Ex’s friend asking me for money

[Shyfrog]

A friend of my ex who I am not on speaking terms with has reached out and is asking me for money because they need to pay for transport to college so they can get a degree and move out eventually. I don’t know them but I don’t find it completely impossible that they have no one they can ask for money from. They live with their grandma who has dementia and their family members won’t give them any money because they’re not on good terms. I am on benefits and have a little bit of money for giving gifts for birthdays and Christmas to anyone close to me. My judgement isn’t that great. What questions can I ask to work out if they’re genuine

Fuck no. they are a random. If you need to give money to a random, walk down your local town centre and buy the Big Issue

let me guess Op

Your ex owes you lots of money

Why are people suggesting she messages back starting with "sorry"?
OP has nothing to be sorry about and doesn't owe this CF any kind of explanation of her finances

‘No. Ask my ex. HE’S your friend.’

Actually yeah he does.
I was wondering why his friend would reach out and would ask me I don’t even know him but he’s saying it’s because he has no one.
Il try to direct him to somewhere that can help him

Do not reply at all. Blocki this 'friend' and anyone else who contacts you asking for money. Your ex has told them you are a soft touch. They are not worthy of a reply. they have google to look for places that can help.

@Shyfrog don’t direct him anywhere and,
if you’re resigned to not getting your money off the ex (i.e. nothing to prove it was a loan) then block the cheating lying pair of them! If not, at least block this cheeky effer who’s just asked you. They can get a student loan or fund themselves like my friends and relatives have. Really annoyed on your behalf.

He's asking you for money because he knows that you have given money to your ex so he knows that you give people money.

This is not your problem to solve. How he does or doesn't get to college isn't anything to do with you because you don't know him.

If he doesn't have anyone else to advise him then that isn't your concern because you don't know him.

Either don't answer at all or if you really feel that it will make you feel better say

I am not lending you any money. The college will have someone to give you information about how to pay for transport.

Don't even respond - you'll just end up prolonging the conversation. I would block instantly. The cheek of them asking you - as PP have said, your ex must have told their friend you were likely to say yes.

Don't even reply, and block straightaway. Your ex has told him that you are a mug, as he's benefited from your generosity. Don't do anything, and don't engage with your ex either, sadly you won't get that money back. Cancel the lot of them.

Do not even reply.

Colleges have funds / allowances for people that need help with transport so they are just trying to get cash out of you. Do not give anything.

It’s not your responsibility to guide a person you don’t know.

Just block this person and move on.

Why on earth would you consider giving them any money at all? That's completely mad. You don't know them and you don't have much yourself. Just ignore them and don't giiit a second thought.

Do not respond. Block them.

You are not obligated to do anything for this person. And you shouldn’t.

You seem very sweet and naive so you don’t seem to know that approaching a stranger and telling a sob story to get money is called begging or scamming. Both of these are inappropriate, to say the least, and if fraudulent representations are made may be outright illegal.

Just back away. Its dangerous to get involved with people who are willing to do inappropriate and illegal things to get money from strangers.

The fact that this impudent asshole had the nerve to beg a stranger for money is a huge red flag. Walk around him like you would an open sewer. Don’t engage at all.

You don't need to ask any questions, you just tell them you are unable to loan them any money.

OP with kindness you need to get a bit more street smart

Your ex is a wrong un. They owe you money and clearly have no intention of paying it back.

Their friend doesn’t even know you but thinks it’s ok to ask toy for cash- , a woman who isn’t rolling in spare cash, is already owed a load of money by their mate and would have ZERO reason to trust or want to help them.

Why is your reaction to even try and woo this one out? It’s plain as day you are being taking advantage of and will come off badly.

block this person. Block your ex.

consider seeking some help and support to avoid you being prey to these people

Would you give me money, OP? You know me as much as this person, in other words, not at all. Please protect yourself, you sound vulnerable.

It’s a scam- don’t send any money.

If you feel like you can’t ignore their message then tell them to talk to college about a bursary then block. They are cheeky as hell asking you for help.

If you give this person money then they won’t return it. Birthday money was given to you for you to enjoy.

Block the number.

This is not your problem

He hasn’t “reached out” stop using this sort of language for a start as it only makes this person sound vulnerable which makes you in turn feel obligated. He’s messaged you randomly asking for money. Absolutely do not reply to this person and block immediately.

It sounds like you need a bit of support around finances. Nobody who is a good person would ask for money from someone in your position. Do not lend or give money to people you don’t know or aren’t in a very close relationship (this includes boy friends). Ask for your money back from your ex.

ill take money if your offering it out ? ...

He is not your responsibility
you don’t need to ‘direct’ them anywhere
your Ex has probably told them your a good person to ask because you won’t bother to ask for it back
Block them