be fewer fevers this what than last year.

My two year old has fevers sometimes. He has one now and he had the last one at the beginning of September. Both times he missed nursery because he was miserable. My daughter wasn't miserable today, at first I thought she was but she was ok- so I sent her.

Your post is flippant and not informed.

No you’re not an idiot at all. You are wise and considerate and there are those of us who appreciate it.

Your son is unwell which also casts perspective on your DD’s temperature.

what? he's not that sick. I keep him off when he is unwell and I keep a record. If they were to decide it was too many times, I will present that to them.

His attendance level is good, and would be even better if others didn't 'crack on' and send their sick kids in to share their illnesses to him.

It'll just be the child who suffers then. 37 isn't a fever.

You're right, it's not. But 38 is, which is what the temperature we've been discussing was.

DD has come back from school with 39 fever.

There was definitely something up this morning.

She seems ok in herself but just tried.

I hope she and your little boy are better soon x

He's been so bad today ! Ear infection. I went to the GP.

@longapple thanks for your well wishes btw, I forgot to say. It's that time of year isn't it.. it's all taking off again with these winter bugs !

My mum is really having a go at me that I let her go swimming when I knew she wasn't quite right.

Surely swimming isn't going to make any illness she already had, actually worse and more serious, right ??

I hope both your children are feeling better soon, @savetheday . I’m sorry you’ve had a hard time with some people on here and now your mum as well. It can be tricky knowing whether to send them or not, especially when they’re as little as yours and less able to keep going if they feel under the weather. DD used to get ear infections every couple of months or more from when she was around a year old until she got grommets at 5. She had to be off quite a lot because of that plus she was born very prematurely and still has a weak immune system so she catches things easily and things hit her hard. As she’s got older I’ve had times where I’ve tried to get her to school not realising just how awful she’s feeling and by the time she’s actually got there she’s had to come back with me - I’m not one to want to make her go if she's clearly feeling rubbish but there’s a lot of pressure about attendance. A fever is something I would keep her off for.

Of course it’s not. Nanas bang on about stuff like this and you know when their own kids were little you’d have to be at deaths door to be kept at home 😂

@Phonicshaskilledmeoff my mum is OBSESSED with stuff like this causing pneumonia and bad illnesses... I normally take it with a pinch of salt but I am exhausted today from being up since 3 am. She really freaked me out.

' well hopefully she doesn't get something REALLY REALLY bad ' ' I can't believe you let her go swimming ' ... etc etc

Your mum is just stirring the pot, my DD was a competitive swimmer from a very young age, she sometimes trained then came down with a virus a day later, she never had pneumonia due to it (and she's a chronic asthmatic so her weak spot is her chest). I wish them both a speedy recovery (and you some sleep!)

my mum is OBSESSED with stuff like this causing pneumonia and bad illnesses..

This probably explains why you feel anxious in relation to them being poorly (or not actually poorly).

Why'd you even tell her?

so sorry about your mum's reaction.
unhelpful, and quite usual.

hope your daughter perks up

40 degrees fever now for my DD.

Surely I can't send her to school in the morning..

I’m not sure why you would even need to ask this. Of course now, she shouldn’t have gone this morning either.
home, fluids and calpol if needed.

I wasn't really asking but I thought that for sure that someone would come out of the woodwork and say that she can go in if she's ' fine ' in the morning.

I am undecided if she should have gone in or not yesterday. She was coming down with something but it hasn't properly arrived yet. Now it has arrived..

She’s probably fine, just a cold, but no school at 40, and keep a close eye on her. Ring 111 for advice (I’d do now rather than later as will only get busier) but I suspect they will say to ring back if creeps up higher, lasts longer than a couple days or she develops other symptoms. Don’t think gp will bother seeing you yet x

Yeah I'm sure it's just the same thing my son has. She doesn't seem to have any other symptoms though which is a slight concern, but I assume they'll come later. She's watching TV and talking, rather than being really down.

She says her chest hurts though and she seems to be feeling nauseous as she asked for a bucket and said she needs to ' spit '. That's what she calls it:.

Obviously not. And I've seen your other post saying someone would come out of the 'woodwork' to say she should go in today. But you were not given bad advice on here yesterday, you were being over cautious, today she is ill. Not sure why you want to nit pick at the reasonable advice you were given. Next time don't ask if you don't want the comments I guess 🤷‍♀️

You know your child best and in future if this happens I'd keep her off. In my experience if a child feels hot to the touch it usually means they're coming down with something even if their actual temperature hasn't gone up yet. Kids can go downhill quite fast and in a class of 30 they may be overlooked and left feeling awful most of the day. I hope both of them are feeling better soon.

If you knew that you shouldn't have told her. Just don't tell her next time.