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To think the penalties for term time absence is ridiculous..

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JKbowling · 05/09/2024 21:47

I got this in my email inbox today, sent to all parents and guardians.

"Failure to safeguard a child's education" appearing on your DBS, really?

As for term time holidays. If a family can't afford to pay for their one measly UK break per year to be had during the 6 weeks holidays (because the prices are hiked right up and become unaffordable) how does school suppose said family is going to pay the fine?

To think the penalties for term time absence is ridiculous..
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Peakpeakpeak · 06/09/2024 13:23

bazoom · 06/09/2024 13:18

I would more go down the line that you choose to have kids. If the law of the land is that your kids require education and that is law, this becomes an obligation and not a choice.
Bit like speeding, speed limit is law whether you agree with it or not. You break the law (by choice) and then the consequences are for you to suck up.

Edited

This applies both ways, however. The state interfered with the social contract regarding education, and now reaps the consequences. One of those is that fewer people are persuaded by this argument than they were a few years ago. Another is that making schools participate in fining parents interferes with trust and further alienates parents.

Which is why we need to be talking about whether any of this is helpful, particularly when it's paired with a transparent failure to tackle the root issues of the persistent absence problem. I know Labour have only been in 5 minutes and it'll take more than that, but continuing with the changes the Tories made to holiday fines is a choice.

Peakpeakpeak · 06/09/2024 13:25

x2boys · 06/09/2024 13:21

I haven't Been abroad for 17 years
UK break,s also double in price during school holidays and this might blow your mind but manyy people can't afford then either
Should children never have a holiday?

It is quite interesting how many of the posters on this thread evidently can't compute not having enough money for anything other than a term time UK break. British holidays are many things, but they are not cheap in school holidays.

My household are lucky enough not to be in this position, but some certainly are. I know people who do a Haven Monday to Friday during term because that is what they can afford.

Peonypoppy · 06/09/2024 13:25

x2boys · 06/09/2024 13:21

I haven't Been abroad for 17 years
UK break,s also double in price during school holidays and this might blow your mind but manyy people can't afford then either
Should children never have a holiday?

Should children never have a holiday?

Not if they're poor apparently. They haven't earned it.

Mademetoxic · 06/09/2024 13:26

bazoom · 06/09/2024 10:42

Swearing is down to poorly educated people. They can't think of another word so swear.

Exactly. Tell that to the poster who swore at me first. :(

TunnocksOrDeath · 06/09/2024 13:27

Fireangels · 06/09/2024 09:32

Just to be clear, I wasn’t asking for the teacher to do any additional work. I was just asking to see lesson plans which should be prepared BEFORE each lesson. It contains information such as what the lesson will cover, which aspects of the National Curriculum it will meet, the format, (worksheet/class discussion/essay, how the class work will be differentiated etc) the desired outcomes of the lesson, and how these will be measured.
The reason why I am still waiting to see these 17 years later is that THEY DID NOT EXIST! because no lessons had been planned.

Obviously that's additional work: notes that already exist do not extract, copy, collate, annotate, and deliver themselves, just because some entitled parent demands proof that the rest of the class did some work while their own child was on holiday without approval.

Peonypoppy · 06/09/2024 13:28

Mademetoxic · 06/09/2024 13:26

Exactly. Tell that to the poster who swore at me first. :(

I don't think you're old enough to be on this thread.

Holidayingwithfriends · 06/09/2024 13:28

CitrineRaindropPhoenix · 06/09/2024 13:15

Fines for unauthorised absence have been in place since 1996. I was prosecuting parents who failed to send their children to school in 2002.

There is no reason why you couldn't have been aware of this "draconian absence policy" before you had children.

I went to school in the 90s and went on term time holidays, as did my peers. You would go to the office for a holiday form, I believe holidays were authorised as long as you agreed to do any set work whilst away. Maybe the government focus needs to be on supporting teachers so they can teach like they did in the 90s.

bazoom · 06/09/2024 13:31

Mademetoxic · 06/09/2024 13:26

Exactly. Tell that to the poster who swore at me first. :(

It's unnecessary and rude. Sorry on their behalf.

RampantIvy · 06/09/2024 13:32

brunettemic · 06/09/2024 09:37

I occasionally think if I could start a political party based entirely on somehow getting legislation passed to prevent school holiday prices increases for holidays I’d win in a landslide.

I don't. A large number of the population don't have school aged children, and prefer to holiday when it isn't school holidays.

Mademetoxic · 06/09/2024 13:33

Peonypoppy · 06/09/2024 13:28

I don't think you're old enough to be on this thread.

Why does it matter what age a poster is?

