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ladykale · 06/10/2024 17:08

@Whatevers approx 5% of secondary schools are grammar schools - would you suggest a similar cap for those students?

It's a silly debate because many more private schools are academically selective, so it's obvious based on that alone that they would be overrepresented in further education / at top universities.

Children of parents who give a sh*t are also overrepresented even if you look at state sector only... shall we try to introduce some sort of cap for that too?

cardibach · 06/10/2024 17:11

Niceeyessweetheart · 06/10/2024 16:21

I disagree. It makes education even more elitist. Those who can afford the top public schools will always afford to do so. It is the smaller independents who will shut where many have chosen to meet specific need and they can just about scrape the fees.

The education system, in it's current form, is not equal. It is a postcode lottery mixed in with some grammar areas. There is no level playing field and many of those who have their DC at really good state schools have also paid to be there. It's just not as transparent.

Having fewer independent schools makes those schools more elitist, not the whole system. Though I agree there are inequalities now - that’s why major, targeted investment is needed alongside this policy.

cardibach · 06/10/2024 17:12

whoknowswhattodonow · 06/10/2024 16:47

If you think the arguments are daft, come do my job. I teach at a feeder school and currently have 33 children squashed into my tiny classroom with one adult help, sometimes. I won't list all the SEND I have in my class but tell me how this is better? It doesn't feel better when I try to make sure active has understood the learning. It doesn't feel better when I'm using my precious time to mark their work. It doesn't feel better when I'm sitting for hours on parents nights. It doesn't feel better when I'm looking for enough resources.
Please, please do tell me how this is better!

I’m not sure why you are directing this at me. I’m the one saying that state schools need more investment.

Giraffebasket · 06/10/2024 17:15

Applebutt3r · 06/10/2024 17:07

Not when the unfairness is concerning students with the same grades.

I believe selection is based more than on grades? I seriously doubt people at Oxford are running their hands together in glee turning down state school students... As @ladykale mentions it is likely due to other related factors - life experiences like holidays, investing in activities, exposure to science, the theatre etc. Private schools do provide a lot of enriching experiences, but other state school parents go out of their way to make sure their children don't miss out. I know parents who massively sacrifice to make sure their children get to go to the theatre or museums...

Whatevers · 06/10/2024 17:16

ladykale · 06/10/2024 17:08

@Whatevers approx 5% of secondary schools are grammar schools - would you suggest a similar cap for those students?

It's a silly debate because many more private schools are academically selective, so it's obvious based on that alone that they would be overrepresented in further education / at top universities.

Children of parents who give a sh*t are also overrepresented even if you look at state sector only... shall we try to introduce some sort of cap for that too?

I think you’ll find I’m on the other side of the argument. I was only teasing the other poster. What people really don’t notice is that 93% is all students. Private schools educate 20% of 6th formers. Also many courses require a student to have studied particular subjects at Alevel that state schools don’t teach like Russian or Latin or philosophy. State schools usually prioritise the most competitive subjects like maths and English. I think they need to take out the niche subjects that state schools don’t prepare students for to make a clearer comparison.

Applebutt3r · 06/10/2024 17:17

Giraffebasket · 06/10/2024 17:15

I believe selection is based more than on grades? I seriously doubt people at Oxford are running their hands together in glee turning down state school students... As @ladykale mentions it is likely due to other related factors - life experiences like holidays, investing in activities, exposure to science, the theatre etc. Private schools do provide a lot of enriching experiences, but other state school parents go out of their way to make sure their children don't miss out. I know parents who massively sacrifice to make sure their children get to go to the theatre or museums...

I don’t think going to museums really cuts it with UCAS. No uni should be selecting on holidays and trips to the theatre.

Giraffebasket · 06/10/2024 17:21

Applebutt3r · 06/10/2024 17:17

I don’t think going to museums really cuts it with UCAS. No uni should be selecting on holidays and trips to the theatre.

That's not what I'm saying.

Selection isn't based simply on grades
There are interviews.
The way students do better at these is by having enriching experiences and discussion.
Private schools do provide these. So do many state school parents.

Applebutt3r · 06/10/2024 17:28

Giraffebasket · 06/10/2024 17:21

That's not what I'm saying.

Selection isn't based simply on grades
There are interviews.
The way students do better at these is by having enriching experiences and discussion.
Private schools do provide these. So do many state school parents.

