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To ask you to help me pick which job to take?

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belindawolves · 15/09/2024 07:37

I have to decide by tomorrow and have no clue so posting here for traffic, hope that's okay.

I have 2DC, year 1&3, who live with me but go to their dads EOW. I have a DH who has a very flexible role so I don't have childcare issues. I have worked full time since they were a few months old apart from having six months off work this year to be at home before youngest started school. This is just to paint the picture to get an outside perspective on which one objectively seems best. We don't need the money but I just wanted to have a job for myself.

Job 1: Monday-Friday 9am-5pm, no weekends, about a 40 minute commute each way, £1655 a month after tax, in a field where there is career progression. Mentally stimulating and I think I'd be good at it.

Job 2: 30 hours over 4 days, mix of weekday and weekends depending but a bit flexible and a 15 minute walk from my house. £1340 a month after tax. Worked there previously. Supervisor role but no real scope for progression past that point.

Job 3: 2 days a week, but have to work 2-3 Saturdays a month. £670 a month, no progression opportunities (Manager even said so herself), ironically probably the one with most to learn. 10 minute walk from house.

I have no idea which one to pick. On the one hand, I really would love to not have to work weekends and would find the job mentally stimulating but it means sacrificing a lot of time with DC and leaves DH to do all school runs and some club runs (he doesn't mind but I feel a bit bad). The other thing about job 1 that is appealing to me is that I didn't go to uni and I feel like this is a real chance at a job that could lead to a career, which I've never had before. Job 2 I would not be mentally taking anything home once I leave the building, job 3 has "homework" to get to know the products. Which job would you pick in my position? Thanks so much Smile

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Calamitousness · 15/09/2024 19:02

5 days a week is a lot for not a lot of money. Is it worth it? Is say just do the two days and wait till a better offer or better opportunities to progress/get further education comes along. Kids are still super young.

belindawolves · 18/09/2024 13:11

So this situation took a turn.

I had been offered job 2 via phone, however I went in yesterday for a chat about the specifics and just had a gut reaction that it felt wrong. The manager has changed and there was just something about them that I couldn't work out but didn't like, despite the fact that they seemed nice. I've never had a 'gut reaction' but it just feels wrong. So, I think I'm actually going to go for job 3, it's still on the table and even though I don't want to work Saturday's, it feels like the best fit for our family overall.

OP posts:
belindawolves · 08/10/2024 07:13

If anyone is interested, I picked job number 3Smile

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HelenWheels · 08/10/2024 07:19

that is a change of mind
but less hours and less stress on your family?
thanks for the update

Calamitousness · 08/10/2024 08:17

Ah, that’s the one I thought was best for you. Glad to hear it.

TryOnATeaCosy · 08/10/2024 08:23

How’s it going?

rainbowstardrops · 08/10/2024 08:36

As you don't need the money, I don't blame you for opting for number 3. The weekends are a bit naff but your children go to their dad EOW anyway. How's it going?
Oh and lucky you for having THREE jobs to choose from!

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