When you stay at your ILs how tidy/clean is it?

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just that

In-laws house is dirty. Looks vaguely normal at first glance but everything is covered in a layer of dog fur and dust. The bathroom guests, Fil and Bil (still lives at home), stinks of wee and is filthy.

The kitchen is grim and when I used to stay I’d clean it before cooking. Fridge never cleaned except when I did it, same goes for filter on washing machine, etc etc.

They aren’t old (60) and in robust health (excluding FIL’s binge drinking with the ‘lads’) so it’s just lack of care. Revolting.

house smells like a dog breeders. Again their blankets and bedding were never washed year on year and stunk to high heaven.

thankfully NC with them (for other rather nasty reasons) so never have to set foot in that house again.

My mother’s house is full of antiques and art, clean but not house proud and inviting.

I don't go anymore but IL's house was always pristine to the point of us being afraid to move. Lounge was never sat in, bath had to be wiped completely dry after a shower, clothes left folded on a chair in the room we stayed in would be refolded. It was hideous.

That sounds exhausting!

My in-laws house is spotless it looks like a show home. They are retired with no pets. My parents
my parents house is clean but lived in (piles of mail on the kitchen side/dining table, ironing to do on a armchair kind of thing. But my parents both work full time and also have a job, elderly parents to care for and double the amount of grandchildren to play with.

Yes, I think that sounds rather splendid. I felt briefly deeply glamorous when we cleared the fridge after a power cut, and before we restocked, it had only lemons, champagne and artichoke hearts.

I should have taken a photo before it refilled with yogurt, hummus and covered bowls of leftovers.

MILs house is very clean and tidy. DH must have absorbed their standards as he likes things to be like that too.

My dad’s house it cluttered. Though he has a cleaner so it’s far better than it used to be and he’s given up smoking so it doesn’t stink anymore.

my friends FIL apparently has an absolutely filthy house and she hates going there and won’t stay. It’s grimy, sticky, filthy bathroom, kitchen greasy and dirty.

My MIL is one of those baffling people who, despite not having much money, completely redecorates at least one room annually, including all the furniture. Which for some reason she never manages to get right for her small rooms, so we’re always squeezing around the edge of an over-large kitchen table, later replaced by a tiny round one that doesn’t seat everyone who regularly eats at it etc etc. So clean, but provisional.

Snap. My MIL is slightly better at furnishings, but she still does things like remove a big sofa that seats all her family because "it was dominating the room" - yeah, with places to sit!

She loves nothing better than having us all around, but half of us have to sit on dining chairs brought in. Despite having three generous reception spaces and constantly refurbing/decorating, not one of the rooms has enough furniture.

As for cleanliness - at the ILs we worry about our baby getting stuff on their furniture. At my parents we worry about stuff getting on his food.

Clean and tidy.. my dad took early retirement so keeps on top of it but my mum still works full time.

It's clean and tidy but lived in. There might be washing up waiting to be put in dishwasher, there might be a few dog toys lying about and cups in the table, but it feels lovely and homely and welcoming.

My parent in laws not so much. It's tidy but cluttered, and they still smoke like chimneys in the house so everything is covered in that horrible smelly smoke film. We try not to stay more than about twenty minutes

MIL's: clean but a bit cluttered.
FIL's: clean but run down with lots of tired and semi-broken stuff.
My parents: clean but chaotic in how it's ordered: things randomly stuffed into cupboards, corners, behind furniture, lots of expired food and medicine etc.

I have 2 toddlers so I'm not telling you what my house is like!

It's spotless. Always has been. MIL is a clean freak. Her house was like a showroom even when she had three young boys. She's also an excellent gardener and cook/baker. Luckily me DH wasn't expecting the same of me 😂😂😂😂

Why don’t you stay in a hotel?

My parents' house is pretty clean, just a bit dusty here and there. ILs is not as clean and loads more clutter but ok really. Although the bathroom gives me the ick and I couldn't stay the night there. Luckily we live relatively close so I always drive if DP suggests staying. Or he stays with the kids when I'm busy.

Poor MIL still has two adult children living there who are both fucking feral, so the communal areas are nice and tidy despite being old and in desperate need of refurbishment. But she can't constantly battle against the bedrooms and untidiness of her children unfortunately

Beautiful massive house, very clean, fridge packed to the rafters. My own parent's house is cluttered, untidy, needs a lot of work done to it and is dirty in places. We had very different upbringings!

My MIL's always felt nice and homely to visit. Clean, but not so sterile that you'd be scared to put a cup down. She was also into her home improvements, so every time you went over she'd be repainting a room or something. Sadly her housekeeping skills didn't pass down to DH 😁

MIL and step FIL spotless and bright and airy. Lovely garden too. Best room is the kitchen diner that looks into the garden. The rest is also spotless but less soul.

Step MIL and FIL tidy but with a layer of dust/grime on a lot of things. Nice garden. Step MIL needs a knee replacement and is not that mobile so FIL has had to step up but hasn't had the years of being a house husband to see what needs doing and is also getting old.

My parents: lived in, mildly chaotic but tidy. Mother cannot find anything. Lots of out of date food in pantry. Lovely garden.