Bought Oasis tickets for husbands birthday and now doubting the date I picked

[boymama55]

So for context I’m only posting this late as we have been at a wedding in London this weekend and I spent most of the car journey home asleep (6 hours as had to detour to pick kids up from my mums) and also I rarely experience hangovers these days due to having 2 toddlers so I think my anxiety levels are through the roof atm (lol).

I tried for Manchester tickets first time round, didn’t get into the pre sale ballot so queued for hours in general sale and no luck so gave up and started looking for alternative birthday present ideas as husbands birthday is on 20th September.

Then by some miracle I got invited to enter the presale ballot for the extra Wembley dates and got sent the code to join for the 8.30an slot yesterday. I was getting ready for the wedding at the same time as waiting in the queue. Ideally I needed Saturday tickets as my husband is a primary school teacher at a private school so the chances of him being allowed to take Monday off is pretty slim if not out of the question (he basically wouldn’t want to ask). Whereas I could take Monday as holiday if I wanted to or just swap my Friday as I don’t work Fridays atm. Anyway annoyingly there was 16,000 people ahead of me and by the time I got to buy tickets standing had gone. I really wanted standing. I then tried seating and at first there was only restricted view seats so I went back and tried again and then there was 2 top tier seats but I knew he wouldn’t want to be that high up so I tried again and there were 2 seats for lower section but for £206 each and I still wasn’t sure they were the best option?! I’ve never been to Wembley so not a clue where to sit as I just assumed I would get standing and I felt very under pressure to be quick - I almost bought them then last minute pressed the back button out of panic and then just couldn’t get back to where I was and had to join the queue again (yes, I know :| ). I then thought right I’ll just see if I can join the Sunday queue instead and low and behold standing tickets were available so I quickly added to basket without hesitation and purchased.

however, now I am thinking that I should have just stuck to the Saturday and just bought the seated tickets (lower section) ?! As we would be staying with my brother in twickenham which is at least 40 mins on a bus on a Sunday late at night and then it’s a 3 hr 20 min drive from his house to where we live so for my husband to be at work for 8am we’d have to leave at 4am in the morning 🙈 or we park at Wembley and drive back to ours after the gig and get home for 2am (if we’re lucky).
I don’t drive so it would be him driving.

So now I’m thinking have I made a huge mistake and will I end up reselling my tickets closer to the date? Or should he just be grateful that I got him standing tickets to a once in a lifetime experience and as a one off he’ll accept the situation as it is?! Also if he doesn’t want to go because logistically he doesn’t think it will work am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?

what would you have done in my/his situation?! Advice appreciated.

Have you seen this group on Facebook? Not sure how it works but might be worth looking into. Someone is looking to swap tickets

I don’t know how you could do this safely though that’s the only thing !

Honestly, plenty of mums of young kids go to work on that much sleep routinely, so as a one-off for something he really wants to do I don't think it's that bad. Make it through with caffeine and then early night on Monday.

If he’s a big fan then he’ll be over the moon- the tickets are not easy to get hold of! One day of being tired will surely be worth it for a big fan. Could you go down on the friday after work and make a weekend of it?

Please don't explain any of this. Just say 'yay I got these for you'.

Honestly, if he doesn't see he's lucky then, in answer to your final question in the OP, yes you would have every right to be annoyed cos that's just bratty.

I really hope your anxiety around this is down to you (I've got anxiety & I can create panic out of anything Lol) & not cos he's got a history of being ungrateful.

Saturday would have been better. I didn’t want standing as I didn’t fancy piss being thrown at me (friend confirmed that happened recently at Liam’s concert). We are lower tier. Maybe just ask him, would be rather go then or not at all. Chances are you can sell them very easily, probably to friends

I think your DH will be understanding, maybe worth asking if he could start at 9am on the Monday and get up early to drive there.

I understand that it would not be reason to ask for a day off, even though I bet some of the parents would if their child was going.

Was going to say exactly this. Assuming the set finishes around 10:30 it's entirely possible (unfortunately been through it before) to not get to your car and get out of the car park until midnight.

I assume OP has tickets for the September dates.

The two latest shows at the end of September

I think I'd look at if I could hire a car to drive us home after the gig- yes it is extravagant but it's a birthday gift. Being able to both relax in the car and sleep after will feel wonderful and will definitely make it more of a memorable night. I think it would be worth the expense.

After a gig we got home home at 03:15 and I was at work for 08:00.

