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To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.

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UCConfuseMe · 16/09/2024 13:13

Just read that Hugh Edwards ahs been given a suspended sentence.

And if course it's not his fault. He had a mean Daddy and some mental health issues and some bad things going on in his life, poor lamb.

All that made him say 'amazing' when sent photos of children as young as 7 being molested.

Having a rough time and a strict father doesn't make you a fucking paedophile!!!

Take responsibility for your predatory and vile behaviour!!

To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.
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Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/09/2024 18:18

Nor have I tried to control the narrative

That's a matter of opinion, isn't it.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 16/09/2024 18:21

SpidersAreShitheads · 16/09/2024 17:43

I think this thread shows the difficulties around subjects like this and why it's so hard to have a discussion without descending into name-calling.

It's so emotive, logic often goes out of the window with wild statements being made.

The problem is that being understandably angry at the perpetrators of CSA means it's difficult to have a rationed and reasonable discussion. Some of the comments just get a bit wild.

For example, as some knowledgeable PP pointed out - this is actually a fairly tough sentence compared to what others get. It's also been pointed out that the judge has their hands tied to some extent due to sentencing guidelines. And yet, there are PP who are accusing the judge of being a latent paedophile, and that's why Edwards got off so lightly. It's just ridiculous and unhelpful.

I think the vast majority of us here agree that there's a problem with sentencing guidelines, and an overhaul of the law would be helpful. That's an entirely separate issue but it's not what some PP are saying. There's no acknowledgement that actually, there wasn't much the judge could do because there are sentencing guidelines in place. Slating those who are implementing the current laws is unfair.

The law clearly needs radical change especially with such prevalence of CSA, which is truly shocking. Some of the figures posted here in terms of how many cases there are every year is sickening. It IS mainly men, just like other sexual crimes, and that's where the focus needs to be. However, comments about letting out all the women or making men pay more tax are just infuriating as they're ideological and also unfair.

The real question is, how DO we reform this? I don't know enough about the efficacy of deterrent custodial sentences but the fact is there's not enough prison spaces. So what crimes do we go lighter on to make spaces for CSA cases?

People on this thread are talking about not bothering to imprison for non-violent crimes. And yet, on countless other threads, MN posters are furious about benefit fraud and think people need to be locked up for it. We can't have it all.

The system needs radical reform but I don't know what that looks like, or how it could be funded. But there needs to be real appetite for huge change - and the difficulty with that is that the public won't agree on what's OK and what's not. Look at the furore about Labour releasing some prisoners early - and that's now bitten them on the arse. People are outraged about early releases while simultaneously wanting extra magical spaces for CSA.

I don't think pointing out the practicalities or underlining the difficulties means you don't care. It's possible to have been personally affected by CSA and still want a rational and fact-driven resolution that protects our children in the most effective way.

And also, that means enabling paedophiles to come forward without shame for treatment/help. I'm not referring to people who are doing harm - I'm talking about (probably young) men who realise they have unhealthy attraction to children. BEFORE they access images of children, BEFORE they touch a child......let's get these people help. There will be some that don't want help and glory in their sick tastes - but there will be some that are disgusted with themselves. Right now, there's no easy way to seek help - there needs to be a pathway that can be offered to men to prevent them continuing, to prevent them doing harm to children. People don't like to talk about this because it's dismissed as being a "paedo sympathiser" but nothing can be further from the truth. Prevention is so, so important because only by throwing resources at early prevention together with deterrents and restrictions for offenders, will we actually achieve anything. It's how we protect our children.

I'm 48 and I'm absolutely sick to the back teeth of men and their sexual crimes, our patriarchal society, and misogynism. But at the same time I recognise that we need practical, achievable goals that are actually effective and don't just service an emotional demand.

(Ps - @WinterMorn, thank you, I've found your responses to be balanced and informative, even though it's perhaps not great reading in terms of what's expected and normal in these cases).

Great post!

SerafinasGoose · 16/09/2024 18:21

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/09/2024 18:16

Many years ago I worked with a MAP (multi-agency protection) initative for the rehabilitation of sexual offenders.

You're aware of the other, generally online use of that acronym?

