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AIBU?

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To envy my sister's freedom?

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soloholidayenvy · 17/09/2024 18:31

My sister is a few years younger than me (both late 30s), and has no children (by choice). She earns really good money and has decided to book a spontaneous last minute solo holiday this weekend. I'm a mum of 2 and I couldn't contemplate doing that. I mean we have lovely family holidays obviously but I just got a pang of envy when she told me she'd booked a solo trip! Am I strange for feeling this? Anyone else get what I mean?

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Aria999 · 21/09/2024 22:52

They are loud, obnoxious, annoying and change the dynamic (negatively) in every social setting.

Lol. And this post is nothing like that.

WaverleyOwl · 21/09/2024 23:09

PeachTree500 · 19/09/2024 08:16

Every mentally well adult has the life they choose. 100s and 100s of decisions over years have led you to where you are today. So your situation is your choice. If you have serious envy, then that may mean you've made a series of stacked up bad decisions that have led to a place you don't want to be in

This is such a horrible mentality that’s basically designed to excuse you from having any compassion for anyone ever.

It’s also so demonstrably inaccurate that it’s laughable.

That's not how I read this at all.

We all make decisions, all the time. Some have no real repercussions, and others have huge ones.

I see this post as saying "take responsibility for the decisions you've made in your life and don't blame others or waste your time on envy".

Some of us made the choice to have children. Some of us didn't. Some of us didn't have a choice in the matter, so had to make other choices about how we'd live our lives.

I see it as a call to be happy with the choices we've made and not spend time yearning about the ones we didn't.

WaverleyOwl · 21/09/2024 23:11

PixieLaLar · 21/09/2024 22:14

I totally agree. I can’t stand kids either.

They are loud, obnoxious, annoying and change the dynamic (negatively) in every social setting.

Some Mums still can’t accept and understand that other people don’t actually like your annoying bratty whinny kids. Ergh.

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Why the Jeff are you on Mumsnet 😂

Derwent01 · 21/09/2024 23:18

WaverleyOwl · 21/09/2024 23:11

Why the Jeff are you on Mumsnet 😂

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that would be the vast array of topics unrelated to parenting

PixieLaLar · 21/09/2024 23:56

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 22/09/2024 13:33

TemuSpecialBuy · 17/09/2024 18:36

I think it depends…

I’m in your boat and wouldn’t be remotely jealous but I travelled extensively pre kids.

I could be having that life now but i chose children

i do however understand the “wanting a break” or wanting to clock out of your responsibilities. 2 small child can be quite relentless and sleep deprivation doesn’t help….

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Same here x

HousesChoices · 22/09/2024 13:47

WaverleyOwl · 21/09/2024 23:11

Why the Jeff are you on Mumsnet 😂

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You must be new.

HousesChoices · 22/09/2024 13:56

PixieLaLar · 21/09/2024 22:14

I totally agree. I can’t stand kids either.

They are loud, obnoxious, annoying and change the dynamic (negatively) in every social setting.

Some Mums still can’t accept and understand that other people don’t actually like your annoying bratty whinny kids. Ergh.

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Just for balance, I'm childfree and love kids!! I don't find them annoying or loud, I feel admiration for parents dealing with obviously tired kids while out and about though.

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