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Bought Oasis tickets for husbands birthday and now doubting the date I picked

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boymama55 · 16/09/2024 00:42

So for context I’m only posting this late as we have been at a wedding in London this weekend and I spent most of the car journey home asleep (6 hours as had to detour to pick kids up from my mums) and also I rarely experience hangovers these days due to having 2 toddlers so I think my anxiety levels are through the roof atm (lol).

I tried for Manchester tickets first time round, didn’t get into the pre sale ballot so queued for hours in general sale and no luck so gave up and started looking for alternative birthday present ideas as husbands birthday is on 20th September.

Then by some miracle I got invited to enter the presale ballot for the extra Wembley dates and got sent the code to join for the 8.30an slot yesterday. I was getting ready for the wedding at the same time as waiting in the queue. Ideally I needed Saturday tickets as my husband is a primary school teacher at a private school so the chances of him being allowed to take Monday off is pretty slim if not out of the question (he basically wouldn’t want to ask). Whereas I could take Monday as holiday if I wanted to or just swap my Friday as I don’t work Fridays atm. Anyway annoyingly there was 16,000 people ahead of me and by the time I got to buy tickets standing had gone. I really wanted standing. I then tried seating and at first there was only restricted view seats so I went back and tried again and then there was 2 top tier seats but I knew he wouldn’t want to be that high up so I tried again and there were 2 seats for lower section but for £206 each and I still wasn’t sure they were the best option?! I’ve never been to Wembley so not a clue where to sit as I just assumed I would get standing and I felt very under pressure to be quick - I almost bought them then last minute pressed the back button out of panic and then just couldn’t get back to where I was and had to join the queue again (yes, I know :| ). I then thought right I’ll just see if I can join the Sunday queue instead and low and behold standing tickets were available so I quickly added to basket without hesitation and purchased.

however, now I am thinking that I should have just stuck to the Saturday and just bought the seated tickets (lower section) ?! As we would be staying with my brother in twickenham which is at least 40 mins on a bus on a Sunday late at night and then it’s a 3 hr 20 min drive from his house to where we live so for my husband to be at work for 8am we’d have to leave at 4am in the morning 🙈 or we park at Wembley and drive back to ours after the gig and get home for 2am (if we’re lucky).
I don’t drive so it would be him driving.

So now I’m thinking have I made a huge mistake and will I end up reselling my tickets closer to the date? Or should he just be grateful that I got him standing tickets to a once in a lifetime experience and as a one off he’ll accept the situation as it is?! Also if he doesn’t want to go because logistically he doesn’t think it will work am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?

what would you have done in my/his situation?! Advice appreciated.

OP posts:
KievLoverTwo · 16/09/2024 00:45

Sorry I haven’t read all your post as I am about to fall asleep, just be extremely careful if you decide to sell them because I think they are going to try to make a point about ticket touting and cancel re-sold tickets. I can’t be sure how, just wanted to warn you to look out for possible risks.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 16/09/2024 00:45

Is getting home at 2am the end of the world ?
just once.

Floralnomad · 16/09/2024 00:49

Just drive back afterwards I really can’t see what the issue is .

RobinHood19 · 16/09/2024 00:52

Surely one night of getting home at 2am won’t kill you/him. Unless you’re generally sleep-deprived / burnt out and driving that late would be dangerous?

Happiestathome · 16/09/2024 00:56

Whilst Saturday probably would have been better, that’s in the past now. I’d present him with the Sunday tickets and wouldn’t even mention that you could have gone for Saturday. Personally, I wouldn’t be annoyed if he isn’t up for it. I work in a school and wouldn’t want to have such a late Sunday but equally I’m sure plenty wouldn’t mind for something special.

RollerRunner · 16/09/2024 00:59

Getting home that late is fine as a one off. He will be tired but if you are going to go you might as well be where you want to be in th stadium. I think you did the right thing.

boymama55 · 16/09/2024 01:00

@KievLoverTwo ohh no problem, it is v.late! I would only resell through ticket master and only at face value, as I would just want back what I paid as they were £150 each so not cheap!

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boymama55 · 16/09/2024 01:08

@RobinHood19 so it would be a 3/4 hour drive down on the Saturday and then a 3/4 hour drive back after oasis finishes on top of at least 5 hours standing and then he has work at 8am whereas I’d most likely book it off work as I know I’d struggle and all I have to do is sit in a car. I know he really wanted to see them though and it’s the last night so maybe he will think it will be worth it? I guess I’ll just have to wait and see!

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Itisjustmyopinion · 16/09/2024 01:16

If I was in you and your DH position with work, I would have taken the seated tickets on the Saturday rather than the standing on a Sunday where you will be no doubt clock watching all night and I would not be able to fully enjoy the gig if I knew I had a long drive home and work in the morning

Maybe look out for resale for the Saturday and then sell your own Sunday nearer the time

boymama55 · 16/09/2024 01:16

@Happiestathome thank you, that’s really helpful advice! I think I’m just overthinking it as I always want to make sure I’ve picked the right thing for his birthday and I’d feel bad if he isn’t thrilled about it being on the Sunday and so far away. Like you said though, as a one off he might see past the late night and still want to go.

