To expect DH to eat leftovers twice in a week?

[cityrookie]

DH changed his wfh days this week so is not collecting DD from her club tonight. Usually they get a takeaway on their way home, DS and I eat leftovers from the week. E.g. I made a curry on Tuesday which we all ate and DH took a portion for his lunch on Wednesday. I would normally turn the leftovers into a soup for DS and me to eat on a Thursday evening but today it will be DH and DS at home. DH doesn't think he should be expected to eat leftovers from the same meal twice in a week. I don't see the issue. What does everyone else do with leftovers?

YANBU - use up the food
YABU - it's too repetitive, and you shouldn't expect him to eat it.

He can shop, plan and cook accordingly then, can't he?

I just don't get this - if he doesn't want what there is he can either make or get something else or his usual takeaway surely?

Is he expecting you to present him with a new meal or set of ingredients or something? Or are you insisting he must eat the curry?

Why don’t you all get a takeaway dinner

I wouldn't want to eat the same thing three times either.

But I would just make something else and chuck the leftovers in the freezer if they wouldn't keep, not moan about it.

Of course you use up the food. I have an ileostomy and eat the same bland boring shite seven days a week.

I'll often make a chilli and have it with rice one day, with a jacket spud the next day and in a wrap the day after. Same thing but slightly different. Eating the same thing three times a week really isn't a big deal.

If he's not feeling it then surely he'll put it in the freezer and make something else like any other person would?

It's one thing to batch cook and freeze some, getting it out on a rota of meals but it's another to cook so much in one go (and not freeze it) that you're serving it up three times in a week, especially if it's a strong flavoured meal like a curry. People like variety usually. If I'm doing something with leftovers I try to vary the meal so it's a bit different from the last one.

However, whilst you've dodged the question I'd still say "if you don't like it get your own" to a complaining husband making demands of his servant wife!

It’s not a problem for us. But I would freeze even a small portion if needs be.

He’s also being a bit picky because it doesn’t take much to alter the curry slightly if he’s that bored. Depending where you start from all you need is a teaspoon of tomato paste, different spice, cream or chilli or peanut butter then peas etc. He should have a try!

in our 2 cook household we’d freeze it for another night and cook. If we were a one cook household my dh would have to smile and say it’s delicious thank you.

I think in our house this would be dealt with with a sort of 'there's still more curry left if you can face it for another night but if you don't fancy that you'll need to pick something up from the shop unless you're happy with jacket spuds/toasties for tea'.

I would want a meal, not a leftover curry turned into soup.

If he doesn't like what's on offer, he can cook for himself.

We normally freeze leftovers, but YANBU. If DH wants something else, surely he can make himself something else?

Leftovers minimise food waste.

Your DH is being an arse if he doesn't like it then he should shop and cook. In the meantime he should say thank you and eat it

This isn’t just curry, this is a mumsnet curry.

My husband is the opposite! We had lasagna for lunch today, left over from Tuesday. And we had salad with it from the leftover fajitas last night. The apple and blackberry crumble from Monday has seen several visits from DH!

Whether he should shop or cook is part of the same question though, it can’t be separated from whether he should be “expected” to eat left overs.

If he’s happy to cook his own meal with ingredients he’s bought, or that he knows aren’t ear marked elsewhere, and will stick the curry in the freezer, and YABU to expect him to have the leftover curry.

If he’s not prepared to cook himself, then YANBU to expect him to eat what he’s given without complaint!

That said I have so many portions of chicken curry etc that only DS(10) eats as opposed to veggie curry which DD15 and I eat, because he is funny about leftovers (he is ND though so I’d be willing to believe the texture changes except that he will eat it when it is severed some weeks later from the freezer and he doesn’t know it’s leftovers 😂)

I'm afraid I agree with your husband. I never eat leftovers and never want to eat the same meal two nights running. My husband will occasionally eat leftover curry or bolognaise for his lunch the next day, but other than that it goes out on the lawn for the fox

make the soup and then freeze the soup - you then have soup portions for another week

We save everything in tupperware and either freeze or keep in fridge for a couple of days as a lunch

A wed night here is freezer night and we all just choose something from the freezer which is always a left over from another time.

He can sort himself out surely? Either with the leftovers or something else.

If he's expecting you to have got additional food in for him, then HIBU.

If you're expecting him to eat the leftovers and put out that he wants something else, than YABU.

The great thing about being an adult is that by and large we get to eat what we choose (subject to availability/budget restrictions).

Do basically eating the same meal 3 times a week?

To be fair that is a bit repetitive, but he can always freeze it and cook something else.

I know it misses point of thread, sorry, think you've had enough answers though, but........please tell me how you turn a curry into a soup🙏

YANBU. If he isn't happy he knows where the supermarket is and the kitchen.