What do you find annoying but put up with?

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This is particularly for women with partners in their 40s/50s but any age really.

What do you find that's childish/irritating/immature or crass and wish they'd grow up but you put up with it. Why do you?

Mine does this with supermarkets and also adds an S. 'I saw that in the Tescos and it was cheaper than in the Aldis'

My OH enjoys cooking and is good at it. Wonderful you may think. Except he narrates as he goes along. I'm on the sofa with a book and a glass of wine and it's "I'll put the oven on in 10 minutes"; "I'm just peeling the potatoes"; "I think the gravy is nearly ready". Every time I hear his footsteps coming from the kitchen my heart sinks. I've now taken to preempting his culinary activities with the clear instruction that the only thing I want to know is when it's on the bloody table.

He has no awareness of time.

He does a weird old man sigh/groan every now and then.

Every time I am at a crucial point in the cooking/job I'm doing where I need to concentrate he'll come up and start telling me about some random shit like he has ordered x or his mate told him about y. It's sooooo infuriating. I've taken to saying 'I am not available for announcements right now'.

@UnctuousUnicorns
I said "What?" until we moved to a slightly posher different area, when I was ten. Nobody had ever corrected me before, so I had no idea that some people thought it was wrong

You've got that completely the wrong way round! The smart area is What. The working & lower midde classes are pardon. more help here:

https://lady.co.uk/pardon-thats-practically-swear-word

Supposedly, this is because the upper classes are full of self confidence, don't give a shit and say it as it is. Middle and lower classes get a bit embarassed and look for twee alternative words to sound a bit smarter - especially French words like serviette (as opposed to napkin).

She's on the lavatory (tell it like is is) v she's at her toilet ( very pretend it's something else because we're common and embarrased).

Stick with your "What?" @UnctuousUnicorns and you'll move seemlessly in the upper echelons.

Maybe I'm too old, then. I was ten in 1980. I'm certainly too old to really give a shit anymore. 😅

He’ll call me from wherever he is in the house like I’m some sort of bloody dog!
I used to stop what I was doing to go and find him to see what he wanted but now I’m older and wiser I just ignore him.
As a result he’s convinced I’m going deaf, I’m not but I very much enjoy the strained calling and the resulting eye roll.

Mine will ask me something and I will answer yes, or OK, or something similar, indicating that I agree. Then he will provide an explanation for his original question, to which I will agree again, then he will do it again!

So - 'Shall we go to Sainsbury's this afternoon?'. I say yes. 'Because they've got an offer on that bread you like'. I say Ok, that's good. 'and it's usually really expensive' by which time I am annoyed and I end up saying something like I've said yes, it's a good idea, what more do you want me to say?

At which he looks wounded and I feel like a bitch. It drives me up the wall!

He always says “how much is it?” I’m more careful with money than he is but he always has to say this, even when it’s something absolutely essential that we need.

When I nudge DH because he is snoring, he does not say he wasn't snoring...he says he wasn't ASLEEP!! I now ask then why the fuck are you snoring if you are awake, he gets defensive and rolls over (and snores again obviously).

He will laugh really loudly while scrolling Twitter, proper guffaws, then sneakily look over at me to see whether I'm going to ask him what's funny. It's both annoying and funny.

Constantly looking for things!! I can’t find my glasses/the dogs harness/the dogs lead/my bank card!!
WELL IF YOU PUT THEM BACK WHERE YOU GOT THEM FROM INSTEAD OF JUST LEAVING THEM ALL OVER THE FUCKING HOUSE YOU’D KNOW WHERE THEY FUCKING WERE!!!!
Can you tell it makes me very angry!?

Doing a Dutch oven when he farts in bed! Seriously I'm too old for this shit (literally!) I put up with him because I have my own annoyances plus it's a minor fault in an otherwise stand up guy.

The more I tell him it annoys me the more hilarious it seems to him though...🙄

Mine does the loud sneeze with a weeeeew kind of sound at the end. I can actually feel the anger when he does that.

He bombursts everywhere so I’m sat in one room with the door shut behind me and he comes through the door so hard and fast it makes me jump. He’s just so heavy handed.

Ooh this is cathartic, there’s many more but those are my worst…for now.

I love stuff like this. DC4 and I used to pass "The Lady" every morning on the way to school and make up stories about where she was going and what her life was like.

Mine too. I call this 'defending his thesis'... 😫

This is making me very happy to be single right now!!

My ex was a dreadful snorer, would take hours on the loo, used the same catch phrases over and over again.

Would walk really slowly apart from when going up hill where he'd power march up and then have to wait for me.

Calling himself a tech bro any time he wears trainers to work...he's in IT sales.

We have a dishwasher, although there's just the two of us at home now.

The dish washer will be nearly full - I'll think "just the lunch stuff to go in and then I'll put it on", but then he'll get up from the table after lunch and wash some of the plates and cutlery, but not everything - he has a blind spot for anything that is not in the sink, and he won't put the left-over stir-fry in a fridge box so he can wash the wok.
He balances the plates or bowls he's washed precariously on the draining board (which is not cut out for this because we have a dish-washer) and worse still, he doesn't clear the dry stuff he washed previously before he piles wet stuff on top of it.
And the dishwasher starts to get smelly so I end up putting it on anyway,even 'though it's not full.
Oh, and frequently if I decide to put away the stuff he's "washed", I discover that it's not actually properly clean. Sometimes I really want to just load all the "clean" stuff off the draining board into the dish washer!

Mine’s really annoying. Never there to give me a lift when I’ve had a few drinks out. Doesn’t turn up to family events, not even holidays. Has missed all the kids’ graduations. Won’t watch tv with me any more or do any cooking. I suppose I’ll have to let him off though, as he’s dead.

I came in here to add a complaint about my husband dithering (I've never known dithering like it and it gets worse and worse) but this is so clever and unexpected and heartbreaking that it put everything into perspective and stopped me in my tracks. I'm so sorry 💐

How to kill a thread where women were just letting off steam.
Mine is in the middle of a diagnosis for what could well be terminal cancer, but he still irritates me on a regular basis.

Made me sad to read your post, big hug 🥰!

@TitusMoan

Condolences to you. I'm sorry for your loss.