Do you go food shopping as a family?

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Have realised that we never do. Either I go with Dd, 6 or Dh will nip to the shops for the odd bits needed or I will do the big shop on some Saturdays whilst Dd stays with Dh.
Is that weird, seems a bit sad

They don't have to justify it. It's perfectly ok.

Eh?
This is a discussion.

There IS a difference, an extra unnecessary hazard.

These days dh does it alone if I go with him. We never went with the kids.

Christ no, no need to make it into a big deal go in buy the shopping get out

This can be said of lots of things, though. Sight impaired people know to take care in supermarkets because there might be children/trolleys/baskets.

People who take the whole family shopping are so irritating. They get in the way. If you can think of nothing better as a family you need to take a long hard look at yourselves.

Why is my trolley an extra unnecessary hazard but yours isn’t?? Your complaints make no sense other than to make it clear you think your existence in public is more valid.

Definitely not. Only if we are away and then they annoy me wanting loads of extras. 3 teens but DH is the worst for this!!!

My husband is doing the shopping while me and the kids are doing the cleaning/tidying. Or the other way round. No one really likes doing any of the chores, which is exactly why we all have to do something. We all do it at the same time as that's most efficient.

I know plenty of families where one shops while the other is at swimming lessons or whatever.

Why are you assuming people who hate shopping aren't just divvying up tasks that no one likes?

Yes. We live rurally so tend to tack on a visit to The Big Supermarket after a day out.

My child is excellently behaved, never underfoot, doesnt pick up random crap or touch the food and doesn't need bribing or performance parenting because we worked bloody hard at setting reasonable boundaries about being a civilised human being from the off.

Smug as i sound, I know she's far less of a problem than the arseholes that hog the middle of the aisle or straddle the entire thing with a trolley mostly in the middle and themselves 6 feet away looking at the other shelf so noone can pass.

I prefer to grocery shop alone for the weekly shop. I also enjoy going with my toddler if we need a handful of items. My husband has said he hates grocery shopping which is fine by me.

We don't shop together. We agreed a long time ago that we both find shopping stressful at the best of times and it makes us snappy at each other.
If travelling or on the way somewhere and we need to pick up literally 2 items we will go in together. But a big shop is a major no .

I am well aware. But still, people do not need to justify something that is not wrong to do.

Both of us go. I can’t push the trolley due to a back injury. If I have to manoeuvre it in any way I tend to hurt myself. I’m also on a diet that DH doesn’t understand very well. If I haven’t substitute a meal because they don’t have what I want it’s easier to be there. We do it on a Friday night though and are in and out as quick as possible.

No. Kids are pretty much grown up now, but we never ever did. Almost always got food shopping delivered. If I wanted to go food shopping eg for a special dinner, it would be on my own! Much better ways to spend family time surely?

I find it interesting though that it is something you feel you are missing. Is it something you did as a child? Something you associate with happy families? Do you feel you don't do enough together as a family more generally?

btw I voted YABU. But I meant you are being (kind of) unreasonable to think it is weird/sad. Not YABU never to go shopping as a family.

Actually. I've just realised we did go food shopping as a family on holiday. Love a trip to a French supermarket. But that's very different as we are all allowed to choose treat holiday food and there's no rush. Still wouldn't want to do it at home .

Same @pinkspeakers - holiday supermarket shopping is a very different thing.

Why are you assuming people who hate shopping aren't just divvying up tasks that no one likes?

I'm not assuming this. I can see lots of people are dividing tasks, but I also see lots of post saying the don't take their husbands because they throw stuff in the trolley etc.

I do the shopping on my own. Mainly because it is always combined with me going to work or gym. My husband also hates doing it, and I don’t.

We get a weekly delivery for the bulk of our food etc. and then will pop in in person for top ups during the week or for supplies if we have guests for the weekend etc.

DH or I will take 5 yr old DD with us for little top up shops (or trips to a farmers market). She enjoys it and I think it's important for children to be involved in the food they eat - choosing it, cooking it etc. Because it's just a top up shop she doesn't get bored and enjoys choosing things. Children shouldn't just think food magically appears in the fridge or on the table in front of them.

Last week we came home with a random butternut squash because she fancied trying it (minimal chance of that if I'd ordered it and it had just appeared in the house)!

However I would not enjoy trying to do a full shop with her, she'd be wanting to buy every other thing and scan it all herself at the checkout. I don't even enjoy doing that on my own, let alone with a half-speed helper!!

As stated, mini trolleys are an extra and unnecessary hazard.

The child's trolley is unnecessary, possibly unexpected and at exactly the height to trip over.

The pp chose to justify it.