to be pissed at seeing mine, my children's and my nephews' and nieces' names...

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...being described as "poncy" and "pretentious" in loads of different MN baby names threads?

I would love to know what marks a name out as poncy or pretentious.

Ruby does it begin with D?

but in waitrose they dont turn a hair

Hmm, I imagine if you stand in the bacon aisle shouting a name out then people would look at you anyway
Has this theory been proven?

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no - T

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my last post looks a bit cryptic - was actually to Squirdle's question

Times have changed, I think there are very few names which could be classed as poncey now. I don't particularly like hypenated names, but I would tell another person that their childs name was awful just because it is hypenated. They like the name and they may not particularly like my childrens names, it's all a matter of personal taste.

Hmm, nope can't guess it Ruby. My DS is Dylan. Don't quite know how that name can be percieved as chavvy, but each to their own eh.

baby names span the fill range.

Parent uses Tar as a 'pet name' but the real name could be Tarzan or Tarquin.

Both will probably get a pounding for rather different reasons.

Someone will then pop up and say 'You call them what you like, only nasty people make fun of kids names, you kid might get bullied for anything after all'

and I go

When I was in hospital being induced with DS2, who we had already named, the woman in the next bed to me was yabbering on about something, I was barely listening then my ears pricked up because I heard her say the name we'd decided to call DS2.

She said, and I quote, "Why on earth anyone would call their little cute baby is beyond me" Cue me sat on the bed PMSL and her going very red and apologising.

I couldn't care less TBH.

If you like their names, what does it matter what other people think?

Oops I meant to say I wouldn't tell another person their childs name was awful!!!

I did raise an eyebrow however when a very posh lady called her son in the shoe shop the other week....Elvis!!

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When people ask my opnion (again I have no idea why) I just say its a lovely name. Though I did once point out to a friend that the name rhymed with something less nice, but it was on a short list not the final name choice.

I would go further to Zippi and say you have to chose between poncy, chavvy and so common that every third child is called it and your child is always called by their first and second names at all times.

I would rather be labelled pouncy rather than the other two (and I think DS1's name could be on the potential poncy list) but frankly it doesn't matter either way. I like my children's names, my DH likes them and our family appear to so what a bunch of strangers think is neither here nor there.

Surely head turning in Sainsbury's is a result of how loud you shout the name?

I saw DD1's name decribed on a MN thread as "uppity." That's a good one too.

Well, quite, MB.

Or even Tarpaulin.

But the child would then probably be called 'Paul' for short - which no-one would argue about.

So for all we know, every Paul lost amongst the dry-cured streaky is called 'Tarpaulin'.

Niecie, to develop your theory further I would propose a 4th category. How about the poncy, chavvy, hippie and common naming system?

I quite like hippy

But why have a 'wacky, gosh arn't we just so alternative and cool' name if you then use an abbreviation which sounds normal.

That just makes people seem 'We think that we might be wacky and cool, so we'll call little tarpaulin Paul, just in case'

Now granted, my two are both known by abbreviated versions of their real names, but the real name is going to sound good be they being called to the Bar as a lawyer or called to the bar to get in their round