Abit annoyed at DH

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Need a little rant. I work on a Saturday so DH took Dd into town and bought her new wellies as old ones looking abit worse for wear. He reads her current shoe size which is a 9 upside down and has he trying on size sevens! Then he comes away with new wellies that are a size 9, which I know she’s going to grow out of in afew weeks as she’s been that size for ages and her size 9 trainers are now too tight. Aibu to think this is just a whole new level of uselessness they I don’t havr patience for after a long day. Arghh.

Why are you assuming we have money to burn?

I’d call him a big daftie jokingly and ask him to exchange the size

I'm not, it still doesn't need to be a huge drama.

They're too tight, so send him back to get a bigger pair. No big deal.

Did you miss the part where he was buying wellies and not trainers?

Why can't you send him back for the next size up?

I'm genuinely starting to think that some people like making work for themselves so they have something to complain about.

He bought the wrong size so it's his issue to solve, surely?

Why doesn't he know his daughter foot size?

Why doesn't he know that her size nine trainers are too tight?

Why doesn't he know that her feet are growing fast and she may need extra room for thick socks in wellies?

Why do you expect the OP to carry the mental load?

A decent father should be able to competently sort this out and he hasn't. He didn't even know his own daughter's shoe size.

If you asked mums what size feet their kids have, they know.

If a mum was in a shoe shop trying to jam her kids feet into shoes two sizes too small she would be judged for that. Just like this poster has assumed she should automatically know her kids foot size, so would anyone else. Yet this poster also thinks it's perfectly reasonable that her other male parent doesn't know. Just more misogyny.

OP make sure he sorts this out, does the exchange etc as this sounds like a prime example of weaponised incompetence.

If you know her trainers are too tight why is she still having to cram her feet into the size 9s?

Yes and I have four children. Perfectly capable of buying footwear that fits and commenting about it, thanks.

Correct. The amount of misandry of this forums is horrendous.

But he bought wellies that fit! Plenty of people have different sizes from different shops. Clark’s for example round the EU sizes differently to other stores so they never match.

Buying footwear that fits is competence. Buying footwear that doesn’t is incompetence. He bought footwear that fitted.

Why do you have to sort it it. Let him take them back & exchange for a size 10. I assume he was competent enough to but them in the first place.

Another woman taking on a "chore" that she doesn't need to & then moaning about it.

I was a single parent so did all the shoe buying. I never had any clue what size DD was because I put it out of my mind and just had her feet measured/tried shoes on her when she needed new ones. No mental load and exactly the same result as the OP’s DH got. Isn’t that the simplest way?

Given he started at a 7 and presumably your DD told him they were too tight, why didn’t she say the 9s were too tight too? There was obviously some communication/checking of fit going on.

Dd likes jumping in puddles buy wellies are worsefor wear knackered.
Dad decides to buy new wellies so goes to the shop and looking at the shoe thinks she's a 6 which doesn't fit so tries a 7 which doesn't fit. Doh that 6 is actually 9 lol tries a size 9 which fits.
Dd has new wellies which fit so she can jump in puddles. But the growing out of them in a few weeks is now she's grown out of them within a few hours.

Except the mental load is on op because she didn't ask him to replace the wellies and he used his initiative assuming holey wellies meant she needed new ones. So he should have waited for op to ask him to get new wellies but then the mental load is on her again for having to ask.

So in conclusion he's wrong for going and buying wellies and he'd be wrong if you asked him to go and buy wellies. Poor bloke.

No idea what size shoes my kids are. They wear shoes that fit until they don't, then I buy the bext size up or go and get them measured.
He's asked for a 6, 7 and 9 so the customer service person will have been there and in my experience they check how much space is available for toes.

OP why can't DH sort the exchange? It sounds like you're fed up and overreacting to this!

Exactly. If you buy wellies at this time of year, you want them to last through the winter so you size up in the hope they'll still fit when they're likely to be used over the next few months.

Obviously he's not had sufficient practice at buying footwear for his own child to know this, or know what size feet she has - as illustrated by the fact he didn't know that she didn't have size 6 or 7 feet but size 9, likely to be 10 before peak welly wearing season.

Get him to go and exchange them for a 10.

Abit? Afew? What's with all the made up words around here lately?

I've no idea, but it's probably the husband's fault.

How could it be ANYTHING but?!