Iamiams · 06/09/2024 13:33

Do you know why some can’t go in August? Hint: it’s why we have a school holiday in August (more hands to get the harvest in). Some jobs are season dependent.

Commonsense22 · 06/09/2024 13:38

MattSmithsBowTie · 06/09/2024 13:07

Holidays are nice but no one ‘needs’ a holiday, your children do need an education though. You can still have family time in your own house in the school summer holidays.

But I don’t care if you take your children out of school and they don’t do as well as my children, who have good attendance, then that’s a leg up for my kids, isn’t it 🤷‍♀️

Well of course everyone needs education (and holidays) but to they need it for 39 weeks a year? Likely not.

As someone who missed considerable chunks of school for health and extra curriculars without any impact other than positive (and I was a fast learner but no genius) I really don't get the attendance obsession. Really, really don't.

But then I was attending school in a system where the responsibility was on the child to learn and prep for exams, not on teachers to carry children every time they fell slightly behind. There was no bad reflection on teachers if students failed.

Bushmillsbabe · 06/09/2024 13:38

Peakpeakpeak · 06/09/2024 13:23

This applies both ways, however. The state interfered with the social contract regarding education, and now reaps the consequences. One of those is that fewer people are persuaded by this argument than they were a few years ago. Another is that making schools participate in fining parents interferes with trust and further alienates parents.

Which is why we need to be talking about whether any of this is helpful, particularly when it's paired with a transparent failure to tackle the root issues of the persistent absence problem. I know Labour have only been in 5 minutes and it'll take more than that, but continuing with the changes the Tories made to holiday fines is a choice.

I agree that closing schools during covid was wrong, should never have hapenned, and was really harmful. However, that's hapenned now, we can't change it, but we can learn from it that school attendance is really important.

Schools do not fine, local councils do. School have a legal responsibility to report their attendance and absence data.

There are of course children who have reduced attendance due to medical appointments, unmet SEN needs, SEMH needs, but I don't think this discussion is about that, but about parents who make the choice to take their children out of school during termtime.

And I have done that - my daughters were being flowergirls for my husbands cousin, abroad in my husbands home country, originally planned for summer holidays but brought forward due to grooms Dad being given not long to live. So we took them, I was honest with both my girls heads what we were doing and why and politely said that I understood if they couldn't authorise it but that we would be going and would pay a fine if that was felt to be appropriate. We made a choice, we would deal with the consequences. I don't judge anyone who makes the same choice, but they do it knowing the potential consequences so cannot moan about them.

Carrelli · 06/09/2024 13:39

Taxpayers are paying £7460 per year to cover your child’s education whether they attend or not. Most are very happy to do so, it’s a brilliant public good. £160 is roughly the money wasted if you choose to keep them out a week. You have the alternative of going private all year if you prefer. Bitching about having to pay £160 for a years education is ridiculous.

spikeandbuffy24 · 06/09/2024 13:40

Crazy how much it's changed
I used to be taken out of school for a holiday every January for 2 weeks. Always a load of school work to do while I was off!

Bushmillsbabe · 06/09/2024 13:43

spikeandbuffy24 · 06/09/2024 13:40

Crazy how much it's changed
I used to be taken out of school for a holiday every January for 2 weeks. Always a load of school work to do while I was off!

Was it much of a holiday if you had to do several hours school work every day equivalent to being at school?

Peakpeakpeak · 06/09/2024 13:44

Bushmillsbabe · 06/09/2024 13:38

I agree that closing schools during covid was wrong, should never have hapenned, and was really harmful. However, that's hapenned now, we can't change it, but we can learn from it that school attendance is really important.

Schools do not fine, local councils do. School have a legal responsibility to report their attendance and absence data.

There are of course children who have reduced attendance due to medical appointments, unmet SEN needs, SEMH needs, but I don't think this discussion is about that, but about parents who make the choice to take their children out of school during termtime.

And I have done that - my daughters were being flowergirls for my husbands cousin, abroad in my husbands home country, originally planned for summer holidays but brought forward due to grooms Dad being given not long to live. So we took them, I was honest with both my girls heads what we were doing and why and politely said that I understood if they couldn't authorise it but that we would be going and would pay a fine if that was felt to be appropriate. We made a choice, we would deal with the consequences. I don't judge anyone who makes the same choice, but they do it knowing the potential consequences so cannot moan about them.

So I don't actually think it matters at this stage whether it was right or wrong to close schools. It happened. There are consequences, and one of those is that the lesson we administered was the opposite of school being really important. The social contract was more hard won, fragile and recent than a lot of people realised, and it's been fucked with. We can't make it come back just because it's convenient.