I thought UCAS had done away with the personal statement and was now focusing on 3 questions not enrichment- Why do you want to study this course, How have your studies helped prepare and What else have you done to prepare?

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 17:41

Forgot to quote poster.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 17:42

Valeriekat · 06/10/2024 13:30

You clearly don't understand that it the is largely the type of parent that makes a good school however hard the teachers work.

Of course I understand that which is why it is not fair that only people who can afford to buy near a good school get to go to those schools. If it was done by lottery then the parents who are interested in their children's education would be split between all the schools and the children of poorer parents would get a fair chance. At the moment, they have no chance and it will get even worse when all the parents who can't afford the VAT buy up houses near the good schools.

Afterrain · 06/10/2024 17:43

Another76543 · 06/10/2024 17:05

Many have worked in the state sector previously and wouldn’t return. They are likely to be driven abroad. This article highlights the “classroom brain drain”. Teachers are leaving in droves. Many private schools are increasingly expanding overseas so it will be fairly easy for them to transfer overseas. This country is driving people away.

https://apple.news/Af0-fwPd0RCGj8PA2NxWHOA

Actually, I have taught in both sectors and overseas. We travelled a great deal with DH assignments.
Many choose to work in International or private schools overseas and enjoy the ex pat life.

Some emigrate and settle overseas.
In my experience many also come back to the UK for many reasons.

I know quite a few who have returned from the Middle East in the last year. Along with at least two who had been teaching in Russia.

I suppose the grass is always greener!

Whatevers · 06/10/2024 17:52

If two candidates for a classics degree have the same UCAS grade and one has been learning Latin since year 3 and Greek since year 7 and has an excellent grasp of it as in he/she can translate the Iliad and the other state schooler has no clue, who should get the place? At some point in life a judgement has to be made. Public school students have provided the raw material that built elite U.K. universities for centuries. State schools advocates now want a thumb on the scale because they can’t, despite knowing for decades what they need to do, make their students good enough. I actually think at some time Oxford and/or Cambridge might leave this system.

prestolondon · 06/10/2024 18:03

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 17:42

Of course I understand that which is why it is not fair that only people who can afford to buy near a good school get to go to those schools. If it was done by lottery then the parents who are interested in their children's education would be split between all the schools and the children of poorer parents would get a fair chance. At the moment, they have no chance and it will get even worse when all the parents who can't afford the VAT buy up houses near the good schools.

This is exactly what is going to happen. People will buy properties near the best state schools. I know I would. It’s a win win, nice house, near a great school, leaving plenty of money to travel etc. It’s a no brainer.

prestolondon · 06/10/2024 18:04

Imagine having £30-40k a year spare by simply moving.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:10

prestolondon · 06/10/2024 18:03

This is exactly what is going to happen. People will buy properties near the best state schools. I know I would. It’s a win win, nice house, near a great school, leaving plenty of money to travel etc. It’s a no brainer.

Exactly, so the poor kids whose parents can't afford to buy a house near a good school (like my parents when I was a child) will lose out.

Thanks a lot Labour.

cardibach · 06/10/2024 18:13

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:10

Exactly, so the poor kids whose parents can't afford to buy a house near a good school (like my parents when I was a child) will lose out.

Thanks a lot Labour.

But you’re ok with the poor kids whose parents can’t afford private school?

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:24

cardibach · 06/10/2024 18:13

But you’re ok with the poor kids whose parents can’t afford private school?

But the parents of poor kids can't afford lots of things, not just education. No-one says that it is unfair that they can't afford a Porsche.

The school admissions system should be a genuine lottery so that parents priced out of private schools can't buy up the houses around good school so that poor kids like I was can't get in to a good school.

I hope Labour makes it a lotery does this but I think that they are too stupid to realise what is going to happen with their policy of envy.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:44

cardibach · 06/10/2024 18:13

But you’re ok with the poor kids whose parents can’t afford private school?

Actually a better example is organic food. Should we put VAT on organic fruit and veg because poor people can't afford to buy it?

mugboat · 06/10/2024 18:47

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:44

Actually a better example is organic food. Should we put VAT on organic fruit and veg because poor people can't afford to buy it?

how is that even a comparible analogy?

twistyizzy · 06/10/2024 18:47

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:44

Actually a better example is organic food. Should we put VAT on organic fruit and veg because poor people can't afford to buy it?

