Who's unreasonable ? Wife clearing up or man doing garden work

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It's the weekend.. as usual really, man ( husband ) has found work to do outside the house in the garden. He's currently building a shed of some sort.

Wife as usual, inside, looking after kids. Cleaning up- cooking, doing laundry. Trying to keep kids from getting the way of said shed building.

Kids are 2 and 4.

We've baked, done crafts, set up our train, watched TV. I've cooked for everyone. Cleaned up after breakfast. Pretty much constantly been tidying since I got up today. The usual really. I am also trying to categorise toys as I go along today, which is something I hate doing.

Anyway, husband comes in from doing man work. I had food just out cold on the side for when he was ready but I warmed it up and served it, as it sort of seemed like he wanted that to be done..

He finishes his meal, leaves everything on the table and walks off to carry on with the work.

When I then said, can you at least clear it and put it next to the sink, I was told I'm a joke for asking.

He makes a massive mess when he eats. He gets all sorts of condiments, bread, butter, drinks out on the table and just leaves it out and I just wasn't up for clearing it.

Am I unreasonable or is he ? He's saying he's doing hard man work outside so I am a joke for asking him to clear his mess.

OP, what does he usually contribute to family life? If it’s nothing, then yeah he’s a dick, but I presume he doesn’t build sheds every weekend, if a shed needed building to store tools for garden maintenance, that’s fair enough, it also is an exhausting job.

But with your day, it doesn’t actually sound that stressful, and most of it sounds a bit pointless. What does categorising toys mean? Why constantly tidy up, get you, the husband and kids to pitch in at the end of the day to do it, also you don’t have to constantly entertain them, put them in-front of the tv for a bit, it won’t kill them, he was rude, but unless he is always getting out of family life and building sheds I can’t really see anything else he has done wrong or what was so stressful about your day, the washing machine does most of the work, although il probably be shouted at for all the ‘admin’ of putting it away, your not running a grand country manor, sit down if you want and if he does nothing, EVER, bollock him, but actually building a shed is harder than washing, baking and putting toys in categories!

I wonder what the argument is about this weekend?