Wedding cash gift - help how much please

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Attending whole thing. Myself, DH, 10yr old and baby.

The bride and I know eachother basically as school mums. This summer is the first time we've seen eachother outside of school and it was only to take the kids to a park - twice.

So how much would you give? £50 £75 £100?

Shamelessly posting for traffic as it's very soon.
Tried a Google and search on here but loads of answers and circumstances not really covered so trying my own.
Google brought up a page with an online calculator that said £50 - £75 when I put our relationship as friends, but £100 as acquaintances. Which seems backwards to me.
Thanks.

Quite.

I defo think more than £50, defo more £100 if you can afford it but then again in Ireland you could be looking at giving around €250 of a gift if 2 adults, a child and baby were invited!

Honestly, I wouldn’t give any cash.

I'd never heard that till a couple of years ago and it's a horrible idea.

We didn't ask for any gifts but did provide a link to a charity site or John Lewis vouchers if anyone really wanted to give us something. I really hope nobody tried to calculate how much we were paying for the wedding and to work out how much they "owed" based on that.

Nobody owed us anything and certainly not a set amount based on the outlay we had chosen to spend. It's such a grubby way of thinking about it.

For whole family to attend I'd say £100 minimum.

I’d have said £50 ish (aware this is lower than others will suggest) but given baby and child going too I’d give more.

@DappledThings - spot on. It is a horrible idea.
I like your links to charity, or JL vouchers. I'd prefer that.

Maybe she doesn't have many friends and wants to be your friend.

I'd say £50 is just right.

The meal comparison is more of a guide. I understand not literally covering the price of the food, but if you would normally spend £75 for a meal out for 2 adults then why not give £75 for a wedding? Or more if you're budget would allow it?

If you would be careful and spend less than give less £30-£50.

£50.

... because it's not a restaurant, and you're not paying for anything, you're a guest.
A gift is a gift because there are no strings.
Otherwise it's payment.

It's a cheek to expect cash. Gifts should be voluntary. When I get married I'll explicitly say no gifts please (although not sure how to word it yet!)

The difference between Irish and UK wedding gifts always throws me!! In Ireland, 150euro for a couple would be seen as minimum...I would rarely give below 200 as a couple, 250 if a cousin/family member.

£50 minimum. A bit more if you can afford it bearing in mind she has invited all of you.

£50 for a casual friend

@Jk987 I would definitely go with ‘your present is your presence’ because then we can all win at wedding invitation bingo!

£100

I’d def say £50 is generous and very appropriate.

The idea you should be covering spend on guest meals is really gauche and super inappropriate/rude. Guests are just that, guests. If you can’t afford a big do, then don’t have one.

I’d probably only give 50 at this as they aren’t even a friend - tbh I wouldn’t even be going if I barely knew them haha

my best friend I gave 250£

my sister £500

I know right, I was shocked first reading the £50 responses! I wanna go to some UK weddings! The last wedding I went to here (Ireland) cost us the bones of €1,500 😣

£50 for a fairly new friend.

They've invited you because they want you to share their special day. Not to help cover their costs.

Oh my god! It's to recoup expenditure?!
Here's me thinking that wedding guests were there to share the happy day, not pay per view!