Abit annoyed at DH

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Need a little rant. I work on a Saturday so DH took Dd into town and bought her new wellies as old ones looking abit worse for wear. He reads her current shoe size which is a 9 upside down and has he trying on size sevens! Then he comes away with new wellies that are a size 9, which I know she’s going to grow out of in afew weeks as she’s been that size for ages and her size 9 trainers are now too tight. Aibu to think this is just a whole new level of uselessness they I don’t havr patience for after a long day. Arghh.

Honestly this website convinces me more and more every day that there are a certain type of married person who just enjoys the sport of hating their spouse for no particular reason. Weaponised incompetence for -gasp- buying shoes in the correct size? What a bastard.

It's giving "I post ball and chain memes on Facebook and we haven't snogged since 1984".

Did you miss the part where the wellies fit? Another type of shoe from another brand is irrelevant.

This

Some people are just angry about life I guess

I find it very odd that so many posters seem to think that all size 9 shoes fit exactly the same no matter what what style or brand 😂

I also love the fact that they apparently know exactly how these wellies fit a child they've never met or even seen before.

It's almost like MN is some kind of weird alternate universe!

I sympathise. I read this to mean that he has so little to do with buying her shoes normally he didn’t know her size and thought she could actually still be a size 6 and has no idea that her trainers are too small. Perfect example of the mental load

Fuking hell men actually can't do anything right can they. They buy shoes which fit and are slagged off.

Previous poster comparing this to the 'mental load' WTF. He tried the bloody shoes on and got a pair that fit!!!! The mum is hardly burdened with the heavy load of the correct shoe size.

It’s control. Men should do more mental load and random child tasks like new shoe shopping but if he’s not done exactly like the woman would do it then it’s wrong
He must do it exactly as she would do it, but he can’t ask her how she would do it because that would be placing the mental load on her. It’s a test he can’t actually win.

Wellies can be a law unto themselves with sizing anyway. Size 9's in one brand could be bigger than another. Have you actually felt how much of a toe gap their is rather than fixating on the size?

Have you checked them for space, or just assumed they are too tight?

My welly-buying days are over but I'm sure I recall that they used to come up bigger than other footwear and would also be cumbersome and uncomfortable to wear if too big.

I don't think it's relevant to bring up the mental load here. If you're going to convince yourself that you know exactly when a child's feet are going to grow and therefore trying on shoes and getting ones that fit is a substandard way of buying them then you're really bringing that on yourself.

I used to feel the front to see how much room there was and would go by that than what size they were as they all vary. I would be irritated if he got ones that had no room at all for growth but that isn't mentioned here.

Thank you

Has she worn them outside? If not can he take them back and swap for a pair of 10s?

If she'll grow out of 9's within a couple of weeks then why on earth are you sending him for new wellies in the first place? Because the current pair are looking a bit "worse for wear"?.....Jeez, they're bloody WELLIES. Looking worse for wear is the job of wellies, that's what they're for!!

If you're the kind of person who insists on pristine unscratched immaculate wellies then there's no hope your poor DH, he's never going to live up to your expectations.

The bit about size 6 and 7 is a total red herring to the story. He was sent to buy replacement wellies not because the current pair don't fit, but because they are scruffy. He came home with new wellies that fit. Child now has wellies that fit and aren't scruffy. Task complete.

Yes this is my thoughts too. Wellies tend to be bigger fitting. My dd has size 6 feet in shoes but wears size 4 wellies.

But surely the fact that he misread a 6 for a 9 on the bottom of a boot shows that he's a drooling simpleton who is so useless it's a wonder he can remember to breathe? While at the same time being so cruelly calculating that he then deliberately bought boots that aren't quite as big as the OP things they should be, all as part of some dastardly Machiavellian plot to knowingly weaponise incompetence?

He's Schrödinger's dad. Simultaneously unspeakably stupid and malevolently cunning.

I don't know why he's getting a hard time. Unless he was told by you to get a size up his instructions were to go and get a replacement.

Because they had holes in the bottom of them and she likes to jump in puddles.

Also I love how everyone is assuming that I sent him to buy new wellies. Another example of the mental load right there.

Yes, I have tried them on her this morning and they are very tight just as expected. I will return them in the week, it’s just one more thing on my ever growing to do list.

You say he was buying them because the old ones were worse for wear - what would have been the point of buying a larger size that doesn't fit your DD yet? She would end up with terrible blisters having oversized wellies slipping about on her feet.

If you meant, can you buy her a pair in the next size up to wear later this winter, you should have said that.

Of course they are too right this morning when yesterday “She’ll grow out of them in afew weeks.” suggesting they currently fit.

Ok so you didn't tell him to buy a replacement. That's great he's not leaving it to you. He decided to go and buy a replacement and got ones that fit.

I don't see the issue. He's allowed to decide for him self if she needs a size up or not.

She was in bed when I got home last night.

It would be great if it didn’t transpire into just another thing that I’ll need to sort out come tomorrow.

It’s just a pair of welly boots. I’m not exactly getting ready to file for divorce. It was just abit annoying and needed to rant last night after a long day. Thanks.

Why are you automatically assuming the worst?

He bought his daughter wellies that fit her. If they only last a few weeks, well, he can go and get her another pair. There's really no need to make a drama out of this.