Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

‘Has anyone else experienced this?’

85 replies

Greytulips · 31/08/2024 21:47

Why does this sentence give me the rage?

I just want to type - No you are the only person in the history of forever to ever have this experience’

What sentence gives you the rage?

OP posts:
thursdaymurderclub · 31/08/2024 22:33

'what it is is!' it really winds me up!

BaubleDelight · 31/08/2024 22:34

Yes!!! I also hate people who say, "Only my child could(insert whatever child did here)." Yes you are completely right,only your child,in the entire world,could do that thing you posted on Facebook.Amazing.

XChrome · 31/08/2024 22:36

TheClawDecides · 31/08/2024 22:11

When someone explains something piss simple, and they follow it up with "Does that make sense?"

Yes it does, because I'm not 2 years old with the IQ of a Smartie 😡

Sure, but if it's somebody you don't know well, how are they supposed to know that? There are a lot of stupid people out there, so some people are careful so as not to be misunderstood.

TheClawDecides · 31/08/2024 22:38

XChrome · 31/08/2024 22:36

Sure, but if it's somebody you don't know well, how are they supposed to know that? There are a lot of stupid people out there, so some people are careful so as not to be misunderstood.

True, but I'm thinking of the sort of person who says it after almost everything.

I think for some, it's just become a fashionable habit.

ouch321 · 31/08/2024 22:39

Yeah, a few weeks ago there were multiple variations of "Am I the only person who doesn't love the music of Taylor Swift?"

XChrome · 31/08/2024 22:43

TheClawDecides · 31/08/2024 22:38

True, but I'm thinking of the sort of person who says it after almost everything.

I think for some, it's just become a fashionable habit.

It could be a self esteem thing as well. They aren't sure about how articulate they are. But yeah, it can be annoying.

XChrome · 31/08/2024 22:46

I have been known to get murderous over "at the end of the day" and "it's all good." Also using the word literally when they don't actually mean literally. They just use it for emphasis. Drives me batty.

TheClawDecides · 31/08/2024 22:50

XChrome · 31/08/2024 22:46

I have been known to get murderous over "at the end of the day" and "it's all good." Also using the word literally when they don't actually mean literally. They just use it for emphasis. Drives me batty.

And "I turned round and said" 😣😁

1offnamechange · 31/08/2024 22:50

AgileGreenSeal · 31/08/2024 21:56

They mean “can anyone else reading this relate personally to what has happened to me?” 🙄

they are looking for someone with a shared experience to talk to. 🤷🏼‍♀️

it’s not literally “Am I the only person ever on the planet to have had this sort of experience? “ 🤦‍♀️

well, yeah, obviously! I don't think that needed explaining. I don't think OP ACTUALLY thought anyone posting that was really believed there was a possibility they were the only ones this had ever happened to, because the majority of the posts worded thus are so utterly commonplace you'd have to be a complete idiot ("Has anyone been on holiday to France?" "Does anyone not drive?" to actually query if you were the only one

OP was presumably just pointing out that it's a fatuitous way to start a post. Which I agree, because it is (or at least I also find it) very annoying, and presumably if people have gone to the effort of posting about something they want others to reply, rather than eye-roll and scroll by.

MN is very busy with hundreds of posts a day on the busy threads, therefore it's always better to be as specific as possible if you want helpful responses rather than people jumping on to snark, "no, you're the only person to ever own a cat ever" (or similar).

If you want advice on loneliness maybe start a thread called "I'm really struggling with loneliness" or "how can I stop feeling so lonely?" or "need a hand hold - feeling lonely," not "has anyone else ever felt lonely?"

If they want to complain about the COL or want advice on saving money start a post with "Thread to complain about the COL" or "Who else is really struggling with the COL?" rather than "Is anyone struggling with money?"

If you want tips on buying a house in a particular area of London, start a thread saying that, not "Does anyone live in London?"

Yes it's a bit thread-police-y to complain about how people word their OPs but there have been far more minor/pedantic threads.

why bother wording a post in a way that you hope most people will 'know what you mean,' when you can just....actually write exactly what you mean????

Nsky62 · 31/08/2024 23:01

Expected to able and active, at my age, lots complain of elderly, why’s and hows, I’m 62, I feel cheated by my poor health, and envy those that have better.
No other half, or near sons to help, my parents had better health till mid 70s

BabaYetu · 31/08/2024 23:29

bakewellbride · 31/08/2024 22:04

I want a baby name that's a bit unique.

