Ex’s friend asking me for money

[Shyfrog]

A friend of my ex who I am not on speaking terms with has reached out and is asking me for money because they need to pay for transport to college so they can get a degree and move out eventually. I don’t know them but I don’t find it completely impossible that they have no one they can ask for money from. They live with their grandma who has dementia and their family members won’t give them any money because they’re not on good terms. I am on benefits and have a little bit of money for giving gifts for birthdays and Christmas to anyone close to me. My judgement isn’t that great. What questions can I ask to work out if they’re genuine

op i’m guessing you don’t have much money to your name

added to which you sound very vulnerable

don’t even bother responding don’t let alone asking questions

no doubt t ex has told him to hit you up for
money because you’re an easy target

Scam

you don’t work op

you shouldn’t be lending anyone anything FGS

You don't ask anything , you block them

'Sorry I can't afford it as I'm low income myself but good luck to you' then block

Don’t give them any money and block them. If they are genuinely going to university they can apply for a student loan from the government like all the other students have to.

Just say no! Never ever ever lend money to a friend unless you can afford to never see it again. No and block

neither A borrower or lender be !
youll never see the money or them again
or
they will tap you for more

You don’t even know them?!

How many other people are they asking?

No questions to be asked. Just block them.

Why do you even entertain the question, just say no and block.

Whether they are genuine or not, just say no.

Just say no. You don’t need to work anything out, just no. Not your responsibility to waste any headspace in trying to figure out if they are genuine!!
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm!

They can work on improving their relationships and ask one of those people ( or maybe they have exhausted their goodwill by asking them for money, too) instead of a relative stranger.

Just say, fuck off you cheeky bastard. But then you are not obligated to reply at all.

No no no. You don't ask questions, you don't consider this as a possibility. The answer to this is a clear "no". This person shouldn't be asking you at all.

Just No. A you really dont have it to spare, for those going to college or uni to get degrees there are loans, financial support from students union, potentially bursaries etc - tell them to get a degree apprenticeship if they can't afford the standard way

YABU to even consider this. Just say No. Feel free to add “Fuck off” if you need to.

of course this is not your problem.

Why are you even considering this, why did you not shut it down straightaway. You don't even know this person!

A friend of your ex who you don't even know is asking you to pay for their college bus?

Fuck no. Block them.

WTF? Why are you even considering this?

I wouldn't even answer and just block them.

yabu to consider this as it is a ridiculous request and your ex may have put them up to it. I do appreciate you sound vulnerable though so it’s understandable you’re not sure.

But really, who asks someone that is on benefits that they’re not even friends /related to for money for transport?

It doesn’t matter if it’s a “genuine” request or not.

They’re trying to take advantage - just say no.

Wtf? Why are you even giving this a moment’s thought? Of course you just say no / ignore and block.

"So sorry I can't at the moment. Speak to the college about it they normally have funds to help. "