VAT is ridiculous anyway ie ice cream is zero rated whereas frozen yoghurt isn't

mugboat · 06/10/2024 18:49

IMustDoMoreExercise · 06/10/2024 18:10

Exactly, so the poor kids whose parents can't afford to buy a house near a good school (like my parents when I was a child) will lose out.

Thanks a lot Labour.

we can't afford to move, but my daughter got into an excellent school this year because the catchments increased. There are 2 spare places in her class too, this is because of the low birth rate.

mugboat · 06/10/2024 18:49

prestolondon · 06/10/2024 18:03

This is exactly what is going to happen. People will buy properties near the best state schools. I know I would. It’s a win win, nice house, near a great school, leaving plenty of money to travel etc. It’s a no brainer.

that being the case, why aren't they all doing this already?

prestolondon · 06/10/2024 18:51

cardibach · 06/10/2024 18:13

But you’re ok with the poor kids whose parents can’t afford private school?

Seriously you cannot have it both ways, instead of saying poor kids cannot go to PS, how about poor kids can’t get a decent state school which should be a basic request.

posters here say, can’t afford the 20 rise, too bad, save or pull your kids out.

you also forget PS help pay for poorer kids to go to their schools, I don’t see the state helping in that regard. That will definitely be withdrawn. Buts it’s ok, state parents will get a few crumbs of toast and basic concentrated orange juice (they will not actually get it but is a vote winner)

people forget it took a footballer to highlight the lack of school meals and now suddenly people believe this govt will care. I think they showed their caring nature with fuel allowance changes

twistyizzy · 06/10/2024 18:52

mugboat · 06/10/2024 18:49

that being the case, why aren't they all doing this already?

They are hence the drop in Indy intake this year!!

Whatafustercluck · 06/10/2024 18:53

WowSpeechless · 06/10/2024 11:57

My daughter has two terms left in a private school - and the way things are going if vat introduction is moved to Sept 2025 we won't be paying the vat because she would have finished school by then.

So we'll be out of the system and not subject to the vat - would it not make more sense to keep us in the system by increases taxes towards education? Would it not make sense for all of us to pay more taxes towards improving education for all and for children with sen needs? Not just a few? I don't even understand why if parents with sen needs applying for an EHCP know how hard and how long it takes to get one - why they would want these private school sen kids back in the state school system because that's going to lead to even longer time frames for kids applying for EHCP.

To answer your question, a lot of children with SEN needs (especially girls with ADHD/autism) mask at school and fall apart at home each night - state school systems are overwhelmed - they don't have the interest or resources to help kids masking sen at school to the extent they will help with an EHCP.

I did not even know an EHCP existed until my daughter was already in a private school - and when I asked both the council and got free advice from a sen lawyer - they said not to bother because it would take ages / cost a lot of money and time and most EHCP's are understandably about finding government schools to suit a child's needs and it didn't make sense to move our daughter's to a third high school and it was also during her GCSE years .

Most of the kids in private school for their SEN needs have mild SEN - children masking ADHD/Autism, Dyslexia etc - as part of this SEN they have issues with change / socialisation / sensory issues in large class sizes etc so moving schools and friendship groups is a HUGE deal for them. Stuff that is not obvious to the rest of the world (so difficult to get an EHCP) but is a child with SEN's whole world. My daughter used to come home from school and go to her room and lie down on her bed with the lights off for the rest of the evening to overcome her sensory overload. I suggested she wear headphones in class - a) her sensory issues meant wearing headphones were uncomfortable and b) as a teen she was not keen to look different. The smaller class sizes means she doesn't suffer so much with sensory overload. She also has social communication issues which led to bullying as she was quirky / different / more vulnerable to the other kids. But since lots of kids are in private school systems due to SEN needs she is not alone in her quirkiness - in fact its kind of considered the norm so these kids are not as isolated as they make friends with other neurodiverse kids.

You've described my dd perfectly. She fell apart to the extent that she avoided school altogether for a whole term. We can't afford to pay private, so we had to fight for our ehcp to prove she needed one (thankfully, her not being in school focused their attention). We got it, they put in place changes, she's now thriving in mainstream. Much of the improvement has come from our own increases awareness, understanding and support.

I agree actually that income tax should be raised to improve education and SEN provision for all (and mental health services too). But I don't think many private school parents would agree with that either somehow.

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