To expect DH to eat leftovers twice in a week?

[cityrookie]

DH changed his wfh days this week so is not collecting DD from her club tonight. Usually they get a takeaway on their way home, DS and I eat leftovers from the week. E.g. I made a curry on Tuesday which we all ate and DH took a portion for his lunch on Wednesday. I would normally turn the leftovers into a soup for DS and me to eat on a Thursday evening but today it will be DH and DS at home. DH doesn't think he should be expected to eat leftovers from the same meal twice in a week. I don't see the issue. What does everyone else do with leftovers?

YANBU - use up the food
YABU - it's too repetitive, and you shouldn't expect him to eat it.

He sounds a bit purposefully helpless in this...surely he could just open a can instead eg beans on toast and you have the leftovers the following day?
He clearly wants the takeaway because it's tastier, well, just say that then, don't pretend you are a helpless foal lost in the woods with nothing to eat.
If you have a strict food budget, I don't think it's fair that you never get a takeaway and he does.

I wouldn't usually want to eat the same meal or very similar, e.g. made it into a soup but basically the same flavours, for 3 consecutive meals. Not about it being leftovers but too same-y.

Crikey is this curry the mumsnet mythical chicken that lasts a whole week? 😂

If it's big enough for a portion to eat

Surely it's big enough to freeze for another day

So long as it's changed from the original, so you've made a curry which works. 3rd time is getting a little fatigued in my opinion... now and then OK but not too often. Twice is ok

I don't think anyone's wrong tbh. If it's a portion then stick it in the freezer. It'll come in.

As long as he's not expecting you to sort out his tea, then he can eat what he wants.

Well, I cooked a pizza last night had two slices. There were 8 slices so I will be eating pizza for the next 3 nights. It really doesn't bother me. Food is fuel.

If you arE picking up dd why don't you get the takeaway

So weird dh and dd get takeaway and you and ds get 3 day old food

If your literally just asking if your DH should be expected to eat leftovers then no. No adult should be expected to eat anything they don't want to

Not quite the same but I am going out tonight and have not planned what my DP is going to eat. I am sure he will find something to eat. If there was leftovers I would tell him and he would likely eat them even if 3rd time in a week though he would never choose to do this normally, and if he didn't fancy it then he would cook something. So I can't really see what his problem is - there is presumably some other food in the house. Is always your job to plan all of the food?

Sounds awful. But he needs to do some cooking if he isn't happy.

Chilli con carne is the only thing I'd be happy to eat 3 days in a row, because it's my favourite. Unfortunately for that exact reason there is absolutely no chance of there being any Chilli left by day 3, so it's never going to happen.

Anything else I'd be bored shitless of by the 3rd day.

It IS about cooking and shopping though.
Personally I'm fine with eating the same thing a few times; it saves on effort and mental load. I get that some people aren't, but if that's the case then they need to take on the effort themselves.

Yes, I will collect DD tonight and eat on the way home with her. DS & DH will eat at home, so I wouldn't expect it to feed 4.

Cooking and food planning is not my favourite activity so I tend to take the laziest option even if it means we eat several similar meals. DC don't seem to care! I'll freeze it for the next time he messes with the collection schedule 😂(even if it means I have to wash an extra dish tonight).

I think husbands are big boys who can decide for themselves what they have for their tea.

DH takes leftovers to work for lunch and if there’s anything left from that I would have it for my lunch as I WFH, but I wouldn’t want it for dinner the next day as well.

I would eat the same meal 3 times in a week but I have a baby and a toddler and low standards. I think in an ideal world you'd freeze the portion and swap another meal in that you have frozen a few weeks before.

This really.

I don't think any adult should be 'expected' to eat something they don't want, especially for the third time in three days. If he doesn't want it he can sort something else for himself. I feel a bit of pressure (self-imposed!) working from home to always eat the 'needs eating up' thing in the fridge rather than what I really want. It's a bit crap sometimes, and would certainly make me miserable if it was the same thing three days running, and would be especially 😡if somebody else was expecting it of me.

Surely if it's going to feed two of them, it's enough to freeze? Or is that part of the issue - it isn't enough but he's expected to make do because you don't want to bin it?

I'm struggling to work out why you would cook such an excess of any dish? Just either do enough for one meal and let that be the end of it, or do a large/double batch and freeze the excess for another time. I wouldn't want to eat "leftovers" three times in a week - especially not a curry!

As an occasional thing it's absolutely fine. Life with children who need lifts and have after school clubs and so on is hectic, I'm a big fan of doing whatever makes life easier.

I wouldn't want the same meal 3 times a week, every week.

If it was a regular thing I'd ring the changes - maybe one night with rice, one with naan, and one as a jacket potato filling with side salad, for example.

If he doesn’t want to eat leftovers he can
cook for the family no?

He's no right to phrase it like that, as if he is powerless to cook and supply food off his own bat. But I can see flavour fatigue could set in. Can't you freeze the other portion and then have a frozen portion of whatever you had the week before to take out and use instead? Just do a bit more freezing and rotating?
But that's just as much down to him as you. The full burden of cooking should not be falling upon you alone.

"The pp who eats the same meal four nights on the trot is unusual. Very few people actually want the same meal every night."

People who ate a strong curry four nights in sucession would certainly be on the trot.

😂😂😂😂😂