Do you go food shopping as a family?

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Have realised that we never do. Either I go with Dd, 6 or Dh will nip to the shops for the odd bits needed or I will do the big shop on some Saturdays whilst Dd stays with Dh.
Is that weird, seems a bit sad

Interesting to see how many useless husbands are left at home cos they're annoying or spend too much etc.
I hope my sons will be more capable.

I get my shop delivered but when my son was first born, I used to go to my mums and drop him there so I can do my shopping in peace. I was a single parent and I looked forward to doing it each week😂. Now, the only time I take him food shopping is if I’m out already and I nip in for a couple of bits - it’s stressful and I cannot focus and want to hurry up and get out there. So I can’t understand parents who do it by choice.

My son’s dad is someone who does it by choice, he only has our son every other weekend. He goes there at 6pm on a Friday and his dad takes him to the shop at that time every single time. He has two weeks to get food shopping childless but he goes the exact hour that he has our child. Plus our child is sen so it’s the last thing you’d want to do - but apparently he does.

Ooh MN hates families in supermarkets! Every thread on it ends up like this.

We mostly shop online but sometimes we'll go in, usually as part of a trip to do something else too, and we go in together. Littlest loves sitting in the trolley and 5yo really enjoys going around the shop.

Can't say I've ever noticed or cared if someone is there with their family or not. Out of control kids are annoying wherever you are, but plenty of kids are able to walk around a supermarket without causing a ruckus. It's the adults stopping in the middle of aisles that's more annoying to me!

My husband isn't useless - he's doing other useful things when I'm getting groceries!

How does me having a child in the trolley and one in a carrier or both in the trolley stop you doing your food shopping?

I don’t want to take it in turns to sit in the car with 2 kids stuck in it because we happen to need to go to a shop.

No doubt you also think kids shouldn’t be in cafes, restaurants etc.

You’ve posted so many times, inserting yourself into so many posts, it’s weirdly obsessive.

Good. I obviously wasn't talking about your husband.
There just seems to a be a lot of women/mothers taking on a job they hate, partly because if their partner does it or joins them the whole process if even worse.

Absolutely not! I don't let DH anywhere near the supermarket as we always end up spending twice as much and he sneaks things we don't need in to the trolley 🤣

I do often take dc, they like pushing the children's trolleys.

I actually really like food shopping and wouldn't want to relinquish control.

Your fellow shoppers and their nerves thank you for not abusing the store for a family excursion.

It would be sad if food shopping as a family were one of your highlights or kids' core memories tbh.

I gave it up during covid and never looked back. Saves so much time and stress it's unreal.

If your kids are younger then fair enough - you didn't mention that to start with. It's the families of 5 wandering aimlessly around which are the real issue, as already stated.

It's perhaps having more than 1 person to discuss every decision with, as opposed to the actual person themselves.

Presumably the shop are happy to have them used since they are literally there for children to use.

My child doesn’t barge around the shop ramming them into people, she walks beside me happily pushing her trolley with all our fruit in it. If someone barges into her because they don’t think she deserves her space to be respected then they are just as much of a hazard and an annoyance as a rowdy child running about. Being older doesn’t exclude people from being rude arseholes sometimes.

Not sure how someone with sight issues is really relevant or my problem, there’s no difference my child walking beside me or walking beside me with a trolley. Unless you think she’s not allowed to walk in the shop at all, I don’t understand what point you’re making?

The shop have them in the hope we'll spend more money.
Even walking nicely they're the perfect height to be annoying. It's nothing to do with 'not respecting her space'. 😬🫣
We should ALL be mindful not to create even more barriers for less able folk.

"Not sure how someone with sight issues is really relevant or my problem"

What a lovely attitude.

Why is it annoying, other than my child’s existence though? All she’s doing is walking beside me happily and carefully pushing her trolley of food?
You being annoyed by something isn’t actually a problem.

I prefer to shop alone. So much faster and efficient.

Sometimes I take one child and that’s absolutely fine.

Taking both is ok, as long as it’s just a quick trip. No way would I take both if DH was available to look after them!

Telling that you cut half of the sentence out.

Not sure how someone with sight issues is really relevant or my problem, there’s no difference my child walking beside me or walking beside me with a trolley.

Again, if you feel the same feel free to point out the reason my child can’t walk beside me in a shop because … someone might have sight issues? How does that change me being in a supermarket? I’ve already stated we aren’t running around ramming trolleys into people so please tell me what part of someone having sight issues means bringing my child to the shop is an issue?

Sometimes. Dc1 loves a Costco trip to try all the samples. I think it's important for them to get involved in meal planning, budgetting and prep from an early age which includes shopping. As we live rurally, it's more a case that we are out as a family doing something else and we do the shopping on the way home as an extension of that rather than we decide that we're all going out purely to buy food.

It's nothing to do with your child's existence, nobody has said she shouldn't exist. The reality is that these tiny trolleys are just another challenge for folk who already face challenges in a shop due to disability/impairment. Imagine walking around with your eyes half closed, as an example - what might suddenly be an extra and unnecessary hazard that you didn't think was while full sighted.

Supermarket shopping is a chore. We make a meal plan and list. One parent shops. The other parent and kids get on with chores at home. Once the jobs are done we can get on with something fun or relaxing.

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I bring DS13 with me. I have a list and stick to it. It’s been good to teach him how to shop, check prices and labels and rummage in the back for better use-by dates. He also helps carry the bags for me.

We’ve got one toddler who’ll happily sit in the trolley and nose about so we very occasionally will go together on a Saturday morning if we’re not busy. But generally one of us goes solo as a little treat for the peace and quiet. But I get what you mean though, we used to take my nan shopping and then stop for a little cup of tea and a chin wag.

There is no difference between her walking beside me and beside me but being the one
to push a trolley though. One doesn’t impact someone else’s mobility any more than the other.

The majority of shops have baskets you can pull along these days. Whats the difference between that and a child pushing a smaller trolley?

You’re just taking issue with a total non issue because you believe kids shouldn’t be in supermarket just because it’s a hassle for you
to bring yours.

I never go with DH unless we are on holiday and more in browsing mode.
When my DC were small I usually had any non school attendee with me, firmly fixed in the trolley or in a carrier. I had a DH with long working hours so shopping was part of my responsibility. I find whole family shopping mystifying.