I was too scared to try for a second child. Now it’s too late and I’m devastated.

[JKDcot]

I had a tough pregnancy but am beyond grateful for my lovely son.
I put off even thinking about trying for a second as honestly I felt too scared and just was in denial about it. My husband tried to discuss it but honestly I just shut him down.

I have suddenly realised I’m an idiot and I feel devastated we didn’t even try. I see siblings everywhere and school drop off makes my heart sad seeing so many people with newborns and toddlers. It could have been me?

now we’re too old and I missed my chance. Please has anyone felt like this and what advice do you have to just move forward

He may be against it, he may have just put his own feelings about wanting another child to bed, as he didn't have the option. Talking again isn't something terrible to do, but it might be he firms up not wanting one, or perhaps he might be more flexible if he knows the OP is keen now. More talking is not a bad thing.

I think more talking is needed. Although not when he feels tired and old….! Which is often! I get the sense the newborn phase would be not appreciated.

So sorry for your loss @mumsworry 💐

OP, I had my second shy of 41. Friends ranging from ages 40 to 47 having first and second... and twins! Personally, I had more energy at 41 than 32 (with first) because I was so much more confident and relaxed as a mother. Experience definitely helped make it a more positive experience in those earlier newborn days.

I’ve had my second month in last 6 months with period symptoms but no bleeding. Means obviously I am not ovulating regularly (or at all?). I think I f*d up and missed my opportunity. Feel gutted