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Dubious about a wedding photo

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blushroses6 · 29/09/2024 02:56

Hi, not really sure how to feel and have no one irl to discuss this with so hoping for some thoughts! Will try to keep it short.

DP went to a friends wedding a few weeks back, it was mid week, there were no kids allowed and it was a short plane journey away so I didn’t go as we have a toddler and 6 week old. I knew a girl was going to be there that he had previously spoken to although nothing physical had ever happened apparently. When I was pregnant with our first, a text from her popped up asking if he wanted to play an online game, I thought it was odd but he said they played prior to us meeting and he hadn’t spoken to her while we’d been together. I was a bit dubious that anyone would text so out the blue but accepted it, although had a snoop at her fb/insta and saw that he had liked all of her pics, which were primarily selfies.

Anyway, fast forward to today. The groom shared a post from the photographer who had shared 10 images from the day. I was flicking through them and out of all the people who attended this wedding and all the photos that must have been taken, one of the images shows her and DP dancing. The photo is just of them and while it looks more like regular dancing than slow dancing, he is beaming looking at her, her hand very close to his as if they’d just let go holding hands. Looking at it anyone would think they were a (very happy) couple.

AIBU to not be suspicious if anything further happened and/or to just feel a bit sad?

OP posts:
AmIEnough · 04/10/2024 07:57

Celt2024 · 29/09/2024 04:10

At best, he was flirting with another woman in front of people who know you, while you were stuck home with his babies. Yuck.

Did he offer to stay home? He should have. They're his kids too.

Never, ever, dismiss your own intuition.

Do not allow him to minimise and downplay this. Have a frank discussion and pay very particular attention to his responses.

Don't allow him to play the DARVO card. At minimum he has embarrassed you and made you feel rotten.

@Celt2024Never, ever, dismiss your own intuition.

Absolutely this! Wise words! I’ve gone against my instincts so many times in my life and regretted it later. You need to speak to your husband and tell him how that picture made you feel and as someone else said screenshot it and send it back to him telling him that you need to talk when you get home and then turn your phone off. If it like a duck cracks like a duck etc. I think he’s been particularly selfish given that you’ve just given birth and have another toddler to care for. I wish you all the best xx

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