aibu to shout at someone elses ds in a soft play area if parents arn't there watching him and he ....

[bogie]

Is laying on the cargo net on the top floor of the soft play spitting on the toddlers below in the under 5's bit???

I really made him cry but that was because I said I was going to find his mum to tell her not because i told him off.
I don't think iabu I think he got off lightly if he had spat on my ds I would have lost it a bit I think.

Not unreasonable to tell him off but a lot of parents would be upset if you shouted at their child - whatever they had done.

I'm with you, bogie. Someone had to say something. Did he stop?

yes he stopped and said it wasn't me then started crying when I said I was off to find his mum.

I would have done exactly the same thing. Only worry is how the parents will react these days.

No, yadnbu, I would have done the same. Yuck!!

How old was he?

Yes, you are. You should have gone and found his Mum, a member of staff or asked him not to spit. If someone shouted at my child I would be really peeved. If a child is vile enough to spit his mother may have been the type to punch you in the face, things have changed!!

I agree that someone needed to say something. I have done something similar aswell when 2 older boys were being really rough in the babies soft play area. If their parents can't keep an eye on the little sods then sod them!

Yuck! If mine ever does that, you have my permission to holler at him from the rooftops. And then come and find me so I can holler at him too.

Well done! i am nervous telling other peoples kids off, and do see behaviour i wish i was less soft enough to challenge. I know if it was my dd behaving like this i would want to know that another parent would step in, otherwise it send the message that it is acceptable.

YANBU imho, but I'm sure many will think that YABU. I'm with Corrie, if either of my DC are spitting, feel free to shout at them and tell me (I'll no doubt be enjoying a cup of tea somewhere out of sight)

he was about 9 or 10
The play area doesn't have staff parents are ment to supervise there own children.
There was about 20 to 25 parents downstairs where all the chairs were I didn't fancy looking for 10 mins while he was spitting on little ones trying to find his parents.

that is gross though.

we was in a soft play area last wek and another child was deliberately throwning balls at my friens ds, my friend asked him to stop throwing but he didnt listen, we just moved out of the way till his mum came and took him home for being a naughty boy.

you never nkow what to do in these situations, like posie says, things have changed!

YANBU and sensible to tell the parent as that means you're being honest about your involvement as well.

If there was a handy member of staff I might have got them to do the dirty work tho!!

course you did the right thing!

No YANBU. I did this the other day when a boy of about 9 or 10 in the baby area got a massive handful of dd's hair. he picked her up to move her out of his way, she is only 11 months ffs. I didn't shout really, just raised my voice and I didn't realise his mum was right next to me!

Good for you - spitting is disgusting! YANBU.

Of course spitting is disgusting, and I would have felt I had to do something, but could you not have asked him not to do it, rather than gone straight for the shouting option? A child of that age would probably have responded to that as well, if not better, than shouting.

i dont think i am bold enough to challenge the child so many bampot parents - would have told staff

I wouldnt shout (unless only way 2 b heard?). Even if spit landed on my dc. But I wouldnt hesitate 2 tell off & seek his parent.
Sounds like stupid thing my ds might do (& yes I would b embarassed about it).

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AbbyLouis your wee one okay?In that situation i would be howling wolf i am fiercely protective

I take it back, age 9 or 10, I assumed he was under five... but I still would have asked loudly and not shouted, nothing better than a little gentle humiliation.... had to do it at a school fete not so long ago, two boys harrassing the 'balloon' man, I asked them nicely, then firmly and then stood waiting until they had done as I had requested and then found parents and head teacher just in case what I had said and done was reported incorrectly.

if someone had got my ds by the hair i would have gone mad at them and sod what their bloody parents said or how hard they are. Judging by the boys reaction his mum would probably have told him off to

yanbu, I don't hesitate to tell children off or ask them to stop behaving in a certian way if they are hurting or upsetting other children or willfully damaging stuff etc., but I used to be a primary teacher so do it unconsciously and automatically without really thinking. I don't shout though, just put on a stern authoritative voice.