To be angry with DDs school, she hasn't even started yet

[Downandout21]

Supposed to have a visit today from DDs teacher who is starting reception Monday.

I took an afternoon off unpaid to ensure I can give full attention. Appointment was 2.45. At 3 I called the school to ensure they had the correct address. The receptionist stated she would call me back when she finds out what going on.

It's not 16.00, no teacher and no phone call I've tried the school again but now just going to answer phone.

DD has expected the visit all day.

AIBU to be fuming

We had it and my DD started school in 2017 in Birmingham

We missed DD's home visit before she was due to start reception back in 2015. Teachers hadn't turned up an hour and a half after their scheduled time and I had phoned the school to say I couldn't wait any longer as we had to leave to catch a long-distance train. They said they would pass the message on but we came back after the weekend to find a note through the door saying they must have "just" missed us (?) Anyway, it didn't cause any issues and DD went on to spend a happy seven years at her school before leaving for secondary.

As OP said the reception class hasn't started yet so that is how the teacher is doing home visits, they don't have their class in school yet.

"The teacher will possess a mobile phone.."

I wouldn't use my personal phone for school purposes. Some schools have a few "school mobiles" for trips etc.

If the teacher was stuck in traffic they may not have been able to call. Maybe they don't have hands free / Bluetooth or hadn't set it up for a school phone if they were given one..

This is really odd. However: These appointments rarely happen beyond 3:15 because it's outside of contracted hours.

It is likely that the teacher got delayed by overrunning appointments or poor traffic. They probably contacted the school so you could be informed but something hasn't happened. Hopefully it will all become clear on Monday.

"To take it personally or be furious seems like a massive overreaction."

The OP lost half a day's pay and given that fact, it's certainly not "a massive overreaction". I'd be furious too.,

Not I good start I admit. But if this p** es you off be prepared for a lot of angry times over the next fourteen years. In my experience the partnership schools ask of parents is only one way.
I do hope this is just a blip and DD has a good first day and enjoys school. The first few years are definitely the best.

I have no idea why this is a thing but if they wouldn’t/couldn’t do it after Covid, they don’t need to do it now. They didn’t do it in 2021 when my Son started school, if they decide it’s a thing when my daughter starts they’ll be told no. This should be arranged in the school setting if it’s that important to them.

Which is fine, nobody is going to be forcing you or making it seem compulsory. No idea why people are so defensive about it. It's entirely optional and meant to be for the benefit of the child. You can cheerfully decline without it needing to be something that makes you angry.

😂 I’m not angry.

If you say so. "If they decide this they'll be told no" sounds pretty angry and defensive to me!

And you wouldn't be the first to be seeing it as a terrible imposition rather than an optional extra.

Oh lordy a teacher possibly couldn't just be crap at their job by not informing you of their time wasting! They are angels on earth dontcha know.

@Downandout21 how did DD’s first day go?