When you stay at your ILs how tidy/clean is it?

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just that

Spotless. But they're retired and have a cleaner. Our house isn't 🤣

MILs house always filthy.
FILs house always spotless.

What do you mean by filthy?

I wouldn't stay at my ILs house, thankfully they don't have the room for us!

It's cluttered, smells of damp in the bathroom, furniture is on the way out. They moved in to this flat as a temporary thing donkeys years ago so have never done anything with it.
The tv broke so they just put the new tv in front of the old one.

They are lovely but I wouldn't stay there.

Pristine, very luxurious. Plus she cooks really well and he serves good wine so its win win.

Both my mums and my in laws homes are as clean as they usually are, regardless of whether we’re visiting or staying or whatever. I suppose my in laws is probably cleaner if I was being picky but it’s just the two of them snd they have no pets/live in a village whereas my mum still has a couple of my siblings at home, plus loads of grandkids who visit often, several dogs, a cat, lives on a farm… you get the picture. It’s clean and tidy still but more ‘lived in’ I guess.

Mil,s flat is absolutely spotless , I’m the one whose embarrassed when she visits me .

I go to see my MIL, not to check her cleaning standards. So can't say I've noticed.

MIL's - spotless. Not even a speck of dust anywhere.

FIL's - you couldn't pay me to stay there, I don't even visit. It's cluttered, filthy, stinks of cigarettes and everything has a sticky coating of what I presume is nicotine over it. Last time I was there the downstairs toilet had no loo roll, no hand soap and the towel in there was absolutely gopping.

Not pleasant at all. But MIL is disabled and FIL does his best. We always put all our clothes in the wash the minute we get home and all have a bath or shower as the smell sticks to everything.

ILs: pristine. MIL is so houseproud that it distresses us to spot cobwebs in corners. We wish she had a cleaner. She does too, but FIL insists they don't need one, he can help. MIL doesn't want his 'help'.

My parents: has always been cluttered but clean. They are very old and frail, and now have a wonderful cleaner. But you can see when dm has done the dishes, because they are not properly clean any more. And I'm not sure they notice that the house is getting decrepit. Distresses us, but not, I think, them.

I don't stay with my mil but her house is very clean because she has an awesome cleaner. Me!

tidy and clean, as is my father’s. Wouldn’t stay in a filthy / unclean house

it's awful. I try to avoid going as much as possible.

Never stay at MILs but her little flat is spotless (only her there and not many visitors)

When our dc bring their partners home I definitely go the extra mile with the cleaning, I'm paranoid they'll think our house is a dump 😂

Do you help them?

MIL - fine, sometimes needs dusting but ok. Full of crap old furniture and tat in cabinets, but not a health hazard.
FIL - a hoarder like one of those tv programmes. I would never eat, drink or sit down there. I've not been for years so no idea what it's like now.

My parents - pristine, cosy, lovely furniture, well decorated, well stocked fridge. I'd like to live there!

We don't live close enough and they have refused help in the past. It's not just us who feel this way - my sibling in-laws also feel the same and again help is refused.

Spotless but with a general air of everything being tired, dated, possibly a bit faulty if not outright broken and in need of replacement.

None of her adult children stay any more because the shower doesn't work and you need a special knack to flush the loo.

Mil was always very house proud, to the point I’d stress when she came over to ours. She gradually deteriorated and it was sad to see her lovely home musty and dusty. Refused to get a cleaner and would get offended if we started doing it. Lovely lady, there’s a big gap in our family now she’s passed away

It's only spotless because we arranged a cleaner when MIL's eyesight started failing (well she is nearly 90) and she couldn't really see when things needed doing.
That poor cleaner, all those toby jugs and 'best grandma ever' ornaments and little china dogs and VHS tapes (yes).

My parents house is spotless.

My inlaws house isn't my idea of clean. The bathroom is really grubby. Hairy carpets. The kitchen worktops are at least wiped down and the kitchen appears to be clean! We lived with them for a while and the bathroom was so disgusting I refused to bath my DS in the bath and instead we spent HOURS scrubbing it whilst pretending to bath him!

Fil house is very clean but stinks of smoke and that alone is enough to put anybody off wanted to visit let alone stay the night.
Grandparent in laws...is spotless both her daughters & us hoover everytime we visit and dust around ect the house is always ready for visitors.
My mum's house is spotless and very homely and smells lovely,and I wouldn't no about my dad's house as I've not been for about 4 years.

MIL's house is clean but dusty and a tiny bit cluttered in a nice lived-in way. Our house is far worse!

My parents live like monks, and basically only wipe down the kitchen counters, chuck bleach down the loo occasionally and change bed linen. Not sure when the floors were last mopped and I don't think the fridge has ever been cleaned but all they keep in it is eggs, olives and champagne so it doesn't really get that dirty.

MIL house is always clean and tidy but in a pleasant 'lived in' way. She sometimes gets on my nerves but I've always liked that she isn't overly tidy and neurotic about house stuff, makes me feel more relaxed!