to expect my DH to leave work after 2 days away from home and help with his poorly children????

[nellieloula]

I've been on my own with a really poorly 3 yr old and 6 month old for the last 2 days and last night (DH works away) - despite saying he'd keep his phone on, come home if I needed him etc he has taken 2 hours to reply to my calls and can't get away now. He says he would rather be here but can't understand why he can't prioritise us or at least phone and check we're ok. Said all this to him when he did call and of course now he is majorly pissed off with me Do you think I'm being unreasonable?

dh was working in another country when I was coping with dd with bronchiolitis, then UTI and ear infection - it happens .

my dp works away also but im afraid to say i wouldnt expect him to be able to come home and help me

last time we were ill i couldnt move off sofa from being sick and ds was sick ratty hard work but i knew dp couldnt just leave the job sometimes i can be calling from morning till night before i even get a response

i'm sorry your struggling and your dp obviously feels bad he cant be there but he isd working not on a break somewhere

have you any family that can stop by to help out for few hopurs

i know its hard and its ok to feel sorry for our selves but cant blame dp iof they cant gey home to help as they are working and may be impossible for them to leave job

it's not always that easy just to leave work at the drop of a hat. He probably can't get away.

I know it must be touch on you but I wouldn't expect two adults to care for their sick children at the same time.

ok - thank you for the much needed perspective. 6 months of broken nights on my own are taking their toll! It's not that i even really wanted or expected him to come back - just phone and check we were ok. I don't have family near, so it can feel very isolating, esp when you can't get out of the house. Thanks for your points.

It is very hard with sick children. When he does get home, I woud expect him to give you a break. Make sure he does.

DP was off last week with our two last week when they were ill.
If he had been ringing me at work and expecting me to come home I'd have been really annoyed.
We are both self employed btw, he had to reshuffle his customer and I had to work as mine was a new client that I didn't want to lose.
I knew full well what a hard time he would be having as I took the time off when they were both sick last year. But you don't need two of you to look after 2 ill children.
If you are SAHM then looking after sick kids is part of the package imo.

Sorry just read your later post I didn't realise your dp is away all the time. I've got a good one who will get up in the night etc as we both work.
In that case go on strike the minute he walks in the door and have a takeaway.
Last week I got us fish and chips on the way home

Yes, make sure that you get time to rest when he comes home. 6 broken nights can make a raging monster out of any of us (not saying you are a raging monster BTW)