To feel slightly suspicious of dp

[wwyt]

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

This is better than any tv show. I'm dying to know what's going on!

Maybe the DH volunteers as a school bus driver, working tirelessly to take rural kids to school, but by 7pm has worked 12 hours straight so has to eject all the kids at whatever bus stop is nearest before going home to OP?

@cantthinkofausername26 remember this is someone's life, it's not entertainment.

So, OP has disappeared?

He's moonlighting as a milkman.

If they do not like or talk to you they would keep his secret hoping he will move on from the marriage. It could also be something else like is his mum sick and knowing how she feels about you is he not telling you.It must be a big strain for both of you with you and his parents not talking. If it is an affair and they know then if he has siblings or close friends they probably know and you may be able to find out something on social media. Likes or adds by parents neighbours I would try to find out about who the neighbours are. He knows you do not talk so would have no business on there street so it is more than likely a close neighbour. Or he could be thinking you are suspicious and parks it there to be on the safe side of you driving down the street. I hope you get your friend to keep checking before confronting him. If you do know any neighbours it would be good to bump in to them see if they say anything.

Unfortunately I've known mothers who've covered up their son's affairs, all whilst being BFFs with DIL.
Being married or having kids doesn't protect you.
They'll always choose their son.

Hope it's innocent OP, but sounds very suspicious.

I do believe this as well. OP partner's might be having an affair with that friend.

Hope you’re okay OP xx

I read a thing about prostitution, which said breakfast is their second busiest time of day. I was surprised, too, but it makes perfect sense for all those "good family men" with regular jobs, who like to slot in a bit of extracurricular without looking suspicious.

OP, I'd pack the baby up and go lurk near his parents' house between 8:30 and 9:00. If he doesn't come out with his dad, you know at least that part of his story is untrue.

Did you end up following him? Any updates?

Yes, right here on the thread.

Very sorry, I missed the update! Oh, @wwyt, how frustrating ... I'm afraid I'm leaning toward an affair with a neighbour - or even, as a PP suggested, at his mum's house (though I hope not - that would be beyond grim.)

Really very pleased you've got a good mate on your side. Wishing you - well, an answer, at least.

Who are these people getting up in the early hours to have an affair. So much effort 😆😆😴

This bloke's up and out the door without even time to wash or brush his teeth.

I can't imagine how desperate a woman would have to be to want sex with him 🤮

Could he be visiting a casino before going to work? Maybe he has a gambling problem that his parents are aware of.

Hope it's the secret maccies breakfast theory! Suspect we won't find out though and this will end up one of them "wonder what happened to the poster who....." posts 🤷🏼‍♀️

Need a more solid plan to be sure.

I'm sorry, OP 😞

If she was though she would of tried to put her mind at rest by saying he was not parked outside at 10am.Then again if it was anything like her being the affair partner would she want it to come out.

The op does not talk to the parents but it would of been a good idea to ask a friend that does not know the dad to ask for her hubby.

Wow! I had no idea! I think because I can't imagine choosing sex over a coffee and lightly toasted baguette at 7:00 am.

Yeah I'd pack the baby up too, although the woman who had the idea of hiding a second phone in his car and sharing location - that's a good idea!

My husband thinks cheating - when I mentioned the hours being way too early (he's terrible at getting up) he didn't see the problem - just that the OW has commitments so they're working on her schedule. I also suggested gambling etc but he's in the "cheating camp".

Men sure do love sex!

If it turns out to be cheating though, I'm really sorry OP.

So, do his parents wash his clothes when he changes into his unform? Or does he bring them back with him? Or does he change back into his clothes, and they wash the dirty unforms together, his and his father's? Something is not quite right.

It isn’t looking good, is it? 😞 I can’t think of another reason for why he would be at his parents house so early every day. I’m sure if his mother was sick he would have just told you.