Would you send reception child to school today ? Illness related

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My threshold for illness and sending my child to nursery has always been very low. So any slight issue, I tend to keep her home.

She's started school now and her brother has had a fever for a few days. She woke up today and I took her temperature at 38. I told her she may not be able to go to school today and she was distraught because she's going to miss her friends, bless her.

Anyway, she's downstairs now and the temp seems to have come down on its own at around 37.4, some times 37.7.

In my opinion, she should not go in today.

What would you do ?

As I said, my usual threshold is low but I understand that now she's at school - she'll sometimes need to go in even with a sore throat or something but I draw the line at waking up with a fever ? To me that means she's not well and coming down with something.

She says she doesn't have pain anywhere.

My advice is stop taking her temp and go by how she seems, and give some calpol for good luck 👍🏻

Send her in, tell school her brother has been unwell ask them to keep an eye on her and call you if needs be.

Are you apprehensive about the trip OP? Seems like there's more to this.

I wouldn't even consider not sending her in

Did she have any calpol or ibuprofen when her temperature was 38?

If not, and it’s come down if it’s own volition, then I wouldn’t hesitate to send her in to school!! Tell the teacher that her brother is unwell and, if she becomes poorly, you’ll happily come and collect her!. If she has had it, I would keep her home today as you don’t know whether it would have gone higher without the meds!

Stop posting and get her ready

Should her brother even be off if he just has a bit of a cough? How are you defining on and off fever?

Please try to get her in for her trip!!

No not at all. I'm just worried we are going to be late now and I don't want to make them late for their trip. They explicitly said that the kids need to be on time

I'd send her in no hesitation and I'd not have been taking her temperature. A too poorly for school child is almost always quite obvious and they will quickly tell you. From what you describe she hasn't got a fever.

You'll soon get in trouble with attendance levels if your threshold is so low. Take her in, even if you're a bit late.

To be fair to you though, I do remember though at nursery it would be them saying don't bring the child in so it's a bit different, school is more like don't keep them off unless they're dead.

Get off here and get her ready. She seems fine.

Is she unwell?

I’d send her in as her temperature is below the threshold for her to be sent home.

TRUST ME on this please- she’s going to pick up loads of bugs and illnesses and will need to stay at home in the future. The last thing you want is the school calling you out on the amount of absences she has.

Stop dithering then and crack on with getting her ready. How long does it take to get there? She's not ill and she's going to be gutted to miss her friends and the trip. There's zero reason for her to be at home.

My 6 year old had diarrhoea on Wednesday night so I had to keep her at home Thursday and Friday. She was totally fine on Friday and missing her friends. Was so tempted to send her in. No way would I be keeping her at home for one dodgy temp reading.

Maybe stop wasting time posting here and taking her temp and just get ready?

Get off here and get to the trip. Pack their breakfast in Tupperware for the car if needs be.
from what you’ve said, the brother would t be staying off school either in our house.

Send her in, school will call you if she becomes unwell, which she doesn't sound like she is at the moment.

What time does she start school? It's only 7.20! Get her ready and send her in, she's fine and she wants to go, your anxiety about health is not a reason to keep her off OP. Save the sick days for when she's sick because they are coming.

You're the one delaying things OP.
Very simple, if she's unwell at school they'll simply call you to collect her from either the trip location or school.

It won't hold the trip up, they'll go when they go- you should be rushing around rather than posting on here if this is genuinely the concern.

Op, kindly, put mumsnet down and get your daughter there. If it's trip she's going to miss thats a real shame as those sort of activities are the highlight at that age.

She doesn't have a temperature now.

If you follow that link through, the NHS defines fever as 38°c in children.

Thermometers are not that accurate - often give different readings. Was there any need to check it? - I would only do it for an obviously poorly child. If she seems well in herself, send her in. School will contact you if necessary. It sets a bit of a precedent if you start keeping them off for very minor stuff.

How can she be late? Quick wash, shove her uniform on, brush her hair and out the door. 20 minutes if you get on with it.

She needs to go in, but I also agree that there seems to be more to it. Are you missing her too much or something, now that she’s started school? Do you have health anxiety?

It basically sounds like you have already decided she's not going, because presumably you've not continued with your normal morning routine, if you're now going to be late?

It wouldn't really have occurred to me to keep her off in the circumstances you describe. I don't have a thermometer so unless they're really warm and/or have some other symptoms, I wouldn't keep them home. I wouldn't know if their temp had gone from 37.5 to 38 for example.