Bought Oasis tickets for husbands birthday and now doubting the date I picked

[boymama55]

So for context I’m only posting this late as we have been at a wedding in London this weekend and I spent most of the car journey home asleep (6 hours as had to detour to pick kids up from my mums) and also I rarely experience hangovers these days due to having 2 toddlers so I think my anxiety levels are through the roof atm (lol).

I tried for Manchester tickets first time round, didn’t get into the pre sale ballot so queued for hours in general sale and no luck so gave up and started looking for alternative birthday present ideas as husbands birthday is on 20th September.

Then by some miracle I got invited to enter the presale ballot for the extra Wembley dates and got sent the code to join for the 8.30an slot yesterday. I was getting ready for the wedding at the same time as waiting in the queue. Ideally I needed Saturday tickets as my husband is a primary school teacher at a private school so the chances of him being allowed to take Monday off is pretty slim if not out of the question (he basically wouldn’t want to ask). Whereas I could take Monday as holiday if I wanted to or just swap my Friday as I don’t work Fridays atm. Anyway annoyingly there was 16,000 people ahead of me and by the time I got to buy tickets standing had gone. I really wanted standing. I then tried seating and at first there was only restricted view seats so I went back and tried again and then there was 2 top tier seats but I knew he wouldn’t want to be that high up so I tried again and there were 2 seats for lower section but for £206 each and I still wasn’t sure they were the best option?! I’ve never been to Wembley so not a clue where to sit as I just assumed I would get standing and I felt very under pressure to be quick - I almost bought them then last minute pressed the back button out of panic and then just couldn’t get back to where I was and had to join the queue again (yes, I know :| ). I then thought right I’ll just see if I can join the Sunday queue instead and low and behold standing tickets were available so I quickly added to basket without hesitation and purchased.

however, now I am thinking that I should have just stuck to the Saturday and just bought the seated tickets (lower section) ?! As we would be staying with my brother in twickenham which is at least 40 mins on a bus on a Sunday late at night and then it’s a 3 hr 20 min drive from his house to where we live so for my husband to be at work for 8am we’d have to leave at 4am in the morning 🙈 or we park at Wembley and drive back to ours after the gig and get home for 2am (if we’re lucky).
I don’t drive so it would be him driving.

So now I’m thinking have I made a huge mistake and will I end up reselling my tickets closer to the date? Or should he just be grateful that I got him standing tickets to a once in a lifetime experience and as a one off he’ll accept the situation as it is?! Also if he doesn’t want to go because logistically he doesn’t think it will work am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?

what would you have done in my/his situation?! Advice appreciated.

I'm a primary teacher and I wouldn't even contemplate getting home at 2am on a Sunday night. It would be too much on a Monday and set me up badly for the week.

But I'm not your husband.

I think you'll have to just wait and see what he says.

Well, if he won't even ask about the Monday off then it's kind of his own fault that he has to drive back isn't it?

Schools generally don't allow for time off in term time. Some might as a one off but it really is school dependent. At most, it's an automatic no. If he doesn't even want to ask, it's because he already knows it's a no and asking would be pointless and a bit ridiculous.

OP literally says he won't even ask
And it's a private school, they are sometimes more open to allowing it

This is going to be the "cultural event" of next year, like the Eras tour was this year. You should go. You can park right next to the Stadium and there won't be any traffic once out of London. I'm not sure 5 hours standing is too much of an issue. Lots of people will spend a day out walking then drive that far.

You can resell easily via Ticketmaster for face value

I would go and just accept that you need to get up very early on the Monday morning, and/or see if he would be allowed to go in an hour late so it's not quite such an early start. Or I still feel quite awake after a concert so maybe another option is you drive half way, stay in a cheap hotel and get up early but not as brutally early the next day.

You will be tired on Monday so just go to bed really early and you'll be fine by Tuesday.

You'll have to leave the Sunday gig early to get ahead of the masses.

