What do you find annoying but put up with?

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This is particularly for women with partners in their 40s/50s but any age really.

What do you find that's childish/irritating/immature or crass and wish they'd grow up but you put up with it. Why do you?

"Compash · Today 21:32

BigDahliaFan · Today 20:29
If he passes me in the car, or sees me at a distance, he waves both his hands. Like some fucking kids entertainer. A finger raise would do, like a Yorkshire farmer.
He's not mine so I can find that adorable... 🤗"

Mine does this too and really goes for it with a big open mouth grin, head bobbing and both hands going like crazy , luckily I do actually find it so ridiculous it's adorable. He looks like a very small excitable child that has just ballsed up the school play because he's spotted his mummy and daddy in the crowd, or a labrador puppy that has seen a pond full of ducks.

He cannot think in chunks of times less than 30 minutes and then only in 30 minute increments. So, in his head, popping to corner shop to get milk - 30 minutes. Driving DS to football practice - 30 minutes (or an hour). Changing the bedding - 30 minutes.

As a result, there are always tasks or chores that he COULD do, but doesn't because he thinks there isn't time. An dif I remind him that the corner shop is about a 3 minute walk, he'll STILL spend 24 minutes agonising over the fact that it's 30 and then triumphantly point out that I asked him to do it at 11:00 and now he's finished doing it and it is, in fact, 11:30.

I put up with it because over time we have come to realise that he most likely has inattentive ADHD. And because he himself has come to realise that he struggles and has actually improved. He used to think in 1 hour slots.

"But OP ** , you asked why we put up with it? Because I have no doubt I do dickish things too! After nearly 35 years of marriage it is our common bond and we're both so weird that no one else will have us, tralala! 🤪"

True. I'm probably really annoying. If I had to live with the male version of myself I would probably have divorced myself years ago.

I have one of these 🙋‍♀️

He's like superman in a phone booth. We walk through the door, I've barely had chance to put my bag down and take my eyes off him for a split second, turn around and there he is in his boxers already. Rain or shine, Summer or Winter, if we don't have company he's in his pants.

@Kittynoodle you should see the things about me that he finds annoying....

Oh god I do this! I know full well it’s unreasonable.

His complete inability to find things which he claims I’ve hidden.
No, I haven’t hidden anything, it’s put away in the same place it’s been for the last bloody twenty years of living in this house.
Open you eyes and look with your hands!

Puts way too much butter on my toast.

rather that than get up first though 😁

Mine is obsessed with looking up with where things we're watching were filmed. Loves ReelStreets website He's got me on it now. You can miss half the plot looking it up. And also "what else have they been in?" Then it's who they were married to, when they were born, where they were born etc. I call him the looky up King.

My DH holds the remote control for the TV even when he’s watching something. Drives me nuts.

Mine bites his nails when we are watching tv and sneakily throws them behind the sofa it boils my piss !!!! Not only throwing them behind the sofa but the chewing picking of nail sounds !

😮 This is truly reprehensible!

My cats!
I have three and I adore them, but they annoy the living shit out of me.

Mine does this too, drives me mad! I don't want to hear what they've previously been in (I usually know anyway), I want immerse in this film/programme! Also, walks into room and asks "what's this that's on?" - I am not the Radio Times. I may be irrationally grumpy.

Whenever we're rushing to go out somewhere, he finds something on the outside of the house that he desperately needs to consult me about. And we can't do it on the move. We have to stand there and look at the guttering, or the water butt, or the plant growing on the chimney pot, or whatever it is, while we discuss it. Ffs raise these things when we're at leisure, and not late to be somewhere!

He also assumes that if something I've done has gone wrong, it's because of something I did. But this never applies to him. Recently, the dishwasher hasn't started when it should...he said oh, you can't have pressed the button properly. I have been pressing the button the same way on this dishwasher for the three years we've had it. It's not me. IT'S THE FUCKING DISHWASHER. But I'll have to wait until it pulls its little trick on him, for him to believe this.

There's other stuff but I try to not to focus too hard on it, because I'm massively more annoying than him, yet he worships me and I'd be utterly lost without him.

Oh God there are two of them 😱

Mine doesn't watch much sport but he does sometimes watch Wimbledon. When Andy Murray played he would watch it in the kitchen while I watched dramas in the living room, every two minutes he would be in telling me how many strokes or whatever. I don't care if I did I would wàtch it. Now he's going down a political rabbit hole I get a running commentary on Starmer I just nod and try to ignore.

The enthusiastic waving husbands remind me of this TikTok

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeEv18sq/

(screenshot below if the link doesn’t work)

Lazing about reminding me of his heart condition and looking martyred whilst I do everything and he fucks off for a nap.

Put up with it because he does have a heart condition.

Golf

Mine does this and he's 57. My parents have eventually stopped assuming they've caught us "at it" when they drop round 🤣

Oh my god, mine does the reading out thing. It drives me UP THE WALL.

My DH is always sighing/huffing. Always. When he enters the room, leaves the room, when he sits down, stands up. He always says nothing is wrong when I ask him if he is ok. Trying really damn hard to completely ignore him and not respond to the sighs. Makes me feel like a cold hearted bitch but I am sooooo annoyed by it!
Yawns loudly … dramatic yawny noises, often when I have already gone to bed and just dropping off to sleep.

"cooks" bacon in the microwave, infact "cooks" any foot item in the microwave. Microwaved fish finger anyone? Irritatingly he has not yet died of food poisoning. Given this is the third post I have made on this thread I'm obviously a woman with a low tolerance threshold for idiocy.

He announces every single press of the remote control to the freeview box before he presses it, like a shitty step-by-video...and reads out all the options, as if they might have magically changed on him since the last time he touched it.

Right!...menu...options...deeleteh...back...films...options...sort alphabetically....fucking on and on and on.

I know what he's fucking doing. He can't be arsed to learn how it works properly so pre-announces his actions, then a slight pause, so I can step in and tell him if he's about to blow the thing up.

He also forgets how the alphabet works once in a recordings folder. If he's looking for something beginning with a W he'll start from A. If it starts with D, he'll flick up from Z.

Does my head in.

Then, once he has read everything out and picked something, he puts it on and falls asleep within five minutes. Snoring, dribbling, head hanging down to his knees or right back and doing the self-suffocation thing that sounds like an aardvark sucking jelly up a drainpipe. An, "Oi! Thought you wanted to watch this", is met with a vehement denial of being asleep and the words, "LOOK! MY EYES AM OPEN". They were not before and won't be again within 60 seconds of the denial. It goes on like that till the programme has finished. If I turn it off, he will wake up and put it back on before falling asleep again. Sometimes, I get the urge to chuck a jug of cold water over him. Surely, he will be able to duck if his eyes really are open.