I hate the radio being on

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My husband is at home all the time due to work from home, and he has the radio on all day. He watches breakfast tv in the morning (I cannot stand light entertainment) and then has the radio on all day. It’s radio 6, which I detest. All soft rock and ding ding dang dang and it stresses me out. I’ve never been a music fan as is probably clear. I’d be fine if it were talking or even radio 2, I just hate radio 6.

if I listen or watch I instinctively do so privately, I have an iPad and a phone and loads of headphones. I rarely watch the big TV if he’s home. He’s not a monster, he’ll happily leave me to it and go to another room, I just don’t think it’s that great for a relationship to both be always staring at different boxes in different rooms.

if he turns it off it’s like I’ve peed on his chips. He makes me feel like such a killjoy and that he’s being controlled. I think I have a sensory thing where too many sources of noise (we have two teens) sends me a bit wonky.

Hes able to do what he wants all day pretty much, is it awful that I don’t want it on for 12 hours a day? Should I say - you’ve had that for three hours, now let’s put on heart! (I know it’s sad, but I’d prefer that or motown).

Am I massive killjoy?

Headphones. For him or for you! Maybe take it in turns!

He needs headphones!

I don't think either of you are BU really, it's just a preference. A compromise on changing the station now and again sounds fair. Would he consider wireless headphones or does he just like having the background noise?

He has headphones, he doesn’t want to wear them as he feels like he should be able to just have it on.

I think if he knew how it made me feel (anxious before I even realise) he would turn it off. But he doesn’t see a problem.

I’m thinking of breaking a promise I made myself and starting to watch KUWTK round the clock on quite loud to see how he reacts.

YANBU. I can't stand constant noise.

If he wants to listen to it, he should use headphones or go into another room.

I'm with you, can't abide having to listen to someone else's music, it's just annoying! My DH also has his on when wfh, won't wear headphones. I know I'm over sensitive to sounds but I do think, why so loud? X

He needs to use headphones and just listen as ambient noise only when you’re not there. He is not being fair.

I need peace. My DH would respect that and wear air pods if he wanted to listen to/watch something that irritated the hell out of me. DD wears them all the time and has the music/podcast playing on her phone.

It's inconsiderate to expect everyone else in the house to listen to your choice whether they want to or not.

Wow I did not expect so much agreement and support. Makes me realise I’ve felt very guilty about this for a long time and I maybe should not have done! His voice just sounds so disappointed when he turns it off (Alexa).

Just reach a compromise. He can have it on at certain hours and on headphones at other times.

Sounds very annoying- and I like radio 6 at times, but not all day.

Very unnecessary when he can get headphones.

It’s the restraint he hates, TBH. Compromise is not a natural state for him!

I couldn't bear it. It would absolutely fry my brain - I hate noise and constant music.

He needs to put headphones in if he wants music. You don't inflict it on everybody else.

How is he restrained?

I wouldn't be able for this either OP and I'm a music fan! Are you also WFH?

Id rather hear kids all day in fact i love the sound of loud kids chatting.

By not doing what he wants to do, and would do if I were not moaning.

The problem with people who aren’t “noise sensitive” is that they just don’t understand how horrible a person with misophonia or a similar condition feels when forced to be in an environment where this kind of noise is happening. I’m sure most of them would turn it off / down / stop it if they only realised.

I cannot abide it.

I find shopping to be very disorienting and upsetting due to the dreadful racket being broadcast continuously. To have to endure it in one’s home is heartbreaking. 💔

YANBU. I love it when DH works in the office because the house is blissfully silent.

No I do a hybrid thing and have an office just off the living room. It’s just a have to be shut out of the main living space as the radio is on, and locked away and I’m perfectly happy to have the doors open and listen to the family.

6Music is not soft rock 😂 it's anything but, lots of different stuff which makes it great to listen to all day, not much repeating and no adverts.

Why are you in the same room when he's working?

He needs to work in a separate room with the door closed and if you can hear the radio then it's too loud, so he needs to turn it down.

If the then goes to the kitchen/toilet/whatever he needs to shut the room door.

But how is he not doing what he wants to do if he listens through air pods?

He wants to listen to it out loud.

He’s self-employed and works sporadic hours so sometimes he’s just around the house. He does a lot of cooking.