to think that my friend should pay petrol money?

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I'd aranged for me, my friend and her child out for the day to a funhouse along with one of my mindees. I'd texted her about 4 days before the outing to tell her how much the admission fees would be and also if she could contribute £3 towards petrol. She didn't reply to that txt but I'd asked her if she'd received it a few days later hoping she would mention something about the petrol money. she had got it but never said anything about it. We've just come back from the funhouse and she hasn't given me anything towards the petrol. Now AIBU to be annoyed? Should I have asked at all? How can I ask for the money off her without seeming mean? Should I just let it go?

how far did you go?
when we go anywhere with friends, we never share petrol money, but, we are lucky that none of said friends are on th ebreadline, iyswim. however, on th eplanned trip to bluewater, when it does happen, we will all contribute something.
if you want the money, ask for it. or let it go. no sense in feeling miserable about it.

Its a bit tight.

My DH took some friends to a fun house today. He did two trips, they offered petrol money prior to the trip, but never actually came up with the cash.

It would have also been about £3.00. Its no big deal. They dont have a car.

What are friends for?

YABU, dds friend and her mum often come out with us on day trips and it's never crossed my mind to ask her for money towards petrol as we would be going anyway and just ask her if she would like to come with us.

Well, we're on the breadline and wouldn't think of asking someone for money for a lift.

DH has given some of the mums at nursery a lift - he mostly works afternoons, evenings and weekends.

So what? They don't have a car and public transport, even in the town, is dear and not very efficient.

It's not like he's taking them to London to do their shopping.

if it's the last straw and she often does this and assumes that you will drive/pay and never offers to contribute in kind, pay parking, buy you a coffee etc then I can see how it would start to rankle. But otherwise, I'd let it go, it's not worth getting het up about for a one time occurrence.

oh come on folks. this is not about £3 it is about a principal. if some one is taking the piss why shouldn't they pay for the privelage.

the only time we have ever split petrol money was on a driving holiday to italy and the south of france.

YABU!

Yes but it doesn't really sound like the friend is taking the piss unless she regularly doesn't pay for things.

if they're taking the piss, then why bother inviting them along any more?

i mean, why continue to hang out with someone who makes you feel they're taking advantage of you?