People on this group!

[professionaloverthinker]

Is it me or are more and more people on here just being fucking nasty for the sake of it?! Honestly if you have nothing nice to say to people that are genuinely looking for some advice because they haven't got anywhere else to turn just keep your opinion to yourself! It really isn't hard to be nice!

I don't think it matters that threads like theses are repeated. There's probably repeats of most threads. There's repeats of parking threads
Cock lodger threads
Nightmares neighbour threads
Affair threads
Difficult teen/toddler threads
Mental health threads
Bla bla bla

I'll quote what I want. The OP has asked a valid question wondering why people are so nasty and dickheads. There was a poster last night who couldn't cope and really needed support. An idiot came on calling them a moron and other nasty shit. A poster yesterday wished homeless people dead and other vile crap that got deleted. This forum is very useful in most cases, but there are nasty bullying pricks on here.

Someone coming on proving the OPs point being sarcastic just for the sake of it, and you know it.

Not sure why this grates so much, maybe because you can make a change to the impact on you by not coming here?

The parking threads are normally "this has happened / is currently happening to me", and relevant to a person at that time - so kind of like I hate soaps and dont want to watch Eastenders, but I have to as I want to watch things on the BBC - well, dont watch Eastenders then, there are plenty of other things to watch at 730 on a tuesday?

I dont like the tone of Tattle, so I dont go there

I like here and Reddit - so I go there.
I like that people will call out unreasonable bullying posts, I REALLY like that we are treated as adults, and can swear and not put up with bullcrap

It's interesting, I know views on Tattle on here are dim, but I sometimes lurk on some threads there (more of the ones about the ick, relationships, etc., as I'm not interested in the celebrity/influencer stuff which I understand is much nastier - as in nastier about the celebrities/influencers).

Something I've really noticed is that posters are SO MUCH nicer to each other on there - no one gets picked up for grammar and spelling, no pile-ons, and where there are occasional misunderstandings (once or twice per 50-page thread, if even that) they get quickly sorted out civilly. It's actually jarring reading a thread there and then coming back here and seeing people being pounced on left, right and centre and engaging in petty point-scoring arguments (and yeah, I've done that too!).

It just amuses me when there are threads about Tattle on here and people go on about how horrible it is, when the reception to posters is MUCH worse here.

Yeah, lot of people very quick to jump on people alright!! Definitely getting angrier!!!

I was scrolling through that thread last night. I can't remember what it was about now, only that the OP was in distress and people were being really cruel to her. Horrible.

Yes just vile. Some idiot saying you sound like a moron. The OP was literally saying I am struggling here please be kind, and gets comments like that. Some bullies on here.

I never really understand why people think AIBU is for support. Its not - its 'am I being unreasonable', just like Reddit's AITA - it is famously brutal and snarky. I remember when I was pregnant being on a baby forum and someone linking to AIBU because it was 'hilarious, but vicious and not for the sensitive'. And that was a decade ago.

The rest of mumsnet is fantastic for supporting posters, providing brilliant advice and information.

Tsk, people are so touchy nowadays. If you are asking on AIBU, you need to be prepared. Twas ever thus.

I agree. If someone says something you don’t like, either ignore it, or call it out and report them. If it’s just that they’re not stroking your ego, or agreeing with you, that’s fine. We all have different opinions. I don’t really give a toss what other people’s opinions are, beyond a quick scroll while I drink my tea. I just roll my eyes and scroll on. No one’s here to make you feel better. If you don’t happen to like me, pass me by.

Why? Why should be prepared for bitchy answers?

It would be better for the posters mh if they took a breath before typing.

If you are so fed up, why are you reading and replying on the thread?

You don't have to read everything just because it's here. If I don't think a post looks interesting I don't read it. Try that and you won't get fed up.

Lol, it's AIBU. It's known for it. Post in chat if you don't want to poke the Vipers. AIBU - you need to brace for a roasting.

Ops point has been proven in the first post 😂

You are the first one to post and have proved the OP right 😂

YABU

It's the old lazy response that "people who disagree with me are trolls".

We're all different - you can't please all of the people all of the time. If you are asking a large number of people something, be pleased if 80% agree with you or support you. If you are focussed on the minority who think you're wrong, then it's not us, love, it's you.

First post proves OPs point entirely.

Did you come on Mumsnet by mistake?

I have been on MN for nearly 20 years. I do think it has got worse.
AIBU used to be robust, sure. Now, it is just seen as an opportunity to be openly rude, aggressive and argumentative. And it leaches into other areas. If you dare to post an opinion that differs from the general direction of responses, the vitriol can be vile.

I mean the ones who jump on threads like this to tell off the OP for being unoriginal, new here, a snowflake, in the wrong place etc.
But don't seem to see the irony that they are posting on a thread they don't like.
And I've been here since this was all fields.
And I report bullying when I see it.
In this case, as I said previously, I wonder if the OP here is reacting to the really nasty vicious trolling that an OP of an overnight thread was subjected to. I've never hit the report button so fast.
I understand that AIBU is home to the vipers. I like it. It's entertaining.
But just because it's AIBU shouldn't mean that all vestiges of civilised behaviour should be abandoned.

See this "If you've nothing nice to say..." crap it really pisses me off.
I'm not here to defend nasty but if people only want to hear "nice" things then you're not actually a fully grown adult, and you do not fully understand how the world and human beings work.
You post here for a range of opinions. Not fake niceness

The thing about posting on the internet, as opposed to face-to-face conversation is that you don't have to couch what you're saying so as not to offend the other person.

That's not to excuse being nasty - but it does mean that posts here are much more direct.

I think it's also very refreshing to be able to say what you mean, and not have to kowtow to the #BeKind brigade.

(Oh, and if anyone tells you that Tattle is better/nicer/kinder than Mumsnet, just have a read of their long-running MN threads. It's beyond bitchy.)

It's not a new thing, but yes there are many nasty and rude people on here. People can be as rude as they want to when they are anonymous. The best thing is to just ignore the comments, don't feed them the attention they crave by quoting them or replying to them.

I have absolutely no idea what your talking about. I was simply pointing out that threads/topics will get repeated.