You got the standing tickets you wanted, congratulations!!

Think of it like this, sometimes we experience bad nights sleep for rubbish reasons out of our control then have to go to work the next day anyway… At least the reason you’re losing sleep is a fun reason.

Neither of you will remember the following day in a few years time but you’ll remember the concert. The Saturday option sounded overpriced and shit. You made the right (or just lucky?) snap decision and it paid off. Don’t fret, celebrate!

Jeez, stop overthinking it - just do it. Life is short. He wants to see them. I’d be furious if someone bought me tickets to a band I really wanted to see and then sold them! He’ll be tired on Monday. It’s not the end of the world.

If he won’t ask it’s because he knows the answer will be 100% no. And if he knows that, and his bosses know that everyone is aware of the policy, then he’ll look an idiot for asking. So of course he won’t ask.

@boymama55 I have two standing tickets for mancherster and we live in London!! Fancy swapping??

To get a ticket at all was really hard, I'm sure he'll understand that! Its not like they aren't in demand and you had hours to browse and think about it. It'll be fine as a one off I'm sure.

@boymama55 my tickets are for heanton park on the 19th July and I panic bought but the whole thing is going to be an expensive headache to be honest what with hotels or simply driving all that way! Would love to have the Wembley ones, private message me and we can have a chat.

@boymama55

Beware of anyone offering to swop tickets - we went Taylor Swift and this was everywhere. They won't even be available to transfer until 2-3 days before probably.

I would be giving them to him and telling him that these were all that was available at the time. Tell him how hard you tried!! Then discuss. Be open to possibly changing them as the day gets nearer and other options might become available. I think there’ll be a lot of swapping and changing near the time.
Personally, as a teacher, I would be prepared to suck it up for one special occasion,

Driving from Wembley (if you get parking) will be insane

we often leave at 4am when we have a long drive home as DH much prefers it as there is very little traffic he also prefers to sleep then get up get through the day and have an early night to catch up on sleep so I would do that

there are ways to make it work and if he is a big Oasis fan it will be worth it!

OP there are so many people who were desperate for tickets and didn’t get them. Just take Monday off if you are stressing. It will be amazing - enjoy.

Get the playlist from the previous night and be ready to leave as the final bars of Wonderwall or whatever are being strummed. If you're quick off the mark you should beat the worst of the crowds.
Also worth checking if you take the car on Justpark if there is anywhere nearby you can park that isn't a multi storey as that will save you a lot of time.

Speaking as someone who was a teacher for decades, this wouldn't bother me at all. Life is for the living, not for making "sensible" choices all the time. So I will be tired on the Monday, so what? I'll recover and probably drink a lot of coffee. I will have had an amazing experience, once in a lifetime. That is more than worth not being fresh and full of vigor on one Monday morning.

When I lived in Bristol I would often drive to the o2 in London then drive straight back home after a show and be back in work the next day. It's hardly the end of the world! Yes I was tired but being tired was much better than sitting in work thinking "I wish I'd gone to see xyz last night". It's not like it's every single night!

I’d drive down Saturday, have a chill night and get loads of sleep, relax Sunday morning, go to the concert, leave a few mins early and get on the road home.

I think you’re massively over thinking it. It’s better to be tired for one day at work than to miss out completely.

Don't tell him you had an option. Present it as a miracle, then work backwards from what you have. If it's really worrying you then tell him now, adults don't need big surprises to be on their actual birthday.

It’s really not the end of the world. He will survive work assisted by the residual adrenaline.

Ps I got three tickets, seated, for the opening night at Murrayfield. 119 quid each. I haven't met any other person who actually got tickets! Will these stadiums be empty? It's all very mysterious.

Getting home at 2am is a bit ambitious if you are driving to/from Wembley. The roads and the car parks are chaotic, and it can easily take at least an hour or two to get out of the car park.

Are schools still open at the end of July?