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Caerulea · 16/09/2024 01:25

No point in stressing over what you think you ought to have done, you can't change it and you still managed to get tickets - so that's a massive win!

If your DH is a huge Oasis fan & didn't get to see them Back In The Day then he's going to be over the moon & probably really shocked you got tickets after all the hoohah that happened.

Just sit back & revel in your excellent gift purchasing skills

boymama55 · 16/09/2024 01:38

@Itisjustmyopinion Thank you, this is what I’m now thinking too - I’ll just have to wait until Friday and see what his reaction is. If he thinks I shouldn’t have got Sunday tickets as it’s not practical for him with work, I will just have to resell and find him another birthday present! 🙈

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boymama55 · 16/09/2024 02:05

@Caerulea I think I’m just stressing because I usually would have asked his opinion on which tickets to get as he’s more fussy than me when it comes to view - he’s also 6ft4 so I know he would always prefer to be standing than restricted to a seated area, but I’m now questioning whether booking the Sunday is a bigger compromise and maybe he won’t enjoy as much as won’t be able to relax like he would have done on the Saturday? Hopefully he will see we’re lucky to have got tickets 😅

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CareerChange24 · 16/09/2024 02:08

Do you realise how much someone would kill for those tickets? I entered every ballot spent thirteen hours logged in trying to get tickets and now being threatened that if I pay extortionate prices for resale tickets they’ll be cancelled. I was told I’d never walk again and when I had an op that fixed that and I could stand again my first dream was to stand or sit on the floor to an oasis gig. I own every single vinyl, watched high flying birds when no one knew who they were and travelled solo to do it. True fans have missed out on this opportunity so you should go for it and enjoy it.

JMSA · 16/09/2024 02:12

Stop worrying and overthinking and just have a bloody good time!

Catza · 16/09/2024 07:36

boymama55 · 16/09/2024 01:08

@RobinHood19 so it would be a 3/4 hour drive down on the Saturday and then a 3/4 hour drive back after oasis finishes on top of at least 5 hours standing and then he has work at 8am whereas I’d most likely book it off work as I know I’d struggle and all I have to do is sit in a car. I know he really wanted to see them though and it’s the last night so maybe he will think it will be worth it? I guess I’ll just have to wait and see!

Drive down on a Saturday, spend the night at Twickenham as planned and then have a nice day and a gig on Sunday before driving home.

Clearinguptheclutter · 16/09/2024 07:40

I think you’re overthinking. Will be fine. Not sure how realistic it is but it may be possible to swap with someone nearer the time? There will be people with Saturday tickets who prefer Sunday

lemonyellows · 16/09/2024 07:42

He could always ring in sick if he has a good attendance record 🫣

Doingmybest12 · 16/09/2024 07:53

Can you go to your brother's the day before so there's an easy journey there on the Sunday. I would imagine being at the last show is an added bonus. If he's not feeling its the best plan then you can work on swapping it somehow. I'm sure he'll be delighted though.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 16/09/2024 07:54

Seriously? You had a choice of tickets and you're still grumbling?? What a lovely position to be in. There are 1000s of people out here who didn't get tickets despite hours of trying.

Anyway. Have an easy Sunday morning. After the gig, you drive home, your dh can sleep in the car. Go straight to bed when you get back.

Ivehearditbothways · 16/09/2024 07:58

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 16/09/2024 07:54

Seriously? You had a choice of tickets and you're still grumbling?? What a lovely position to be in. There are 1000s of people out here who didn't get tickets despite hours of trying.

Anyway. Have an easy Sunday morning. After the gig, you drive home, your dh can sleep in the car. Go straight to bed when you get back.

The OP doesn’t know how to drive. Not sure why she can’t just learn.

AccountCreateUsername · 16/09/2024 08:01

Hi OP. Can’t your husband take Monday off or start later? It’s a lovely gift but sounds exhausting plus he won’t even be able to have a beer if he’s got a late night drive ahead…

MartinCrieffsLemon · 16/09/2024 08:06

Well, if he won't even ask about the Monday off then it's kind of his own fault that he has to drive back isn't it?

You posted this at nearly 1am after a 6 hour drive, was it just after you got back or was it that you were awake now after a long drive?

If he's really not sure about the late drive back when he opens them then suggest you'll keep an eye out for potential Saturday resale tickets and then sell yours on.

Ivehearditbothways · 16/09/2024 08:10

MartinCrieffsLemon · 16/09/2024 08:06

Well, if he won't even ask about the Monday off then it's kind of his own fault that he has to drive back isn't it?

You posted this at nearly 1am after a 6 hour drive, was it just after you got back or was it that you were awake now after a long drive?

If he's really not sure about the late drive back when he opens them then suggest you'll keep an eye out for potential Saturday resale tickets and then sell yours on.

He’s a teacher. They don’t get days off. They even find it hard to get leave authorised for funerals in a lot of schools if the family member wasn’t a direct relative. And he won’t even be able to enjoy it as OP won’t drive so he has to.

It was a bit of a stupid idea of buy Sunday tickets when she had Saturday tickets available. But what’s done is done.

Littleleap · 16/09/2024 08:13

I think in any sale you just had to take what you could get so I'd give them to him as planned and if he thinks it's a problem just put them back up for resale on Ticketmaster, they'll be snapped up in seconds.

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