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to think that my friend should pay petrol money?

60 replies

ellideb · 22/04/2008 18:09

I'd aranged for me, my friend and her child out for the day to a funhouse along with one of my mindees. I'd texted her about 4 days before the outing to tell her how much the admission fees would be and also if she could contribute £3 towards petrol. She didn't reply to that txt but I'd asked her if she'd received it a few days later hoping she would mention something about the petrol money. she had got it but never said anything about it. We've just come back from the funhouse and she hasn't given me anything towards the petrol. Now AIBU to be annoyed? Should I have asked at all? How can I ask for the money off her without seeming mean? Should I just let it go?

OP posts:
cazboldy · 22/04/2008 18:10

YABU

it's £3 ffs

and you were going anyway weren't you????

maidamess · 22/04/2008 18:11

Its £3!!! Do you drive a taxi??

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 22/04/2008 18:11

Are you prepared to lose your friendship for £3.?

You were going anyway, sorry but that post makes you look very tight.

avenanap · 22/04/2008 18:12

Is your friendship worth this?
I would offer some petrol money, but that's just me.

OverMyDeadBody · 22/04/2008 18:12

It's only £3. You need to let it go, especially if you where going anyway.

Nagapie · 22/04/2008 18:14

It depends on how cheeky you want to be and how far you want to push this. You did mention it to her and she has totally ignored your request.

Yes I would be annoyed and she obviously thinks she doesn't owe you for petrol.

Personally, I would chalk it up to experience ...

MummyDoIt · 22/04/2008 18:14

Was it a one-off or do you regularly take her on long trips? If it's a one-off (or very infrequent thing) and you were going anyway then I think YABU. If you frequently take her to places that are a long distance away then ask if, in future, you can share petrol costs. Let it go this time, though. It's only £3 and not worth causing bad feeling over.

Twiglett · 22/04/2008 18:15

petrol money from a friend?

I think you should let it go tbh

VanillaPumpkin · 22/04/2008 18:16

Yes. You were going anyway and invited her along. You cannot charge her petrol IMO. And £3, for half the petrol. Where were you going too???
If she had asked for a lift then she should have offered petrol but no way otherwise. Sorry YABU!

DirtySexyMummy · 22/04/2008 18:17

Is this a joke? Petrol money from a friend, from anyone ffs?! And £3

YABvvvvvU and vvvSilly as well.

nametaken · 22/04/2008 18:17

if I go out with a friend and she drives I always get us a coffee or pay for the parking or something small just to show my appreciation.

If any of my friends asked me for £3 for petrol I'd give it to them and never go again.

Sorry but YABU.

mum2sons · 22/04/2008 18:18

YABU. You are going anyway so the journey/petrol will be the same regardless of whether she goes with. I would never charge a friend for petrol, it comes across as tight.

windygalestoday · 22/04/2008 18:19

YABU - my sons get a lift from a woman i vaguely know- she wont take anything saying if i pay her it becomes a job not a favour and shed rather me owe her a favour in case shes stuck one day herself .....£3??? get a grip

goingfor3 · 22/04/2008 18:19

£3!!!! Let it go. How would you feel if a friend invited you to thier house and charged you for the meal, it's the same sort of thing to me.

NorthernLurker · 22/04/2008 18:20

£3 for petrol and assuming your half of petrol that's a total of £6 spent on petrol then - how far away was this place?

muggglewump · 22/04/2008 18:20

YABU
You invited her along and you were going anyway. It just makes you sound stingey

Squirdle · 22/04/2008 18:21

I would never take petrol money from a friend..in fact not from anyone.

I know £3 to some people may be a lot of money, but if this is the case then you should have just gone to the park instead of forking out for funhouses...parks are free.

YABVU

avenanap · 22/04/2008 18:22

My next door neighbour gives my ds and I a lift to school almost every morning. I have offered her some money towards the petrol on several occasions and she has never accepted. She say's she's going there anyway. I repay her by looking after her son and cooking for her when she's unwell. This is what friends do. If she's a taker then ask. If she does things for you then don't.

Flamesparrow · 22/04/2008 18:26

Petrol money between Bournemouth and London we split... £3 to a fun house??

Lauriefairycake · 22/04/2008 18:26

depends how skint you are.

I read it that you had arranged an outing for all of you, I didn't automatically assume you were going anyway. Will the parent of the child you are minding also be paying towards the cost of the day - that would make more sense to me.

Flamesparrow · 22/04/2008 18:27

Did she pay for the admission?

Squirdle · 22/04/2008 18:28

Yes, that makes sense Flame. I do what nametaken does and pay for parking or coffee if a friend drives.

DoubleBluff · 22/04/2008 18:31

I wouldn't dream of asking for money if I had invited a friend along. I would be offended if a friend did this to me.
If mate drives i would buy her a drink and would hope for the same.

fieryfiery · 22/04/2008 18:39

I would be livid if you were my friend.
3 quid for petrol money?
Have you eaten and drunk in her house?
You are either extremely hard up or a bit stingy

DirtySexyMummy · 22/04/2008 18:43

elliedeb - are you there?

I am thinking this is not for real..