To go on a girls holiday in a relationship

[ughmen]

Is it wrong in a relationship?

My boyfriend is driving me mad!

No, plenty of people do it.

Absolutely not wrong. Your bf sounds controlling

Of course not. If you get married or have kids, are you never going to go away with friends again?

Go and enjoy!

Guarantee he'll want a stag or football weekend away at some point.

Of course it's OK. Go ahead and if he objects take it as a massive red flag.

Just go.
If you want to have hollidays with girls and he does not want you to have them, two of you are really not that compatible.

What's your boyfriend saying?

Of course it's ok . Your boyfriend sounds very controlling.

To quote my 17 year old to her boyfriend. “I am with you because I want to be, not because I need to be. Your job to to make me want to be with you”. I am so proud of her like you wouldn’t believe.

@ughmen Since when do you stop being your own person with your own life and your own agency just because you have a man in your life? Please learn from my teenager. The man in your life is supposed to enhance your life, not denigrate you.

With very little context given it’s a bit hard to know if there’s more to it. Like, can you only afford one holiday this year and you’ve chosen to go with your friends rather than on holiday with your boyfriend and that’s why he’s mad?
Or is he just saying you can’t go on a girls holiday if you’re in a relationship. In which case that’s a massive 🚩 and can 100% go away with your friends of course.

No kids - completely fine and would not countenance any bollocks.

Kids - would expect to go but have a discussion about it.

Of course it’s not wrong.
Your bf is not your boss.

You don't actually think that people in relationships can't go on holiday without your partner do you?

Where did you get that idea from?

Er? What?

I’m going on 2 girls weekends in Sept and my DH reaction was that’s great, you deserve it

The fact you're asking shows he's done a number on you. Of course it's fine to go on holiday with your mates.

Yas! Go your daughter. More like this and it'll make an impact in the end.

It's fine if both of you are fine with it.

If one of you isn't then that is a compatibility issue.

It's not a reason for you not to go away. It's a reason for you to say this is not a relationship that works for me.

People in relationships can still maintain individuality. Be wary of anyone who insists you are joined to them at all times.

Why are you even asking this, OP? The fact that you are shows you are already far too subservient in your attitude, whether that has come from him wearing you down, or from upbringing. You are your own person - free, independent, makes her own choices. Revel in it - don't give it away. Why would you? Enjoy life. No one should be telling you what you can and cannot do. 🌺

Run for the hills! I wouldn’t stand for this nonsense and regularly go way without DH or DC. I think it is completely normal to need your own space sometimes.

Sounds like you need to get a new boyfriend! What a twat 🙄

Of course it's not wrong,are you mad?? Is he??

He sounds controlling and jealous already with little to no information.

Do not live like this. Go where you want and do what you want. If he doesn't trust you, there is no need to be with him.

Jesus wept no.

I wish I could go back to younger me and give myself a shake every time I put a boyfriend ahead of my best friends.

Is your boyfriend controlling about other things too?