Name x is more unique than name y.

Ffs unique is an absolute term. Something is either unique or it's fucking not!

I'd marry you in a flash, BakewellBride! Because yes, ffs, unique is not something you can be "a bit" of, it's binary on or off situation.

That and "hence why" both wind me up something rotten on here.

It's hence, just HENCE. It means consequently or therefore, it can't be followed by 'why' and still make sense.

deveronvalley · 31/08/2024 23:30

“it changes the dynamic” to explain excluding someone from something

also super- this and that. Super exciting. Super challenging. Super annoying!

TortolaParadise · 31/08/2024 23:30

This is a you problem.
This is very annoying.

moppety · 31/08/2024 23:33

Ooh this is me with the 'Does anyone have this bug right now?' posts. Cue posters from hundreds of miles apart agreeing that they all have the same bug which always has really generic cold and flu symptoms.

Maarva · 31/08/2024 23:54

On Facebook selling pages where something “just needs a wipe”. If it “just needs a wipe” then just get a cloth and wipe it yourself, then put it up for sale/recycling.

Mumofteenandtween · 01/09/2024 01:00

BabaYetu · 31/08/2024 23:29

I'd marry you in a flash, BakewellBride! Because yes, ffs, unique is not something you can be "a bit" of, it's binary on or off situation.

That and "hence why" both wind me up something rotten on here.

It's hence, just HENCE. It means consequently or therefore, it can't be followed by 'why' and still make sense.

Plus none of the names suggested are ever fucking unique. If you want a unique name then, by definition, you need to make it up. Call your kid Zyzyzyzyxpop. That is unique. Kid may not thank you when they are applying for a job as an accounts assistant but it is unique.

What you mean you want is unusual.

And on the subject of unusual - when people ask for suggestions for a girls name that is “really pretty, easy to spell and easy to pronounce but really unusual”.

Do they really think that the average pregnant woman is on the hunt for an ugly name that no one can spell and is constantly pronounced wrongly. There is a reason why Olivia and Emily are popular. They fit practically everyone’s boxes.

squashyhat · 01/09/2024 01:40

'I'm not being funny but...' No. No you certainly are not.

Mozzarellaballs · 01/09/2024 02:07

It never came to my attention before until it was pulled up on here but when there has been a terrible incident like a shooting or terrorist attack and someone posts "does anyone else just feel so sad for these people?" Like no, only you do.

Or abit different but when people post Pray for so n so country, I think people think they have done their bit to make a change. I know it's kind to show you have a country in your thoughts but your token post isn't doing anything maybe make a donation or something or when people post their political views or share horrible vids of war etc and they have a couple of hundred friends on facebook, I'm not trying to sound ignorant and I know it is to spread awareness but shouting to your 349 fb friends is not gonna do anything really it just makes the person posting make them feel like they've done something but I'm not actually sure if I fully agree with myself there 😅 happy to be corrected.

Downunderduchess · 01/09/2024 02:35

It’s the same for me with the “I was today years old” people. Just say you learnt something new if you must. Or when someone says “unpopular opinion but” and then goes on to say something non-controversial that is not at all unpopular.

FozzieWozzieWasABear · 01/09/2024 02:44

BabaYetu · 31/08/2024 23:29

I'd marry you in a flash, BakewellBride! Because yes, ffs, unique is not something you can be "a bit" of, it's binary on or off situation.

That and "hence why" both wind me up something rotten on here.

It's hence, just HENCE. It means consequently or therefore, it can't be followed by 'why' and still make sense.

Revert back to…..no, just revert. Drives me potty!

Delphiniumandlupins · 01/09/2024 03:44

I find the phrase "gives me the rage" very vexatious. It makes me angry but it doesn't give me anything.

Edingril · 01/09/2024 04:51

I can't get over the fact my husband leaves the milk out of the fridge

'You need to grey rock that gaslighting arsehole and get all the money you can so he doesn't spend it on his new girlfriend'

Or some other dramatic scenario

ichundich · 01/09/2024 05:46

'Help me understand what just happened.'

Nagatha · 01/09/2024 06:40

Give your head a wobble
I couldn’t get worked up about that
The ick
House admin
Youre in the trenches (with toddlers)
Find your tribe
Reader, I…..

Nagatha · 01/09/2024 06:42

Greytulips · 31/08/2024 22:02

Loving all the explanations ladies, I know what it means!!

It’s cringe worthy.

I love all these explanations as if you’d totally misunderstood the phrase.