Only just occurred to me now you've mentioned it. I was there before this acronym became common place. But yes, how repulsively ironic. I have to hope it was coincidental: there was never any sense during my work with them that their actions were in any way being encouraged. (One of the 'multi-agencies' was also the Police - not that we can place much faith in that either, nowadays).

NOTA, however, is an absolutely wonderful charity who do difficult work in sometimes awful circumstances.

Even the staff at this agency were disgusted by these people, and sometimes by the job they had to do. But there was also the possibility that they might be saving just one more child from the horrors of CSA.

I've no idea what guises or pretexts they are operating under now. This was a good many years ago.

ClaudiaWinklepanda · 16/09/2024 18:23

southpawsofthenorth · 16/09/2024 18:14

It means that you are given a potential sentence (usually prison time) that will automatically be activated if you break the conditions of your probation.

Everyone knows who this guy is and now everyone knows he a nonce. At the very least his career is over and his reputation in tatters.

Yes, I know that. The point I've been making is that a suspended sentence isn't a punishment, it's a 'don't do this again or else we'll really mean it' judgement.

I understand that a judge only has the sentencing guidelines to work with. It looks like most people feel the sentencing guidelines should be reviewed.

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 18:23

Sorry folks, you can think what you like about me, but not once have I name called, been derogatory or questioned anyone’s sex or motivation. That’s more than some of you can say.

Grmumpy · 16/09/2024 18:23

I agree..he said he is sorry for his own family..what about the little boys abused so that men like him can buy the images. If people like him didn’t pay there would be a lot less abused little children in the world. I doubt any of those poor children will have good mental health.

Alltheyearround · 16/09/2024 18:26

Trainstrike · 16/09/2024 13:51

Unfortunately it's estimated that there could be up to 830,000 UK based adults (almost entirely men of course) who pose a risk to children. There are about 90,000 prison places.

Jesus, that's staggering isn't it?

The police can't keep up. I once read that specialist officers can only do so long (trying to identify victims) as seeing the content is so distressing and a source of trauma.

Why/how has it become so acceptable for men to view child sex abuse?

Do men get bored of 'normal' porn and have to use something more extreme?

Did thousands of men always have this vile urge or is it a result of wider and more sinister porn culture being normalised and easy to access?

How do we stop this at root?

swimlyn · 16/09/2024 18:26

KStockHERO · 16/09/2024 13:28

YANBU. At all.

Funny how almost zero women with mean daddies, mental health issues and bad things happening turn to pedophilia to cope, isn't it?

Like you, I'm raging. Not just about HE but about the general permissiveness about men's despicable behaviours. I really am starting to hate men, which is sad because I'm married to one.

"Funny how almost zero women AND MEN with mean daddies, mental health issues and bad things happening turn to pedophilia to cope, isn't it?"

Fixed that for you... We were three kids living with mental, physical and sexual abuse. None of us (2 boys, 1 girl) ended up offending like this.

Young boys can be victims too. My mum was just as guilty as my dad. Both had strong (inherited) 'religious' beliefs. Ha!

Both are six foot under now which is convenient for al fresco dancing.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 16/09/2024 18:27

OonaStubbs · 16/09/2024 17:47

Anyone convicted of child sex offences should get life in prison, no ifs, no buts. Throw them in a cell until they are dead.

So a 16 year old in a sexual relationship with a 15 year old should get life in prison, no ifs, no bits, throw the, in a cell until they are dead?

SerafinasGoose · 16/09/2024 18:27

SerenityNowInsanityLater · 16/09/2024 18:17

SerafinasGoose

The really bad news is, it doesn’t work.

If it's caught at a young enough age, some of the evidence available at the time indicated that it could.

This may, of course, have changed since then. I'm not an expert in that field.

SerafinasGoose · 16/09/2024 18:29

swimlyn · 16/09/2024 18:26

"Funny how almost zero women AND MEN with mean daddies, mental health issues and bad things happening turn to pedophilia to cope, isn't it?"

Fixed that for you... We were three kids living with mental, physical and sexual abuse. None of us (2 boys, 1 girl) ended up offending like this.

Young boys can be victims too. My mum was just as guilty as my dad. Both had strong (inherited) 'religious' beliefs. Ha!

Both are six foot under now which is convenient for al fresco dancing.

I'm so sorry about what happened to you. That is monstrous.

