When you stay at your ILs how tidy/clean is it?

[Paltor]

just that

Well my FIL has been married 3 times, so I'm on my third MIL.

• Late MIL (DH's Mum): Gorgeous apartment, bit cluttered, but clean, comfy and super welcoming.
• Ex-Step-MIL: House so filthy I refuse to take my toddler to visit. Squirrels living in the roof, leaky toilet, no working showers, dodgy kitchen tap.
• Current-step-MIL + FIL: Grey crushed velvet interior design monstrosity, but it is very clean.

By my standards, show home level of clean. Intimidatingly so. Like it's never ever been even remotely dusty or dirty for even a second. Like nobody lives there?! Very nerve wracking for me who grew up in an old dusty home with a fair amount of clutter. Nothing was 'new' or pale coloured.
I always thought I'd spill something on their huge pristine cream couches and carpet! Thankfully I never did. It is quite relaxing on the surface being somewhere that clean, but you just feel like you can't quite fully switch off.

Spotless. Retired midwife!

What a weird question. What's special about ILs' houses?

Why do you ask ? My Mums and MIL homes were like many homes . Some days untidy and other days spotless…not sure why it interests anyone.

When MIL was alive it would be spotless. Now it's just FIL it's clean, but not MIL standard clean! It's fine though.

My own parents' house is not spotless, but quite frankly I'd rather my parents enjoy their lives rather than spending their lives cleaning to perfection.

My DM has two rules:

• if you move it, but it back on the same dust free spot; and
• if it bothers you, I'll pass you a duster

I have a cleaner, yet my house is probably dirtier than both my FIL's and DP's houses as I have too much clutter and not enough time or willpower to make it better.

I do make sure the spare room and bathrooms are clean before someone comes to stay, but if you spot a cobweb, either remove it yourself or keep quiet! (Unless you're my DPs or FIL, in which case, point it out and take the piss).

They don't have space for us to stay and most likely wouldn't be keen, but their house is very messy and dirty.
The oldest is early 50s, no health or mobility issues, they just don't seem bothered. Examples are mould and grime all over the bathroom, carpets stained, oven filthy, garden barely maintained and full of junk.
Luckily they aren't really bothered about seeing us so it's not often we go there!

ALL my inlaws houses are absolutely show home spotless, every single member of DH family are very house proud from cousins, aunts, siblings, nieces and parents. Never met a whole family who are so house proud/tidy.

My MIL house is filthy. Actually disgusting.

We do love her but we never eat or stay there long!

PILs house is always spotless, everything scrubbed and bleached clean to the point the kitchen/dining room could double as an operating theatre in a pinch! I've never seen a speck of dust or a cobweb there in seven years, it's quite amazing.

It's definitely preferable to my DMs house which (like the house I grew up in) is chaotic and genuinely filthy as she smokes inside... the total opposite!

My ILs house is absolutely filthy. Talking mouldy fridge, dirty sinks and I’m convinced they do not change sheets for us when we stay. It turns my stomach frankly. I take a sleeping bag these days. Both musty and dusty.

All my friends say similar to those on this thread - their ILs house is spotless.

Im a neat freak. Parents were too busy to clean when I was growing up. Just bloody over being around messy people!

I mean sticky floors and worktops. Carpet never hoovered. Mould toothpaste and limescale covering the sink. Toilet never cleaned. That sort of filthy.

My ILs house was similar, the toilet had a second skin from lack of cleaning, plates were covered in pet hairs and cups had old crusted biscuit stuck to the rims despite apparently being 'clean'. Sheets could probably have walked into the machine themselves.

When their hoover broke DH took his round and offered to vacuum, they fell out with him over that. When SIL tried to clean the toilet when she was staying for a visit my MIL stood over her complaining the whole time.

I know shortly before MIL passed away that a couple of the neighbours were judging DH and his siblings for 'letting their mother live in that state' but if someone is happy to live that way, it's not exactly easy to change things.

Are you asking me or my husband? 😬

I think my husband finds visiting easier now we don't stop overnight (since COVID we've stopped out, though the eldest DD does usually stop)

It's just very busy and cluttered, and can feel slightly overpowering.

We don't sleepover at my IL's because there isn't room but when we visit it's spotless. They are fab hosts too.

Well, they blame the cat for bringing in the mice and rats, but that doesn't account for the hedgehog or the empty bottles of Sanatogen.
But I'm not quite sure... 🤔

Very.
MIL doesn’t like clutter and is very houseproud. It’s very neat and tidy and clean. And welcoming. They’re good people.

Quite

Eggs, olives and champagne? That's retirement goals right there! 🤣

Clean but a bit cluttered and that attracts grime.

I'd stay there though

DM house is spotless and the work of a cleaning obsessive

MIL house is spotless, my own Mum's not so much 😂

IL’s house - spotless. My parents - too dangerous to touch anything or take your shoes off.

Immaculate. They have staff.

We don't and our cleaner has been off sick for months, so we're definitely "lived in".

Inlaws is immaculate and very minimalist. My parents, lots of lovely character but quite dirty, lots of dust, some damp, everything could do with a good wipe down, filthy floors. Both equally welcoming homes though.

Same with mine. And DSM & DFs house.