To be annoyed at my friend for arranging drinks with strangers on holiday

[Sundaycoffee]

On holiday at an AI resort with a friend.
We had a brief chat with a couple of ladies in the lift yesterday when we arrived, who happened to be a few doors down from our hotel room.
My friend came back from the pool bar today to say she had bumped into them again and told them we would be at the bar for 7pm tonight if they would like to join us for a cocktail.
I'm not one for making "friends" on holiday and found it a bit rude and presumptuous that my friend had just made these arrangements without having any kind of conversation with me first...AIBU?

Then say “thanks for the invite but I would rather not”

She can’t force you to make friends but at the same time you can’t stop her.

Could be a laugh?

You're probably not, no.

But I'm your friend - I'd have cheerily invited strangers along for the evening.

It's one cocktail 🤷🏻‍♀️ doesn't seem like such a big deal imo. She's not signed you up for a time share.

I'd go along as a one off but if you don't fancy it again make it clear to your friend to check with you first. It is a bit rude of her. She must know you & how you might feel

Dint go then. You're not joined at the hip,

I highly doubt it would be one cocktail!

It would annoy me. But I don’t actually think your friend is being unreasonable either.

Yeah I get this, but the alternative would be sitting in my hotel room on my own which I didn't want to be doing. I want to go to the bar on holiday and have a drink. So what, I just sit at a separate table on my own several feet away from them? So I almost feel like my choices are fairly limited!

Nothing ventured etc You might actually enjoy their company .

Holiday rules apply. You talk to random people as if they're your besties.

Yabu and antisocial.

You don’t own your friend.

One drink won’t hurt. I think you should make the effort this time and if you don’t like their company tell your friend.

I never said I owned her 🤣 she's the one inviting people to join "us" for drinks without checking I was cool with it first.

I’m not one for making friends on holiday either but I’d go and see what they were like. If you don’t want to do it again then talk to your friend or make plans to go to the bar at a different time.

She doesn’t need to really.

She wants to hang out with them, so yes, your choices are limited to - don’t go to that bar; go and sit separately to them; go and hang out with them. I don’t see which other option you think you ought to have.

Fgs just do it .. you never know you might enjoy it ! If you don't after one drink you can excuse yourself for a 'pre arranged call from Parents/kids/catsitter..

I can be pretty antisocial but to plan to spend a whole holiday only spending time with one person - even I can see that’s unreasonable

Are you boring her at all?

I don't feel i am being unreasonable wanting to spend my holiday how I want to spend it. I socialise a lot at home and just want to come on holiday and zone out and not have to make small talk with randoms 🤣 if my friend wants to meet them separately then fine, but she invited them to plans we already had made together without asking me first

Maybe! 🤣

Yabmu

What difference does it make one night if you talk to / sit with other people?

Your view is a bit weird.

I've met some really lovely people on holiday and I'm pretty antisocial.

How long are you away for? I couldn’t last a whole week just socialising with one friend, that would be really intense for me. If it was a few days I would be fine and wouldn’t invite others to join us.