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Friends expecting me to pay for room I’m not sleeping in!

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Shouldiorshouldinotthen · 03/10/2024 19:52

A group of 4 of us have been planning to stay in a fancy hotel not too far away from home for a much needed break from being mums to our young children.

In our friendship group is myself, twins A&B and my friend C. We have decided as it is friends C 30th coming up we will go near her birthday.

I have told the girls, plenty of times that I cannot stay the night on 9th Nov. Well now they’ve told me in the group it’s going to be 9th because it is the only night C can find childcare and it’s her birthday.

For the spa facilities and a cream tea at the hotel its £45.99

For the night it’s £380 (minimum 2 people) and you get the spa, cream tea, dinner with bottomless cocktails, stay the night and breakfast.

Twins A&B are sharing a room so their fee is £189.99 per person. Because I am unable to stay the night friend C has been told they don’t take single person in a room and she will have to pay £380. I have told her I will pay the £45.99 for the spa and cream tea as I’m not having the dinner, breakfast or staying the night.

But the twins have text me to say I am out of order not paying more and it’s C’s birthday. I’m expecting her to pay a silly amount. I should’ve offered to pay more. I said I can pay £25 more but £70 is already a lot of cream tea and a dip in the pool.

It is quite obvious they expected me to pay the full £189.99, despite the fact I’m not staying over night

Not sure if any of this makes sense but - AIBU!

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Teeshs · 09/10/2024 09:39

Be very wary of the twins.
They are overt CF's who don't care about you.
I wouldn't consider them friends and I certainly wouldn't be relying on them as friends.
They actively tried to screw you over on this.
Be very firm with them, they really don't care about you.
Invest in other friendships.

Imfreetofeelgood · 09/10/2024 09:42

Be honest OP - are these toxic twins? Would people who know them be even slightly surprised at this behaviour? Is the dynamics that C is your friend, but twins are C's friend rather than your's? I think I'd distance myself from this quartet, and concentrate on friendship with C, and other friendships.

LongLiveTheLego · 09/10/2024 09:59

Shouldiorshouldinotthen · 03/10/2024 19:59

I’m happy to go in Jan and do something else for C’s birthday. I feel a bit annoyed tbh, it was something the 4 of us wanted to do together but they want to go on the only day I can’t stay the night for. None of us have any plans in Jan so it’s frustrating!

No they can only go that night due to childcare, it's not a want.

Zilla1 · 09/10/2024 10:28

HNRTT but as they seem hard of thinking, they need remnding that when they selected the one date you couldn't stay over, they effectively agreed to cover the overnight stay costs without you. If they want to treat 'C' then the twins' costs go up.

Good luck.

Welshmonster · 09/10/2024 11:30

You said before they booked you couldn’t stay the night. It’s C birthday so if she wants to do something on a different day then do that.

Shouldiorshouldinotthen · 09/10/2024 12:03

LongLiveTheLego · 09/10/2024 09:59

No they can only go that night due to childcare, it's not a want.

No need to nit pic

You know what I mean. It was always to do as a 4. We couldn’t all do the same date so the next available is in Jan. when we all had childcare

it is all sorted now anyway

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