To be annoyed at my friend for arranging drinks with strangers on holiday

[Sundaycoffee]

On holiday at an AI resort with a friend.
We had a brief chat with a couple of ladies in the lift yesterday when we arrived, who happened to be a few doors down from our hotel room.
My friend came back from the pool bar today to say she had bumped into them again and told them we would be at the bar for 7pm tonight if they would like to join us for a cocktail.
I'm not one for making "friends" on holiday and found it a bit rude and presumptuous that my friend had just made these arrangements without having any kind of conversation with me first...AIBU?

If you were only away for a night or 2, then I would be a bit peeved.

But if you’re there for a week or something then it’s absolutely fine and you’ll probably have a laugh.

I would absolutely hate this but I’m autistic and find socialising really difficult anyway lol

That would annoy me too. I'm not interested in making random 'friends' on holiday though and small talk bores the life out of me.

I agree with this. I totally get where you’re coming from, but you never know, it might be fun. If they’re not great company you can always make your excuses tomorrow.

Maybe you should try solo travel going forward

Mentioning to others in an AI bar you'll be there about 7pm if they are around for a cocktail isn't really the definition of "inviting strangers for a drink".

It's a hotel. Everyone is strangers and everyone eats and drinks together in the same restaurant and bar and no one is paying or expected to,dog for a round!

The nature of AI especially is often you go in for a drink and end up chatting to lots of people - thee aren't usually enough tables for every hotel room to have 1 each!

I do agree the nature of AI where you spend a lot more time around the hotel is probably more conducive to chatting to randoms than going on a SC or B&B type place where you’re out for meals and drinks so less likely to be arranging meet ups.

You’re on holiday. Relax. One drink with some friendly people is something to enjoy. Don’t be a stick in the mud - it’s not a big deal. If the chemistry is off people will feel it and go their separate ways

I'd feel really claustrophobic if I went on holiday with a friend who didn't want to chat to anyone else we met.

Well whatever you decided I hope you had a nice night.
Just on the “friends” thing- they aren’t your friends, there’s not need to make a big fuss over something really small.

God you sound abit miserable op. Your friends sounds fun.

Go and meet them and have a laugh. 🙄

This is why holidays with friends can be tricky. I don't think either approach is wrong but they are a bit incompatible. The offer has been made so I think you should try to make the best of it.

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