Art class before family trip

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There is a fair chance I am being unreasonable but I have lost sight of what is and isn’t normal. I’ll do my best to give all the details so that you can give me your opinions and advice, thank you.

Tomorrow, DD, DH and I have to travel somewhere, it is about 2.5 hours there and back. When we are there we will do some shopping and have a meal. We didn’t set a time but would usually leave around 10 or 11 am for this sort of thing. DD has an art class between 9 and 11 in the morning and I said it was a shame she would miss it. DH said this trip was important to him as he will be leaving for 3 weeks to go to work on Sunday (this is a regular occurrence). I asked if he thought she should go for an hour (finish class at 10am) and he was really angry. He told me I always put her first before him. I said it was only asking and it was fine that she didn’t go but he was so angry that he didn’t sleep all night.

I can understand his point of view but I don’t feel it was such a bad thing to ask. He says I’m thoughtless and don’t consider his feelings and shouldn’t have said that when we were in bed.

AIBU?

I read the OP and immediately thought “this isn’t his daughter.”

Fuck this bollocks. I would say she’s going to the full class and you can set off at 11.

He sounds like a sulky little bully.

You're right. I misread.

@CosyLemur if he was so keen for time with her then he wouldn't have signed her up to the 2 hour art class. He just prefers more time out shopping.

Can't you read - he didn't sign her up to a 2 hour art class her mum did and he doesn't particularly want to go shopping the mum does he's just going along so he can spend time with them!
The mum signed the daughter up to a 2 hour art class so that she could have a peaceful breakfast at a nice cafe every Saturday
How hard is that to understand?

Don't be so fucking rude to me.

I misread one section about who was needed for going shopping.

They signed her up because he didn't disagree at the time. It's also mum's decision because he isn't the bio father.

Mum suggested the cafe as a one off compromise to husband so that dd should do her class before shopping. She doesn't go every week.

Can't you read? How hard is it to understand.

Yes, I know! That is why I said it. The trip is essential though, we have to do it tomorrow for very important and formal reasons

Sure, but HOW you do it is flexible though. I just can’t understand why you don’t drop your DD at art class at 9am, have breakfast in a cafe with your DH. Pick DD up from class when it finishes at 11am. Then set off on your trip. According to your logistics, you will get there around 1.30pm. So have a late lunch upon arrival. Then pick up what you need to pick up or do, do some more shopping if you want. Leave at 4.30pm, get home at 7pm, have dinner. Then relax for the night.

How can any of this possibly be hard?

Why would you make a 5yo miss a much wanted class just so you can pander to a sulky adult having a tantrum. No idea how you can find that attractive and sleep with him to be honest.