To be angry with DDs school, she hasn't even started yet

Downandout21 · 2024-09-06T15:05:37+00:00

Supposed to have a visit today from DDs teacher who is starting reception Monday. I took an afternoon off unpaid to ensure I can give full attention. Appointment was 2.45. At 3 I called the school to ensure they had the correct address. The receptionist stated she would call me back when she finds out what going on. It's not 16.00, no teacher and no phone call I've tried the school again but now just going to answer phone. DD has expected the visit all day. AIBU to be fuming

Barrenfieldoffucks · 06/09/2024 16:07

Yup, rude from any appointment.

Cantfindthewordsddstruggling · 06/09/2024 16:08

Very poor form and certainly doesn’t leave a good first impression

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Downandout21 · 06/09/2024 16:09

And this is supposed to be one of the best schools in the area

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Cantfindthewordsddstruggling · 06/09/2024 16:15

Downandout21 · 06/09/2024 16:09

And this is supposed to be one of the best schools in the area

There might have been a very good reason. I’d have an open mind and go in with a positive mindset for Monday. Don’t let this glitch spoil what is a special time for you and dd.
Allow yourself to be pissed off today and then move on.

modgepodge · 06/09/2024 16:19

It’s a shame for your daughter and very frustrating for you. I’m sure there was a good reason, it wasn’t just that the teacher couldn’t be bothered. They should have called you to tell you they were running late/not coming, but I suspect understaffing in schools meant this wasn’t possible.

Needmorelego · 06/09/2024 16:22

Unfortunately having to go to lots of children's homes they might have simply ran out of time.
Traffic jams and having trouble finding someone's house. One of the other meetings over running (not necessarily the teachers fault).
At 2.45 you would have been one of the last appointments of the day.
It's not brilliant that they didn't contact you but there may be dozens of reasons that they never made it to you.
Don't let this spoil your daughter's starting school moment.

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

Needmorelego · 06/09/2024 16:27

@thursdaymurderclub home visits are quite normal in state primary schools for Reception starters.

tigerbear · 06/09/2024 16:27

@thursdaymurderclub all children at my DD’s state CofE school had a home visit before starting reception.

Overthebow · 06/09/2024 16:30

Yea that’s not a good start. If the teacher couldn’t make it for whatever reason they should have contacted you.

RaraRachael · 06/09/2024 16:37

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

Never heard of this either. It definitely isn't a thing around here. As a teacher I'd never have found time to go round 15 children's homes.

BirthdayRainbow · 06/09/2024 16:39

We had a home visit when my son was starting secondary but not primary.

SamRatulangi · 06/09/2024 16:40

Fuming is a bit strong, any number of things could have happened. Hopefully the teacher arrived eventually

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 06/09/2024 16:42

Cantfindthewordsddstruggling · 06/09/2024 16:15

There might have been a very good reason. I’d have an open mind and go in with a positive mindset for Monday. Don’t let this glitch spoil what is a special time for you and dd.
Allow yourself to be pissed off today and then move on.

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They might. But why does that excuse them from not giving OP the courtesy of a phone call to apologise and say something has come up?

Delphiniumandlupins · 06/09/2024 16:43

Bad attitude from the school, missing appointment without notice and then not getting back to you. There may have been some major catastrophe or they may simply be lax. I wouldn't go ballistic, mostly because I wouldn't want DD to be upset, but I would be watching that they communicate better in future.

HelloCheekyCat · 06/09/2024 16:46

SamRatulangi · 06/09/2024 16:40

Fuming is a bit strong, any number of things could have happened. Hopefully the teacher arrived eventually

Is be fuming at losing half a days pay for no reason

Nanny0gg · 06/09/2024 16:47

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

Very normal now

Nanny0gg · 06/09/2024 16:48

SamRatulangi · 06/09/2024 16:40

Fuming is a bit strong, any number of things could have happened. Hopefully the teacher arrived eventually

Unless in an accident, no excuse for not phoning

Why is their time more important than the OP's?

And why would you disappoint one of your new pupils?

Boomer55 · 06/09/2024 16:48

Not sure why teachers now want to visit the home, but not turning up is bad manners, so I wouldn’t accommodate any future visits.🤷‍♀️

Nanny0gg · 06/09/2024 16:49

modgepodge · 06/09/2024 16:19

It’s a shame for your daughter and very frustrating for you. I’m sure there was a good reason, it wasn’t just that the teacher couldn’t be bothered. They should have called you to tell you they were running late/not coming, but I suspect understaffing in schools meant this wasn’t possible.

The teacher will possess a mobile phone...

Coffeeisnecessary · 06/09/2024 16:55

This is very poor from the school as whatever happened they should have told you, we had home visit for primary for our first child, I think it's quite common especially as they start on half days so teachers had the time. I am out of primary days now but I did think they weren't very accommodating of working parents with all the expectations over the years.

HeartandSeoul · 06/09/2024 16:55

As others have said, it happened for us here when both my children started reception class (10/12yrs ago). We could decline it if we wanted to. The children had a staggered timetable for the first two weeks, and the teacher and her class assistant would fit in all the visits in between these times.

Sorry you were messed around, OP. It may have been something simple like the teacher left her phone behind, so couldn’t contact the school to let you know.

Parker231 · 06/09/2024 16:56

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

DT’s school did home visits - we declined as DH and are were at work and not practical to take the time off (I was working in Singapore and DH, a doctor, couldn’t cancel his surgeries).

Didn’t cause any issues when they started - we also rejected the staggered start the school proposed.

ilovesooty · 06/09/2024 17:11

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

My friend's grandson had a home visit from his teacher and a TA yesterday. Ordinary state school
Apparently he hid under the table...

LBFseBrom · 06/09/2024 17:16

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

Yes, it does seem odd. Is this a new thing and what is the purpose of the visit? It seems highly intrusive to me.