According to a respected psychiatrist friend, the myth that abuse is hereditary and that abused people are more likely to become abusers themselves, has been debunked (along with the theory of false memory).

Again, I make no claims to expertise and can't cite anything, but this person had a great deal.

southpawsofthenorth · 16/09/2024 18:29

ClaudiaWinklepanda · 16/09/2024 18:23

Yes, I know that. The point I've been making is that a suspended sentence isn't a punishment, it's a 'don't do this again or else we'll really mean it' judgement.

I understand that a judge only has the sentencing guidelines to work with. It looks like most people feel the sentencing guidelines should be reviewed.

Well “don’t do this again” isn’t a bad message to send.

As other posters have said the law tends to focus more on the people who are producing/distributing child abuse images than people who view them. I agree with the OPs point that the inevitable excuses that are trotted out in situations like these should be largely ignored but I don’t think he has been let of the hook.

OonaStubbs · 16/09/2024 18:30

There needs to be a lot more prisons. And the death sentence should be brought back for serious offences.

voiceofastar · 16/09/2024 18:30

It’s incredible that climate activists got 5 years for causing a public nuisance, meanwhile paedophiles get… nothing.

SerafinasGoose · 16/09/2024 18:31

voiceofastar · 16/09/2024 18:30

It’s incredible that climate activists got 5 years for causing a public nuisance, meanwhile paedophiles get… nothing.

The system and precedent does seem entirely wrong, I agree.

MrsTigerface · 16/09/2024 18:32

I agree. To me, it’s like the sentencing judge is saying that the molestation of small children is not that important. I am livid. For the record, I am Welsh, and prior to this I thought HE was wonderful. I am furious. He should have been given a custodial sentence.

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 18:33

SerenityNowInsanityLater · 16/09/2024 18:18

Put your peacock feathers away. You’re coming across as eager now.

You weren’t quite as rude to me the other day when I was defending you on a different thread, were you?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 16/09/2024 18:34

@WinterMorn
@AGirlInACountrySong
@Haroldwilson

Thank you for your measured and informative posts

BlackShuck3 · 16/09/2024 18:35

The unpleasant truth is that a large sector of human males are extremely prone to becoming sexually excited by the vulnerability of children.

I presume they are overwhelmed with pleasure because they are able to totally dominate and control the victim; turn the child into a human sex toy which they have trained for their personal sexual gratification.
Men like young women because they are naïve & easy to exploit, a child is like this but the thrill is supercharged because the child has no power at all compared to the man.

Rosscameasdoody · 16/09/2024 18:35

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 13:20

To be honest, this sentence is actually quite punitive for a first offence. The vast majority of people convicted of this type of behaviour get a community order not a suspended sentence.

He had 7 category A images on his device. I don’t understand why neither he nor the piece of shit who supplied him weren’t handed custodial sentences to be honest. Category A takes no account of either intent or actually accessing the images. Just being on the device is enough. The penalty is between three and six years custodial sentence. As it was, the supplier was only given a suspended sentence, so it effectively ruled out a custodial one for Edwards. The law needs to change to reflect the seriousness of these crimes.

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 18:35

@MyrtlethePurpleTurtle thank you very much 🙂

LuluBlakey1 · 16/09/2024 18:35

ilovesooty · 16/09/2024 13:19

He was never going to get a stiffer sentence than the one handed out to the man who sent him the images. He also has to do a sex offending course and will be on the sex offenders register for seven years. He will be punished and humiliated by his reputation being ruined and being defined by society by the offences he has committed. There would be no purpose in sending him to prison.

And still keep his millions from the BBC and his 'gold-plated' pension. The last 18 months salary and the pension should be forfeited.

HRTQueen · 16/09/2024 18:35

AGirlInACountrySong · 16/09/2024 18:00

@AngelicKaty no. There will be strict monitoring in place

And what does strict monitoring consist of

Meeting members of a team a few times a month and showing his phone and possibly other devices

Utterly useless in managing sex offenders

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Rosscameasdoody · 16/09/2024 18:36

LuluBlakey1 · 16/09/2024 18:35

And still keep his millions from the BBC and his 'gold-plated' pension. The last 18 months salary and the pension should be forfeited.

I believe he’s already been asked to hand back a proportion of the salary paid after he was suspended. Don’t know about the pension though.

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