DH says you are part of the family household or not and if you are you join all of the household on the family holiday. I say this as DS 24 has said he does not want to go on the annual family holiday next year. DS has ASD and ADHD, he woks full time and I am confident he can live independently. DH is an anxious person and the one time a few months ago when when DS was downstairs talking to us he realised he forgot to switch his bath water off and the bath was nearly full to the top with water. This means DH does not want him left alone for a week unsupervised. DS has only ever done this once ever.
DS will expected to contribute to the holiday so apart from being expected to come he will need to pay his share of the holiday too. However, we allow DS to live here rent free when he works full time as he has done since graduation from university.
What are peoples thoughts?