Friend turned up unannounced with cooking equipment

[Ellienellie19]

Silly really but one of my fiends went to a gathering with me on Friday evening. We baked at her house before hand and I left some cooking equipment at hers. Went to gathering with intention that I would go back to hers and sleep over, and obviously take said equipment back to mine. But she ended up leaving early, went home and then I went home separately. I had plans most of yesterday (she knew about) and she offered to drop round after. I said yes but then she said never mind, I’ve gone out. Fine. I left my phone off this morning for some peace and a lie in. However I turned my phone on and she said yu can come whenever you’re ready. Fine. I need a shower, to brush my teeth and get dressed as I hate people coming into my home when I’m being a slouch. But as I was about to shower she turned up at my door (another family member answered) asking to see me as I have her stuff. Wouldn’t leave so now she is waiting in my house while I am having a shower and not ready. It’s stupid I know but I feel a little invaded? She has turned up unannounced before. Am I being unreasonable to be uncomfortable with this?

You could have been showered and dressed by now instead of complaining on MN

Brush your teeth, stick your dressing gown on and just get it done. You can have her out by ten past!

She's brought the stuff back to give back to the OP. Not the other way round.

Yes I realise that now.

For goodness sake why does it have to be this difficult. Do you overthink everything?

The only thing that's weird is how you're hiding upstairs, complaining on MN when you could have dealt with her and she'd be gone by now.

Just go down in your robe and say thanks, sorry I can't stop and chat I'm doing my feet/fake tan/eyebrow tint etc.

You are being a bit odd not to go down, get the stuff and then say "I'll let you get away now, I'm going to shower and then go out". But yes, I also hate people turning up when I'm in my pyjamas....but then after midday is not an unreasonable time to show up. It's not like she called around at 7am on a Sunday.

What is this "gathering"?

I wouldn’t imagine anyone still being “rotting in bed” at 1pm unless they were a shift worker, brand new baby etc. no judgement , you do you, but also it’s not unreasonable for you friend to expect you to be up and showered by 1pm.

My med school tutor told me on my first week 'anything that takes less than 15 minutes, Just Fucking Do It, it's done, you move on, you're not worrying about it, making it into a big thing'. Best advice I've ever had. JFDI, OP. Go and give her her stuff.

Is she dropping off a teacup for you to have a storm in 🤷‍♀️

Sounds like she's bringing the Ops equipment back for her though?

This is great advice!

She’s doing you a favour. Sort yourself out, see her and say thank you

Then at some other time, let her know kindly that you don’t like anyone knocking on your door without an appointment.

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Why couldn't the door answerer just take the stuff off her & make her a cuppa, why couldn't you just clean your teeth & put dressing gown/clothes on, she's not going to be sniffing your pits & bits.

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I’d go no contact, and also LTB for letting her in.

You could have made her a coffee, if you have plans with her this morning leave her with the coffee and get ready. If not have a coffee chat for a few minutes say goodbye and get your shower.

Is she really not a friend, just an acquaintance, for you to be so worried about not being suitably dressed and prepared when she dropped in. For a friend I would say help yourself to a tea/coffee and biscuits/toast, I'll be back in 15 minutes just got to have a shower.

This is confusing

Your friend in my opinion just sounds enthusiastic and friendly. She was probably looking forward to seeing you?
Maybe likes you enough to feel comfortable popping by unexpectedly?

Flipping heck OP. Get off mumsnet, stick a hoodie/dressing gown on, go down, accept your things graciously, say ‘thanks for bringing them round, I’m about to hop in the shower but let’s meet up soon’ send her on her way and get on with your day,

I mean unless she's downstairs patiently waiting to have sex with you, you really don't need to shower 🤷‍♂️

It's been 20 mins please tell me you've just gone down got your stuff and said thanks?

What is this mystery cooking equipment t anyway?