To expect DH to eat leftovers twice in a week?

[cityrookie]

DH changed his wfh days this week so is not collecting DD from her club tonight. Usually they get a takeaway on their way home, DS and I eat leftovers from the week. E.g. I made a curry on Tuesday which we all ate and DH took a portion for his lunch on Wednesday. I would normally turn the leftovers into a soup for DS and me to eat on a Thursday evening but today it will be DH and DS at home. DH doesn't think he should be expected to eat leftovers from the same meal twice in a week. I don't see the issue. What does everyone else do with leftovers?

YANBU - use up the food
YABU - it's too repetitive, and you shouldn't expect him to eat it.

So if it's really important to you that the leftovers are eaten, buy DH a takeaway whilst you're in the restaurant and bring it back with you, and you wait to eat the leftovers when you get home.

I wouldn’t expect my husband to want leftovers just because that’s what I normally make. I also wouldn’t cook something else just for him. He would either go get a takeaway for everyone, or make something else for himself.

I personally wouldn't want the same meal 3x in a row. But then, if we have leftovers it is either just one portion or enough to be put in the freezer for another full meal/meal for 2.

As a one-off I would most likely accept it but I think it's not something you should just assume going forward.

Also, are you reheating the same food twice? That's actually not ideal food hygiene.

I guess it's his personal preference and not a right or wrong situation.

I think it's fine to eat the same thing in Monday and the following day, but if he's having it on consecutive meals, he may not like that.

In which case, he can sort or something else.

I don't personally think it's unreasonable to eat from the original cooking up to 3 times in the same week.

I like leftovers for one meal but for two meals that would get pretty boring. I personally wouldn’t like it.

Why would she re-heat it twice? Surely if she cooks on Monday, Tuesday's food is re-heated on Tuesday and then Wednesday's food is re-heated on Wednesday.

I definitely would not want to eat the same thing 3 days in a row.

I also wouldn't want to eat soup made out of a bit of leftover curry for dinner.

If, as you say , there's not even enough left to bother freezing then yes you are definitely BU. . Just bin the little bit that's left and your DH can make a proper dinner for himself & DS. Or if youre that bothered eat it yourself for lunch tomorrow

leftover dinners are the best dinners. your husband is spoilt.

Interesting thread. I only cook c 3/4 times a week. I batch cook a lot and either re-use from earlier in the week or take out of the freezer. I do not think anyone has every questioned this and I have been doing it for some time. If anyone wants to cook more than me that would be absolutely fine. I will break out the prosecco...ain't going to happen though.

My 'Otherhalf' and I fight over the left-overs, often 24 hours allows flavours to mature & I love reheating them until crispy...Second day lasagne the best!

@Gwenhwyfar

It depends: so on Monday you cook curry. All leftovers go into the fridge and the whole tupperware content is then reheated on Tuesday.
But - you then don't eat all and part of the re-heated food goes back into the fridge and is then re-heated again on Wednesday.

That is not good food hygiene.

If you take only part of the tupperware content out on Tuesday and re-heat and eat all and then re-heat the rest on Wednesday, that's fine.

You've provided meals for everyone. Your DH is at liberty to find it a bit tedious to have the same thing three times in a row, but that's his problem, not yours. He can source an alternative, either cooked or from a takeaway.

I wouldn’t want the same meal even twice a week BUT if DH dared to complain about a meal I made, I’d tell him to cook his own. If your DH doesn’t like or want the food on offer, this is what he should do.

I'm another who wouldn't be over the moon about having exactly the same meal three days on the trot. But I wouldn't expect anyone else to cook me an alternative, I'd either suck it up or I'd cook something else for me and anyone else who wanted it.

I am not a fan of curry (the smell just seems to permeate everywhere!) and cannot imagine it in soup form, but there are certain foods I could eat every night if I had the chance, and I don't mind leftovers either. I am happy when I can save time and energy (mine and electricity) not having to make something different! I appreciate I might not be 'the norm' but it's hardly a big deal to have to do this every so often.

If we have leftovers then we only reheat what we need next time - sometimes that's all of it and sometimes it isn't, but we definitely wouldn't reheat the same portions over and over. That's a bad idea!

As an adult he can choose not to eat leftovers.

As he has been WFH and knows that you are going out to collect DD to save him this trip, what has he done about arranging dinner?

Lots of women who WFH manage to use their lunch break to check for ingredients/ pop something in the slow cooker, etc.

He doesn’t have to eat what is there but HE needs to provide the solution.

Enjoy your takeaway treat this evening.

I live alone. One thing I enjoy about the winter is making a big dish of vegetables with a cheese sauce, after the first night I just take some out to reheat & I usually put something fresh in it like chopped up green pepper or some cooked mushrooms/courgette. If I've made enough, that'll be me sorted for dinner for the week,

I don't have a summer equivalent, but 99% of nights I have a freshly made salad. So basically always the same thing for dinner.

God no, I’d hate to have the same meal even twice never mind three times. Your preferences don’t have to be his

If you’re not asking about whether he should cook or shop, and it’s purely about the concept of leftovers…

In my opinion. No, it’s not acceptable to eat leftovers twice from the same meal. It’s boring and repetitive. If it’s “not enough to bother freezing it” then how is it feeding 2 people?

If he doesn’t fancy it then he doesn’t. As long as he is sorting the alternative then I don’t see a problem.

The person doing the cooking gets to choose what is served. These days we don't serve up the same thing 3 nights in a row, but if someone cooked it for me and served it to me I would eat it without complaint.

I know you disagree but I do think the root of this is half the family getting takeaway while the other half has soup. Every single week. I think I'd batch it differently so everyone gets reheated food on the busy night, and maybe alternate between takeaway together and a basic home cooked meal on another night of the week.

YABU - I would hate this too. Unless it’s pasta bake or lasagne leftovers give me the ick anyway. A leftover curry turned into soup sounds vile. On a weekday, a decent dinner is often the highlight of my day, I’d be thoroughly depressed to eat the same thing for dinner, lunch, and then dinner again

Why should he?
Genuinely.

Half of the family is getting a takeaway and eating it at the bus stop whilst they wait for the bus home. The other half the family eats almost 2 hours earlier at a sensible time.