I hope he’ll be pleased! Don’t tell him you could have got Saturday though.

@vixsta2001 I’ve private messaged you - which date did you get tickets for?xx

Ah, OP, I think it’ll be fine as a one off. We have Sunday tickets and for me the stress of trying to swap is worse than the stress of just getting home late on Sunday night.

You could always drive to let him sleep but people go to work on 5hrs sleep quite often, it’s not the end of the world.

He’ll be overjoyed that you have tickets rather than negative about the date.

p.s i am also standing and we’re all going to get soaked with piss aren’t we 😬

Don’t tell him you had the option of Saturday tickets. If you do the what-ifs might ruin it for him the way they already are for you. He knows tickets were like gold dust; just tell him you took what you could get but you know it’s not ideal and if he does end up wanting to resell you won’t be offended.

I’m very jealous by the way!

@NewNameNoelle ahh thank you, I’m just overthinking it. Hangover anxiety is getting the better of me and I’m clearly having ‘first world problems’ moment 😂 well done on getting tickets - most definitely a pinch me moment!!!

Thank to everyone for replying - I agree with everyone who is telling me not to let him know I could have got seats for the Saturday 🙈 I was literally mid getting ready for a wedding, he kept looking at me using my phone and I was desperately trying to get tickets without him suspecting anything and I also got hung up on buying standing tickets and where was best to sit and then lost my place and then thought I’ll just have to try for the Sunday. It wasn’t until we got home from London lastnight night that it dawned on me that it will be quite a big ask for him to drive us back after it finishes and be in work 5 hours later. I don’t drive otherwise I would have obviously driven him back as I can get the Monday off. Logistically we could drive down on the Friday eve and make a weekend of it but it means asking a family member to have our boys for 3 nights which is a bit much. They are 3 and nearly 2 years old and organising anything without them is a logistical challenge so adding my husband’s work situation has caused me to overthink it all. He would want to enjoy a beer or too as well. However I just need to let go now, like everyone has said, at least we got tickets, hopefully he will see it that way too. It might be possible for him to start a little later on the Monday but he even said this morning that Mondays are always busy for him and I know in the past they have refused staff going to family weddings before so I doubt they would let him have the day off for Oasis - he would definitely be too embarrassed to ask anyway!

@Clarefromwork ahh thank you for this! I think I will just tell all I could get was the Sunday and didn’t want to miss out on this opportunity for him, however if he thinks it would be too much for him to logistically make it work then I will tell him we can just hold on to the tickets and hopefully swap them closer to the time. Worst case scenario a friend at work said he’ll buy them off me if we can’t get it to work x

Is there another way you can travel that doesn't involve your DH driving? Whereabouts are you?

London to Manchester is only an hour on a plane, for example.

If I was him, I'd not be very happy with a present that meant I had to do 8 hours driving, especially 4 hours after a gig! I'd feel like I had to pretend that I was grateful for it so as not to be rude but actually would be really pissed off, especially if the drive involved chauffeuring the giver who would be able to fully enjoy the gig with drinking and a day off the next day.

Not trying to make you feel bad, but I think you have to give them to him letting him know that you know it's not ideal and won't be offended at all if he would rather not go.

It'll be absolutely fine! Most adults can handle a day at work after a few hours sleep, a lot of adults with young children do that most days! 🤣

We took our kids to see Frozen at the theatre in London in June on a Sunday, kids are DS6 and DD3, we went at 7am and got back into our train station in Durham shortly after midnight, then had to get the car and drive back. It was one of the best days we've ever had as a family and worth it! DH and DS6 both survived a day at work/school and we all had an early night the next day. 😴 It was the best adventure. Life is short.

@EverybodyWantsTo thank you for your honesty. I was thinking the exact same, which is was my main reason for posting - I almost feel like I’m giving him a shit sandwich. At the end of the day only he knows what worth he will place on the tickets so I’ll just see what he wants to do. I’m going to try my best to get resale tickets for a better date if I can and then just resell the ones I already have for face value. Failing that I’ll just sell them and put the money towards something else.

Why though it is hardly a secret that Oasis tickets are hard to come by and the fact she tried and secured tickets is amazing in the first place. This isn’t a show you can see at anytime or something she wants to go to it is a huge concert for those who like Oasis and Manchester to London isn’t far especially given lengths people did to see Taylor Swift at Wembley and the miles travelled

she also got him standing which is what he wanted is it ideal no but for these types of events compromised is often needed for the experience

Could you learn to drive in the next year?