What has Mumsnet taught you you've been doing wrong all of your adult life without realising?!

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Inspired by a recent thread, in which I read multiple posters saying you shouldn't wear mascara on your bottom lashes (which I have been doing for the last 30 years 😂) what has Mumsnet told or taught you you've been doing wrong?

The irritating thing is then I made one eye up as usual and made one up without mascara on the bottom lashes and DH preferred the without eye! Don't even get me started on my inability to make a chicken last a week...

I don’t let silly twitter extremists like jk Rowling shape my views about trans people

Letting my in-laws past the threshold to meet all of their grandchildren in their first week or so of life.

And not only that, I did it happily, without coercion or sulking and without accusing them of being demanding,controlling, of ruining the baby's feeding/sleeping routine, or of bringing on my PND.

I know! Remarkable isn't it?

My husband doesn’t have a penis beaker.

MN showed me that many women seem to think that women only commit criminal offences due to the actions of men. From shoplifting to child abuse and murder, there are a lot of MNetters that seem to think women are not independently capable of crime or horrific acts and a man must have been the real party responsible or influencing the womans actions at some stage in their lives.

I don't "cook from scratch" if I can avoid it, who needs all that faff?

Some Americans use it, to the bemusement of other Americans.

oh christ!was you stick in the fuzz like a plaster? lol

Turns out that explaining things to my young DC when out and about is 'performance parenting'. Who knew.

I also stay in my pj's far too long at weekends because no one ever told me how wildly unhygienic pj's are.

You hadn’t heard it because it’s not true! Waste incineration is terrible for the environment.

Saying yes to things I don't want to do (people pleaser).

I've learned that you can't EVER wash your hands with dish soap or they'll fall off (or worse). And if you claim that you do wash your hands this way (for lack of separate hand soap) then you're actually lying and you don't wash your hands at all.

I've also learned:

If you drink more than a thimbleful of wine any more than once a year you're an alcoholic.

If you iron then you're a stuck in the 50s and have no life.

Towels have to be washed every three seconds otherwise everyone will get scabies, but if you wash bed linen any more than once a week you're a clean freak.

Rooms need to be vacuumed six times a day, minimum.

If you work full time, having a cleaner is both essential and appallingly lazy.

That I'm glad I was young when I was young.

The influence of social media on our lives - and specifically women's lives - is very depressing. So much done for 'Insta' photos, so much unhealthy comparing of real lives to fantasy ones online, so much competitive piggy-backing over Hollywood-scale weddings, hen parties, baby showers, gender reveal parties and other crazy money-pit follies. And I'm struck by how many misunderstandings and friendship break-ups seem to be caused by SM.

And that the whole idea of 'making memories' is pernicious. Live in the moment! Actually watch your children's school play - don't film it. Some people seem to live in a permanent state of 'anticipated nostalgia'.

What?! Who made this rule about mascara?

I feel there is more pressure to be 'perfect 'than in my day. It is sad.

Calm down Funtime Frankie

Love a tiny bit of mascara on my lower lashes. I do think many over do it.

What’s in loo cleaner though? Is yours non-toxic?

@stayathomer You're not waiting in every day for a plumber. Everything else is just life as an adult. Yes, it's stressful, but that's what happens when you're an adult. Some people make it sound like a full-time job.

Well so am I so I'll stick to it 😂

I found out yesterday from Mumsnet that I should be turning the shower off between applying shampoo and rinsing it and the same with conditioner.

I'll just get really cold

That's what I do and I enjoy it.

I have learnt that if I have a problem that needs solving, HR, the police, social services and my GP are all sitting waiting for my call and ready to spring into action, or at least log it somewhere in a miraculous problem solving place.

That we're all expected to grin and bare it.

Must account for the burgeoning of OnlyFans.

What I do wrong in MN terms:

I don't sneer at people's use of language, not even 'reach out' or 'would of', and I don't think the only 'well-spoken' accent is at standard Southern British English one. Being a descriptivist means I am inferior to the self-declared pedants whose 'teeth are set on edge' by someone saying 'haitch'.

I don't believe a wedding trumps absolutely everything else in life and an invitation is tantamount to a court summons.

I let my older primary-aged children have gradually increasing degrees of appropriate independence, ignoring dire warnings of 'your 10yo is far too young to be alone at home, what if they spontaneously combust during the 20 minutes you're out?' etc. pp.

Having a bathroom bin. I should have made my female visitors roll up their used tampons in loo roll and carry them round in their pockets or go wandering around the side of the house looking for the wheelie bin.