And yes, schools don't fine, but that's my point really. They get dragged in anyway, and as the first point of call is the school not the faceless LA office worker, the relationship with school gets undermined and interfered with. The ones with the LA and government might too, but most people experience these things as quite remote anyway. Whereas the teachers at school aren't. Which is why this is all so harmful.

spikeandbuffy24 · 06/09/2024 13:47

@Bushmillsbabe it was what it was
My parents couldn't holiday at any other time, it was in the U.K. and I couldn't be left home alone
They did it from when I was age 4 until 15, then the last school year I stayed home alone

We still had trips out etc but I had a couple of hours work to do a day or my GCSE coursework etc

Bushmillsbabe · 06/09/2024 13:53

Peakpeakpeak · 06/09/2024 13:44

So I don't actually think it matters at this stage whether it was right or wrong to close schools. It happened. There are consequences, and one of those is that the lesson we administered was the opposite of school being really important. The social contract was more hard won, fragile and recent than a lot of people realised, and it's been fucked with. We can't make it come back just because it's convenient.

And yes, schools don't fine, but that's my point really. They get dragged in anyway, and as the first point of call is the school not the faceless LA office worker, the relationship with school gets undermined and interfered with. The ones with the LA and government might too, but most people experience these things as quite remote anyway. Whereas the teachers at school aren't. Which is why this is all so harmful.

Yes, but relationships are a 2 way thing. Giving your child's teacher the message that you don't value their skills and time teaching your child enough to send them in every day, isn't going to help that relationship either, especially when some parents don't even have the guts to be honest about why their child is absent and call them in sick for 2 weeks, and then they return with a fabulous tan and tales of their holiday fun and pictures all over social media of their fun in the sun.

Maybe I am biased as my children attend a fabulous school which meets their needs, including SEN, medical etc. I can see how those whose school intentionally isn't supportive, don't feel they owe them respect back.

LoopyLooooo · 06/09/2024 13:57

bazoom · 06/09/2024 10:42

Swearing is down to poorly educated people. They can't think of another word so swear.

My great grandmother and her friends/sisters used to trot out that old line.

I genuinely haven't heard it for years.

Possibly because it's now universally recognised as rubbish, given how many super intelligent people like to swear.

Peakpeakpeak · 06/09/2024 14:01

Bushmillsbabe · 06/09/2024 13:53

Yes, but relationships are a 2 way thing. Giving your child's teacher the message that you don't value their skills and time teaching your child enough to send them in every day, isn't going to help that relationship either, especially when some parents don't even have the guts to be honest about why their child is absent and call them in sick for 2 weeks, and then they return with a fabulous tan and tales of their holiday fun and pictures all over social media of their fun in the sun.

Maybe I am biased as my children attend a fabulous school which meets their needs, including SEN, medical etc. I can see how those whose school intentionally isn't supportive, don't feel they owe them respect back.

Teachers sometimes being pissed off about term time absences doesn't change any of the fundamentals here. There isn't a mechanism whereby making parents mistrustful becomes less of a problem if some teachers are also alienated.

I think there is a problem with school being generally made worse too, yes. Things are just a lot worse than they were, on the whole, even a decade ago. It becomes harder to sell the idea that school attendance is vital when the quality of what's on offer is less attractive. Again not the fault of teachers, they just happen to be the ones on the front line.

WimbyAce · 06/09/2024 14:02

We have just been sent this through too, def have to plan the holidays wisely! Crazy times, my parents were always taking me out of school and no harm done.

sunhasgotthis · 06/09/2024 14:11

Commonsense22 · 06/09/2024 12:56

It's also giving no agency to the parents to tailor the upbringing of the child. There are children whose learning gets disrupted more or less if they miss a week. But for the majority of children, it has no negative impact at all.

Those children are penalised because of their peers learning patterns. I come from a country / culture that just doesn't get this box-ticking way of thinking. The educational standards in the UK are low. Rather than looking elsewhere for inspiration, it's becoming more and more insular and doubling down on terrible practices.

Good points. What education practices does your country use?

FHNow · 06/09/2024 14:12

What exactly do people think that UK government can do about school holiday prices? It can’t control the fares charged by all the different airlines. Or the rates offered in all the different hotels around the world. Prices are always going to be high in peak season and there is very little our government can do about it.

HaveYouSeenRain · 06/09/2024 14:12

noblegiraffe · 05/09/2024 21:56

450,000 kids were absent from school the last week of the summer term. You don't think that's a problem?

My school does FA in that last week. Reports have long been handed out, they play games and have parties.

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